Husband & I are close to divorce. He knows I'm houseshopping. He's been making an effort to change and is now helping with chores and the kids. Even spending time with family now. But still acts like a teen at times. I don't think he understands the difference between sex and love. He was always a sex addict (porno mags and internet) but I thought that was done with. Yesterday I was looking for an old shirt for mudbogging and found a mag and 2 dvds. But his fettish is not beautiful models, they are 40DDD in nasty skank sex positions. So I can't let go in my head this fettish. I have tolerated a lot with this topic through the last 10 yrs. But he refuses to grow up and I have. I finally declared "enough," when he would say, "I know you've been running all day with kids and work but will you have time for me tonite? It'll only take a few min. all you have to do is lay there." I don't think the new mags help his case any with me staying in the marriage. Ladies,how'd you feel about this?
2007-04-22 10:38:22 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For one thing he is being disrespectful by saying will you just lay there for a few minutes it won't take long. He should be acting like an adult in the marriage instead of a teen. Now, looking at porn isn't a reason to divorce, but in your case it seems he has not grown up to be the husband need to be in a marriage. He was a teen once, but once he married he knew he had to grow up and not act childest. The porn or festish would not make me leave him, but if he can't be the husband I need would.
2007-04-23 15:15:13 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband knows nothing of sexual or emotional intimacy. People don't change, especially when it comes to addictions and when they are unwilling to do anything about it.
I think it's good that you are looking for a place to live.
2007-04-25 14:05:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋