how can we stop school shootings?

Question

i am a loner and people bullied me before. I know what it feels like to be left out and teased. I also dont have any friends. I watched too much news about the virgina tech massacre and i feel all weird now. what should i do? i have an airsoft gun and i wont bring it to a public school... i like to scare people but not hurt them. i just want attention from other teens like me. but i dunno what to do. i am very desperate on getting help. any suggestions for me?

Answer 1

Start by forgiving all those who hurt, used or abused you. This will not be easy. You must find some way to have sympathy for those people such as they were abused and act out, they are angry and can only feel secure by abusing others or just that they will never know peace.

Then, start on your own quest for the fruit of the spirit, love, joy, peace, patience, goodness, gentleness, meekness, temperance and faith.

Those who crossed the line and became killers all had the anger, rage and resentment in common. They felt they had been unfairly treated and that they did not deserve such treatment. That type of thinking is very destructive. It is only through forgiving others that a person can overcome the bad feelings.

You can get friends by being fun to be around. Learn to laugh. Dont criticize, condemn or complain.

Answer 2

Know that you are not alone. Maybe you should seek help from a psychiatrist just so you have someone to talk to. They can really be helpful to you. There are probably also groups that you can join with people your age so you can meet and make new friends. There will be rough patches in life and then there will be moments that come along that make all those rough patches worth it (personal experience). School can be a cruel place but what I have learned that sometimes kids jealousy makes them mean and bully other classmates. Going to school is just a small part of your life (although it seems like more than that). You have much more life to live outside of elementary, middle, and high school. You will go onto college and things will be different. You will be able to meet new people and the past will be the past. I experienced bulling before and I let it take over my life and I'm very sorry I did. I used to come home from school and just lay around and sleep because I was so depressed over it. Many days I didn't want to go to school. But I tell you there is light at end of every tunnel. I went onto college and I realized there is so much more to life than worrying about some foolish kids with a childish mentality. There is so much more to life. People have experienced much worse things in life. There are people who live in families that can not afford to clothe or feed them. There are people who are diagnosed with illnesses that prevent them from living their lives. So next time walk around with a smile on your face because you are lucky that you get to wake up every morning. Things will get better for you. You will grow as a person from this experience. Good luck to you and get the help that you need. Don't let someones words get the best of you because you are stronger then that. Read the book "Oh The Places You'll Go" that always gives me inspiration when I am down.

Answer 3

I kinda understand where you're coming from. If I were you I would try finding an airsoft group in your area, if you enjoy airsoft, that is. I've met almost all my friends through networking on an airsoft team that I run. It's a great way to get out some frustration and have fun while doing it (saftey first, of course). You can meet some really great people that way as well. Check it out you might just find what you're looking for there. Check out sacairsoft.com for some airsoft info and if you want some help with finding a group somewhere or airsoft info, PM me on the site under the name of sabrepilot9000. Hope this helps man.

Answer 4

The bad guys prefer unarmed victims!!.
When seconds matter calling 911 and asking the bad guy to wait is not a viable option.

Better to have a gun and not need it than to need it and not have it!!!
**Police do not protect you from crime, they usually just investigate the crime after it happens.**

So you are against the private ownerships of gun! Do you believe in fire extinguishers? Why, you can always call the fire department!!


No Weapons Allowed
Criminals this is a defense free zone
All law abiding people have been disarmed for you

Answer 5

This is very important, you need to talk to someone, who will get you help and support you need. Get attention for doing good, kind things, that's the only way to make true friends. Never consider using a gun or any weapong to hurt anyone. Please think about all the horrible things humans have endured at each other's hands, you don not want to be one of the people who cause pain. Maybe you should get involved in a charity or club and meet new people and give back to others.

Answer 6

As a whole, shootings everywhere will probably never stop until the loner's get the message that this is not the way to take out your frustrations. I know it bites but that is the true gist of the matter.

I was a loner in school. I preferred to read through my gyn class than to participate (my mom wondered why I got a F in gymn). I was the girl most picked on.

My mom made me wear dress's that were down to the middle of my knee while everyone and I mean everyone was wearing mini skirts. I grew up in the hippie daze. I had long hair that my mom kept permed, so it had curls - while the cut was long and straight.

I neither excelled or flunked out of school. I just plain absoultly hated it. My boyfriend (whom my mom hated) was part of the "in crowd" and when he lost the bet about bedding me - he couldn't - he dumped me for one that would. I was crushed and humulated.

Once a girl called me out for a fight and knowing I was about to taste cement I went, I was plain scared. I remember it like it was yesterday and not 43 years ago. The kids stood in a circle and the girl and I faced each other.

She said she would give me the first punch and after a single moment of silence I told her that this was her gig and I the invited guest. If she wanted to punch me it was on her. She took a step backward and raised her first and brought it to inches of my nose and I didn't flinch. She dropped her arm and looked at me from side to side, like she didn't know what was standing in front of her. I said, "Is that all you got?" She took a step back and announced that she was going to make my brains run on the sidewalk. I corrected her English. Inside, I was pure jello. She cussed me up one side and down the other and I stifled a yawn. Finally, I looked at my watch and knew the beating I would get from my mom was far worse than anything she could give me if I missed the bus. I looked her in the eye and told her to "shutup." She was flapergassed. I turned and walked away from her to the bus stop just as the bus was pulling up. She was yelling what she was going to do and how dare I walk away. I paid my money for the transit and collasped onto the seat. I didn't look to where she and her group were standing.

I learned the next day that if I had swung on her that the group would have all jumped in and kicked my .......... I didn't get any new founded respect out of them and the teasing didn't stop, but I learned something about me.

I learned I could be a loner with only a couple of friends and survive. The in crowd wasn't all it was cracked up to be. It was okay to be left out, when one person was the only one that did all the thinking and talking for a group and the rest were more sheep than anything else.

Forget the gun, pick your battles. The word is mighter when one thinks and those that command it really have what is going on. Much more than a whole slew of the "in crowd" idiots. Why bother hurting them when they are hurting themselves on a daily basics at their hands. They think they have all the clues and yet they have none of the answers.

I have been a loner all of my life. Even today there is not a rush of people filling up my house giving me no privacy. I have friends who are popular and whose kids don't ever want to leave home. When I need a people rush I go there, but most of the time I like being alone.

Just because you are alone, doesn't mean you life has ended. I was in the military for 26 years. Twenty years reservest or National Guard and 6 years active duty. I've been to Germany, Korea, Saudi Arabia, Iraqi and Kuwait. I drove a truck in all those countries and was one of the first to do so and many times without a co - driver. I was proud to serve and do my duty in Desert Storm, etc. from Septemeber 27th 1990 to June 4th 1991. I wouldn't change any of those memories for any of the "in crowds" ways.

I married, had 2 children and 5 grandchildren. I explored life and that is what it is all about. LIFE - the true loner is free to do what ever they want. The in crowd must always be asking someone else what they want to do, how to do it and when to do it.

I choose freedom!

Answer 7

We can be good families. I think that even though children spend 7 hours of their day at school, a lot of the family comes into play. Educations and school assemblies aren't going to cut it. Families need to be families.

There are lots of people out there with hard times. Not necessarily physical abuse or anything, but kids just feeling afraid, kid's being ridicules, and kids feeling unloved. But most of all, kids who feel like they're someone they don't want to be.

You need to take it easy. You're going to get into trouble if you do what you're contemplating, and the scares won't even be worth it.

Answer 8

Banning guns would go a long way to reduce gun crime but wont solve all of the problems. It would be difficult but well worth it to get rid of guns. A lot of people say: "well it's our right to have guns" and "we need guns to protect ourselves" and "what if we need to have a revolution and overthrow the government" but those are lame excuses. Guns are dangerous. There are many people who can use guns responsibly for sport and fun but there are enough people who don't use guns responsibly that it would be worth getting rid of them altogether to reduce crime. If people can buy guns there will always be a portion of people who will buy them to harm others and also guns can be stolen and get into the wrong hands.

On another note your question doesn't seem to be just asking how to prevent school shootings, but about how you've considered trying it yourself and how to avoid doing it. Well, that's simple, just don't do it if you're seriously considering it. That isn't the best way to get attention. That's not going to get you the sort of attention you want anyway and it wont make people stop picking on you either.

People get teased and it's cruel and it hurts to be teased. It's not fair that anyone should be tormented by other students or people in their life but it does happen. What you have to realize is that the sort of people who hurt your feelings are just a bunch of jerks and aren't even worth your time or consideration.

Having an air-soft gun doesn't make you a bad person, they're fun toys but only toys. Today, it's not a wise idea to try to scare people with air-soft guns because it can cause a lot of trouble too. If you think you need to talk to somebody about how you feel or about how you're being picked on try talking to your parents or a teacher at school. That's the best advice I can give you.

By the way, getting involved with god and a church wont necessarily solve your problems. Christians can be violent too and a lot of times churches can make people feel more guilty and worse about themselves if they're labeled as sinners or told that they have impure thoughts. If you're already involved in a church or you really think getting involved in a religion would make you feel better then try it. Otherwise, if you're not already involved and don't think that joining a church or practicing a religion will help you don't feel pressured into doing it just because some people say to do it. There are many people that think that religion will cure all of the pain in their lives and fix all of their problems. That isn't true. It can make you feel better for a while but eventually you have to face your issues instead of running from them or pushing them aside.

Answer 9

Don`t buy a real gun , stick to your air soft toy gun.Stop feeling sorry for your self and get involved more in clubs/education/church.
There are a lot of people that live in 3rd world countries that would love to have the same opportunities that you have.

Answer 10

Feeling sorry for yourself will only bring more pain. If you fight fire with fire, you're only going to end up with a very big fire that will be impossible to burn out. So don't just keep looking for revenge. If you need help, talk to your teachers or guidance counselors. Prayer is also very important. God knows what you're going through, but he just needs to hear it from you that you need help. If you're good at art or something, maybe you could try to find others who share that interest. You've got to be you're own best friend, it will help you feel so much better and it'll be easier to accept others.