I recently ended a friendship with someone I called my "best friend" Do you believe in best friends? I dont anymore because I have been betrayed by MANY "best friends" All I need is my chihuahua Roxy!
2007-04-22 09:50:28 · 51 answers · asked by inactive 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I had one for 21 yrs, then I met my husband and moved away to be with him and shes the only one who couldn't handle it. She told me she didn't want to be my friend anymore if I married him. She was jealous I guess. Guess what, haven't spoken to her in 3 years...its sad, I really miss her...we were friends since we were 3 and 4 yrs old.
2007-04-22 09:54:23 · answer #1 · answered by Koozie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I've been burned. I always strived to go the extra mile for my friends whenever they were going through a rough spot, but I recently learned that it wasn't a two-way street. My best "friend" of many years turned her back on me while I was going through a major health crisis. She did some really horrible things at a time when I really needed the support of a friend. I later discovered that she was angry with me that I didn't feel well enough to help her plan a pool party. Well, how thoughtless of me to get sick!
It made me question how I could have ever called this ignorant person my friend; why couldn't I see that she was capable of being so mean-spirited? It will be very hard to trust again, and I am sorry for anyone who has lost a "best friend" (or several).
2007-04-22 10:49:39 · answer #2 · answered by asterisk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't that people are All Bad, like I once thought too. It was the kind of people I chose, the choices I made, and a tad of my attitude that was the trouble. Adjustments to these things made all the difference!
But that's how we learn and grow. We are ALL betrayed, hurt, let down. It's what we learn and how we grow from those disappointments that makes the difference, Love. We can choose fear, pain, and isolation to become bitter, disappointed people. Or we may choose to learn and grow and become better, fulfilled people. One choice leads to disappointment… the other, contentment. The choice is always ours.
Good luck and God bless, Love! I hope things work out for you.
And, yes. I recently lost a very good friend of many, many years. It was my fault and very devestating. But I must respect her choice. I still love her and don't blame her, though in the beginning I did because it hurt so much to lose such a wonderful friend.
2007-04-22 10:06:47 · answer #3 · answered by Eudora 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We meet many people in our lives that maybe don't turn out the way we thought they would be or that become false friends. If you ever truly have a best friend, they are just that for life. I have been had a few best friends in my life and they still are with one lasting over 24 years. One of my best friends passed away at age 36 due to cancer and was a great person that would do anything for you. Yes I definetly believe in best friends and hopefully you will find you a real best friend like I have.
2007-04-22 09:57:38 · answer #4 · answered by toughguy2 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have lost a couple of friends that I had considered "best" friends --- both from New Jersey --where I was born and raised. I moved to Illinois after I got married and kept in touch for a while with them but now it's just Christmas cards and that's about it. No one wanted to come out to visit much after a while ----mostly due to not feeling welcomed by my "ex"-- which is one of the reasons why he's my ex now.
But I do have a good friend here in Illinois, ---she and I have been friends for about 22 years.
I will be moving soon to Georgia, to be with the man I love -- and he and I have a deep friendship and he will be my best friend as well, as we will be together soon every day--but my friends from IL will keep in touch and visit --as this man I love so much is very welcoming and will accept anyone that i care about. And that's one of the many many reasons I love him.
So don't give up on good friendships--for those that you may lose---treasure the good things you got from knowing them and remember ----there are more out there waiting for you.
2007-04-22 10:45:53 · answer #5 · answered by girlnamedmaria 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had best friends who I moved away from and we did not keep in touch, so that part of my life is just a good memory. I have had other best friends who dropped me with no explanation. I have had other friends who would grow apart for awhile, then we somehow find our way back to each other as if we had never parted. I do not want to label friendships any more. I do believe in friendship, but there are different stages in everyone's lives.
2007-04-22 10:03:02 · answer #6 · answered by TXGal 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep. But I believe that friendship can hold no straight forward "best". I have many friends now that I am in college. You find out your true friends when you are out of high school and start your life. Even when you leave college. Just make the best of moments and times and make the effort to hold onto who you want to. Dogs don't last forever either. My dog just died a month or two ago... she was my "best" dog friend.
2007-04-22 09:54:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey... I've been where you are, I think a lot of us have. I 'lost' my best friend a few years back when she ran off with my boyfriend.
Betrayal hurts, but it won't hurt forever - trust me.
I always had problems because I am exceptionally loyal to my friends - as a teenager i always had friends that were two faced and nasty. I didn't realise this until I'd become quite close to them, and finding out used to hurt like hell.
Now I do have a decent set of mates, a few of whom are as fiercely loyal as I am. You'll get there, hon. Give yourself time to get past the pain of what has happened. I hope this helps a little. x
2007-04-22 12:56:23 · answer #8 · answered by Wildamberhoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some people I believe there can be best friends. Some people find a person they can relate to, like family but closer. Some people do not- or can not- have best friends. May it be there personality or otherwise. For me, while I am quite open to good and deep relationships, best friends are something I try to avoid. To many backstabbing bitches out there.
2007-04-22 09:54:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do believe in best friends. I've had my best friend by my side through the best and worst of times for 10 years now. I have lost a childhood friend though. I lost her to drugs and alcohol, we just couldn't save her. I dont even know what she's doing with herself now, last I saw of her she had barely any teeth left.
2007-04-22 09:55:02 · answer #10 · answered by Alana B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋