can u truly love someone?

Question

if u are not really physically attracted to them????

what if u love everything else about them....

Answer 1

oh well this prolly isnt good

Answer 2

Yes I think you can truly love someone withOUT being physically attracted to them... but I do NOT think that you can have a "relationship" with them! You DO have to be physically attracted to someone (obviously) to take the relationship to the "next level!" However, even if you arent physically attracted AT FIRST, it may come later! As you get to know the person better and you get to love thier personality as well... sometimes you start to become physically attracted too! Its NOT all about looks, its about the character and the personality of a person. If its TRUE AND PHYSICAL love then the rest will come eventually. If not.. then perhaps you have found yourself a great PLATONIC friend!!

Answer 3

I think you can truly love someone without being attracted to them physically. My first examples would be that I lve my brother and my granny. All jokes aside though, I am actually of hat opinion. Everyone should know that physical ideals have continuously changed throughout history. If you like all of someones other characteristics you may consider the person as next to ideal. You go by day in day out looking at the person staring into their eyes and hearing their soul and think that this person is next toperfect. After a while that 'next to' becomes irrelavent. Remember that no one is perfect. So soon the most perfect person in the world for you is that person. When you think of perfect... of ideal you picture them in your mind. And pretty soon what you picture f them(i.e. their physical attributes) become ideal. You don't want to only have sex with them. Frankly in my opinion when someone is attractive yo focus more on their physical and are actually less likely to love them on a whole which is mostly loving them for who they are.

Answer 4

You can love them. You may not be "in love" with them. There has to be a certain physical chemistry to have a romantic relationship. There have been men in my life that I loved as friends, whom I wasn't attracted to physically & couldn't imagine being intimate with, but I loved them as people. You can fall in love with someone from the inside out. Sometimes you love the personality on the inside so much that they start to appear more attractive on the outside. The opposite happens as well. You could meet someone who is gorgeous on the outside but very ugly inside (arrogant, cruel, cold, unfeeling, dishonest etc) and it starts to make them less attractive on the surface.

Real love happens between souls, not surfaces. It should be something deeper. But the reality is that if you're having an intimate relationship you won't be able to have sex with them if you find them repulsive.

Sadly, you can't make yourself fall in love with someone. The chemistry is either there or it isn't...

Answer 5

I couldn't ever be physically attracted to my own mother. Yet, it's possible for me to love her. That's why I know you can love someone without being physically attracted to them - just not as a sex partner. (If you can love your mother, you can love anyone)
Of course good sex is important in a relationship (if you feel that you need to have sex that is ;)) and the best sex is between two people who love each-other, trust each-other and who love what they see and feel. But that love isn't the only love that exists!

Answer 6

Yes there still true love exists in this world, but if you`re not related with the person by blood, the end move leads you to physical attraction...that`s for sure.

Answer 7

do you love yourself? truly? if not then you'll never be able to know how to truly love another. looks fade. but things like honesty, integrity, compassion, etc..are traits that last. does this person lift your spirits when you're down? do they encourage you to be the very best you can be? do they do the little things that show they care? do they have your back no matter what? that's a rare commodity and if you have someone in your life like that then I'd say you were pretty lucky to have'em.

Answer 8

Plato would say yes and I agree with him.

Sex is just another way people show they love each other. One among many. If you aren't wired that way, and he (or she) isn't either, you've found yourself some deep, platonic love.

In fact, I think it really tests and ultimately strengthens a relationship, even one with a physical dimension. Love and lust are seperate. One certainly complements the other (and both are needed in a healthy relationship) but lust should never overpower love.

Answer 9

No - you have to be physically attracted to them - and also, have to love being with them.

Answer 10

ryeah . you will think i am crazy but i fell in love with a man once . we talked one the phone before we ever met maybe a month or two. i loved him very much. he is the first person i said i love you too. and so far the only. when i met him i thought he was attractive because i loved him. if i had met him before maybe not. so think i am crazy what you will you would not be the only one but this is out 2nd year anniversary

Answer 11

you cant love someone that you cant bare to look at. there has to be some attraction there. im not shallow but if someone isnt clean or takes care of themselves then i dont see how you can be attracted to them unless you are the same.