do you think people are naturally polygamous?

Question

Well, most of us are in love with one person. However, we all can be sexually attracted to more than one person. Very few of us cheat, but it all depends what you call cheating. Fantasizing about someone other than your partner can be called cheating too. So, do you think it is unnatural for people to stay with one partner for entire life, and we are pushed to do so by religion and society?

Answer 1

I suppose that depends on what naturally means. While it's certainly true that no person can NOT feel sexual attraction to different people, it just isn't "unnatural" to not act on that attraction. Humans haven't been "natural" since we evolved enough to become self aware. And certainly any organized society more complex than a female human feeding her young is strictly speaking, "unnatural". There are MANY,MANY things that are "unnatural" for animals, but aren't unnatural for thinking, civilized people. Is it unnatural for a hungry person to NOT kill and eat weaker humans? Is it unnatural to care for elderly humans? Do humans that refrain from killing another human because they have something we want, behave unnaturally? Being concerned about our adult children is unnatural? All human society is unnatural- meaning it isn't imprinted in our brains Ant colonies function by instinct. Birds migrate by instinct. Humans building cities and homes isn't natural, it's learned behavior. So, not blindly breeding is just as "natural" as many other things we do. Humans ARE different than other animals. It's natural that we don't act like other animals. By the way, why would you consider human love "natural"?

Answer 2

Oh yes;I've thought so for years but I think I stand with very few others.I've been around the block a few times. Was married25 years,divorced now. During that married period I cheated twice.,my wife 2,3 times, and we weren't giving each other permission,either so that's cheating.
I believe millions and millions of people cheat in this country and millions more are thinking about it millions more wish they had the guts to try it.I don't believe humans were meant to have only one partner,it's not their nature
Yes, religion and society are the culprits.Why? Maybe it is a way to keep some sort of order.
I also think this country is the most hypocritical country when it comes to this topic.Yup, put the kids in the minivan go to your place of worship. Maybe Susan,Tom will be there and we'll make arrangements to meet on tues.at our spot.
And ya know what? Maybe they should.

Answer 3

yes we need to be pushed or we will end up in a mess, most of us know are parents but it is getting harder as more people have polygamous lifestyles. A good society works well on monogamy it has been around for thousands of years why change it because we have 'urges'
Yes we are naturally polygamous in fact the son is sexually attracted to his mother more than any other female - but society teaches them not to have sex. This is got to be good.

Answer 4

No, I don't think it is unnatural for people to be with one person at a time... but maybe a total of different people in a lifetime. the term polygamous suggests you are talking about multiple partners-- so if this is so, i think humans are naturally monogomous... meaning that we tend to be in love with one person at a time-- not all at the same time. however, with our expanding technological world, our view of love is changing. we tend to get bored quicker and are not in marriage for the same reasons we were 20 years ago... women get more chances to meet new people, and the internet has certainly opened new doors. Yet religion and society are still stuck in the view of love and marriage as it was decades and even centuries ago. it take a long time for them to change...

Answer 5

I don't think that religion and sexual preference are that close to the same thing.I think that polygamy is more of a preference with a religious backbone. I don' t know if it would be fair to say that those people don't have sincere love for each other. I have always wondered if the relationships between the women are purely as sister wives and not as lovers as well. If not then they must love their husbands more than i would be able to. I don't think i would like having to be penciled in for a night with my husband. but just because i don't understand it does not mean it's wrong. I just think that marriage is one man one woman for life!! plus if the women have sexual relations with each other then that blows the religion thing right out of the water right? As far as being naturally polygamists i think that people are naturally attracted to other people. But love is supposed ot be more than just physical attraction. When you love someone, in marriage anyway... you are supposed to commit to them completely which in my opinion leaves no room for anyone else.

Answer 6

I agree that religion and society pressure us to be monogamous, but that is the way we should be.

As for your question, I don't think we are naturally polygamous. I think everyone is different and it depends soley on how you see relationships growing up. When I was going through a partying stage, I tried to do the juggle a few guys at one time, but it just wasn't for me. My heart wanted to attach itself to someone. Other people I have known couldn't love just one person if their life depended on it.

As for the definition of cheating, physical for sure. Eye candy, yes and no. There is a difference in saying she is hot, or I want her. My husband thinks certain women are attractive, but that doesn't mean he wants to be physical with them. I think if you are physical or want to be, that is cheating.

Answer 7

Humans are by nature polygamous. It stems from the biological drive to spread the DNA around and improve the gene pool. In more recent times, society and most religions have pushed the "one spouse" rule.

Answer 8

It is not unnatural for people to stay with one partner for their entire life. In the bible, God created one man and one woman for each other. Cheating and fantasizing are all from sin and are human-based emotions.

Answer 9

I do not agree with your question, because I have been Married for almost forty nine yrs. and have never had any fantasy, about any one else except my Husband. You might say, well she is old and in her time it was different, some of it might be true, but, in my time you loved your spouse with all your being and would never dream of desiring another man. I believe in the Lord as my personal savior but, to me religion was not a part of my decision.

Answer 10

Then why the need for emotions?
The need for family ties, bonding, friendship, community?
It's about a discipline that helps everyone out in a family!
It only one compound of being human. Biology that is!
Then threes emotional bonding that help stabilize our lives, builders community's ,friendships.

Poly's are wasteful people who display know understanding of family except there self centered ways, of joy love a disown everyone around them without cause!