I'm Straight Edge, Is it okay for me to hangout with people who..?

Question

are drinking, smoking or doing drugs.
I mean its not like I'm partaking in the stuff.

like this 420 I went to the cemetery with some family members who smoked so weed, and I just walked around looking at graves, they all know and respect my beliefs, as do my friends at school

Answer 1

yes. Just let it be known but don't make it a grand thing that you aren't into that stuff. But don't annoy them by telling them what they are doing is wrong if you don't believe in it. But yeah, you can hang out with them. Just don't give into peer pressure if it comes about and then complain about it, ya know?

Answer 2

You have to ask yourself:
1. What attracts me to these guys
2. Do you want to lose your rep?
3. What are the costs of hanging out with such a group?
So, basically, you have to weigh the benefits and the costs.
The benefits might include:
For now, some find you more desirable to hang with,
maybe you don't get teased as much for being straight edged,
you feel better when you fit in,
you might gain some empathy for the struggles of others:
.... ...
The costs might be:
your rep with suffer with other straight edged people, employers, teachers, profs, etc,
You may waffle in your own values and begin to dibble and dabble in such behavior,
just by association you can be arrested, and get into things that you did not want.
Once I knew a guy who did not do drugs, but hung out with many who did. When police came, a "friend" dropped the drugs in his pocket because the "friend" had been arrested twice for possession. This straight edge had not, so the "friend" rationalized that it was only his first time being arrested and the police/courts would go easier on the straight edge as opposed to the "friend."
(true story)
By your example: you might draw other straight edge people into things they can't handle.
Well, it is a good idea, if you are going to hang out with them to set your limits.
You might hang with them, but not when they are drinking or using.
Set your boundaries before hand, so you don't get surprised with different situations.
Overtime your bond with these friends might become stronger than your convictions.
That is why people say,
"bad company corrupts good character."
But, I understand that this life style seems awfully fun and adventurous and maybe it gives you a chance to let your hair down a bit and be around people who don't expect much of you.
Examine your past, present and future.
Know yourself,
know your options,
know the situation,
Be careful and be wise.

Answer 3

It all depends, if they are putting your life in danger no, but if you are at a party and someone happens to be drinking around you, it should be o.k. as long as you feel safe and comfortable. Drugs? I would have to say no to that, because different drugs cause different reactions in people. I know a guy who used to date my sister and one night while on some heavy drugs a guy laughed at him and he shot him point blank, shot the guys friend and almost shot his cousin because he had blanked out. One of the guys died the other was in critical condition but lived. Needless to say the guy is in prison for a long time, even longer after he threatened the judge.

Answer 4

If they're underage and get arrested, you'll probably be arrested as well, and you'll have that on your record, even if you weren't drinking or smoking.

If they're over 21 and doing drugs and get arrested, the same thing can happen. But a drug arrest will affect your chances of getting a job. Even if the record shows that you were cleared of all charges, when you explain to the interviewer that you were hanging out with people who were doing drugs, it will color his impression of you. goodbye, job.

Are these sort of friends worth that risk? You decide...

Answer 5

You ARE Know By The Company YOU Keep.

Answer 6

It's not ok. Better get off this situation or you will end up doing the same.