Why get mad if told the " home" is your job?

Question

A man can go to work every day, that's his "job".
Why is it that a stay at home Mom gets all bent out of shape if someone thinks it's her "job" to take care of the house?

Taking care of a house and kids IS a "job". While I was a stay at home Mom it was mine. When I went back to work outside the home it was a "job" that was split between us.

Any woman able to stay at home with their children is very fortunate.
So why resent the fact that the household is their "job"?

Answer 1

Simple. It's NOT my job. I believe in freedom of choice for everyone.

Please don't get me wrong - I think bringing up kids is the most valuable job ANY person (male or female) can do, and it must be incredibly hard. I would never criticise anyone for that, I have the utmost respect for them. I am not a mother myself.

However... I'll pick my own 'job'; I don't need dictating to by anyone else because it is none of their business whatsoever. Just as it is none of my business how any other woman chooses to define her 'job'. Personally, I'd absolutely detest being at home - but that's me.

How about some tolerance for individual differences?

Answer 2

Because, the man married a woman to be his wife not a housekeeper, or a housewife or a slave who is tied down to house maintenance.


But you're right in your perceptive. i envy a lot of women who are able to stay at home and spend a lot of quality time with their kids. I have to work my whole life. esp when i became a single parent when my first husband died. My kids were only 8 and 3. These women should be on their knees thanking God and their husbands- the main wage earners.


Being a full time mother and housekeeper is hard. It's an ungrateful job which a lot of people take forgranted. It becomes too routine with preparing of meals, cooking, making beds, cleaning the house esp the toilets and dishwashing. and laundry.



A handful of stay-home moms complain of boredom and inability to fulfll themselves .When in fact, their self fullfillment should be visible with the proper upbringing of the children. Most of them leave their husbands on the pretext that they want to find themselves.

Answer 3

I'm all for stay at home moms (or dads - shock, horror) - good for them! But it isn't up to you, or me, or anyone else, to say what a woman sees as her job. That's down to her. Not everyone thinks like you, it does not make them wrong. Or would you rather live in the dark ages????

Answer 4

I'm a stay at home mom, and I agree with you. I cook, clean, and take care of the kids.
My husband is not expected to do a thing around around home~
And he doesn't ask me to go earn the money~

Answer 5

Ummm, because i`m not the only one living here.
It is not my job to cater to people or to be a waitress. There are some things, the other person can do. I`m NOT on call 24/7.

Answer 6

I take pride in knowing my job is to take care of the kids and the home. I keep my home neat and tidy (most of the time) and I cook very good meals for my family. I actually feel that if (God forbid) anything ever happened to me, my family would sink without my structure.

Answer 7

I agree. I get bent Out of Shape when people think I don't have a job, when I'm raising my child.

Answer 8

I don't why some woman complain about working at home doing housework and taking care of their families to me that is the most important job of all. my mother stay home till I was old enough to go to school and I am glad she did.

Answer 9

who resents it? I don't think anyone resents it, but raising children is not a 'job' it's an honor to be shared by both parties .....the housework I can see but the raising of the kids is a different story altogether my friend....

Answer 10

I believe in Husband & Wife, Husband works, Wife takes care of kid and house and runs about doing her own thing. That is unless her job is paying for child care while her and/or I work.

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