bed sweats,how do i control/stop them?

Question

i wake in the night my worries come into my mind,and i become like an open tap,iam also aware of my breathing (rapid) i have only once trapped my thoughts.
my mother is a real worrier,i have always resented her because i feel she infected me with her worries and anxiety when i was a child,i dont want 2 live like this any more. Ihave always suffered from low self esteem, poor confidence, do i need 2 discipline my mind,or is it down 2 genes.GOD i hope not..

Answer 1

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Answer 2

First of all you need to get professional help. Don't blame your Mum it really is not her fault, it's a lot to do with the pressure of the society we live in. I had a nervous breakdown some five years ago, the Doctor gave me medication which i stopped after a while as I felt constantly tired, but I have learned to cope. I used to have the heart palpitations, and burst into tears for no reason. Tears seem to be acceptable from young children but as a 60 year old man all I got was ridicule. The one thing that helped me more than anything was when I met other people with similar problems, I have no doubt you feel alone and helpless. Believe me there are plenty more like you. Please see your doctor soon and ask for help, counselling is preferable to drugs in my opinion, drugs just hide the problem where counselling can get to the root of it. Above all try to find someone you can talk to about it a problem shared is an old adage but it's true. Good luck and get well soon.

Answer 3

Your mother sounds like she has passed her worrying tendancies onto you unfortunately. when you wake up in the middle of the night - everything seems more frightening and worries are heightened. You can discipline your own mind definitely. When you feel your thinking going the wrong way, think of something positive straight away. I would think that you are anxious because you have low self esteem and lack confidence. Get out there and meet new people - being with others, sharing ideas and conversation can be very uplifting. Make sure your bedroom is clean and tidy and open the windows for air - that way, you may sleep through without waking.

Answer 4

Your situation sounds just like mine. The only difference is my late night worries are usually coupled with cluster headache (a terrible, terrible stress headache). Trust me, these recurring thoughts are not your fault, and the road to stopping them may be long and difficult. This is because it is largely a physiological problem, combined with stress from your life. Even if the stress disppears, your mind may amplify other worries.

As a quick remedy, what I do is, no matter how tired I am, I get up and go for a walk. Fresh air does a lot for the brain. Take deep breaths and try to think about something pleasant. I usually think of women, and it usually helps.

If you don't want to go to a psychologist or have and he or she did not help you, you need to relax yourself somehow. This would probably require some long term personality changes, which are slow to occur. A long vacation may help, but when you return, you may begin to feel worries again. My suggestion: for at least a half hour each day, think about your worries and write them down. Confront the problems head on while you are awake. Think of alternatives and solutions actively. Write them down and try to talk with a good friend about them. DO NOT do this in your bedroom. In fact, do not do anything long in your bedroom unless it is sleep or sex. This way, when you go to sleep in your bedroom, you will have learned that it is time for sleep, not worrying. You would have already thought about your problems. If you get used to it, you may not need the help of medication (which is probably what a professional would do to help).

Answer 5

You could try acupuncture. It can reach the parts that the pharmaceuticals can't if you have a good practitioner that knows their 5-element theory properly. And it can definitly help with night sweats and wking during sleep. It has me. For the rest most of it is down to willpower though. Resentment is not a positive emotion. Try to work your way through that maybe. Forgiving doesn't neccesarily mean you have to forget.

Answer 6

Yes, for a girl to stop at any time is possible. We just think it and it happens. We don't have blood rushing out of our heads to our other "head," that's just you guys. We're able to be in the moment, and be totally in control still. Edit: To add - when our nipples get kissed it sends shockwaves to the uterus and vagina. When babies feed, the sucking of the nipples causes the uterus muscles to contract. That's why women are told to breast feed to contract back the uterus after is has expanded all throughout the pregnancy. We feel the "excitement" down there. When your girl's nipples are being fondled with, it's to get her in the mood. There's nothing else THAT does. Your girl was heading on a road that is very dangerous. If you want to believe nothing happened, that's you giving her the benefit of the doubt. Which is fine - but it's weird she'll let herself get that close to sex with another man... That's my most educated female opinion.

Answer 7

yes train your mind lighten up and look at the lovely world around you and stop worrying about invented worries i would guess and don't resent your Ma you only ever have one and perhaps you could do with less cover on your bed and try hard to get a solid sleep you will find yourself looking at things in a different light Good Luck

Answer 8

There are things in yur reactive mind which causes this.
It is described in the book including exercises to handle this.

Answer 9

Go to the MIND website. They have a leaflet you can download with exercises to to help you stop worrying. The leaflet is called 'How to stop worrying'

Answer 10

You have low esteem/depressio which is a very mild depression,your doctor can cure this in a year or less.