My husband and i have had issues since we married. tried counseling and he was the one that admitted he was not ready to get married,so it was hard to commit to someone else but him. he is a good person,but show some bad behavior when we has irritated. he left home twice and came back,etc. this was 2 years ago. For the past 2 years, we were holding on,but never happy. I got a job offer overseas and he asked me to take it and told me he will support me. months later he change dhis mind and said that he wasnt sure. I moved and we kept talking.he came to visit 3 times within 6 months and the last time he really showed he cared about me and really mature. He realized he didnt wanted to loose me when i told him that we had lost lot of time and it was better to get divorced. Eventhought things were great last time, i didnt wanted to tell him to move right away again. I even felt pressured &felt i wanted to meet more people before taking a decision. am i wrong?
2007-04-22 10:34:04 · 5 answers · asked by confuse06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its difficult when one gets married before being ready. I think your heart knows what to do-- and you should listen to it. I know it was great the last time, but what about the overall picture. I think it be best to end on good terms then to drag it out until you two hate each other. good luck. find someone who wants to be with you as much as you want to be with them.
2007-04-22 10:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by tiyona17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not married, and I'm young, 17. Told you I'm young lol.
I'm not an expert on relationships, but it sounds like a similar relationship I have now, and I'm not married.
My advice to you is just leave. It may be hard for you and ever harder for him, but if you feel like you can't do this anymore, just don't do it. It's really hard and could create bigger problems.
I will admit though, it's good that he came to his senses. He could have changed then before you went over seas, I think you did, sorry if I got that wrong.
Get yourself set up before you get a divorce or whatever you're going to do. Then when the time comes, just sit him and down and tell him. It wont be easy, but it sounds like to me that you want out, so just do it.
2007-04-22 10:46:32 · answer #2 · answered by Josh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. u need to be prepared for either fully devoting yourself to your marriage through good and bad. or get the divorce. there is no in between when it comes to marriage. u need to make a decision.
2007-04-22 10:48:29 · answer #3 · answered by supergirl6276 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not wrong, in fact you are quite smart to know you do not want to spend the rest of you life with him. move on and you will find some one who you love, if you feel sorry to leave him , then you are not only cheating him but also yourself.
2007-04-22 10:44:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your gut instincts are kicking in.
I believe in marriage, and doing everything to make it work, but I think in your heart of hearts you already know what to do.
2007-04-22 10:40:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋