and i have a part time job. I don't have the money to be on my own. BUT my mom is making my live a living hell. This past week alone she hit my car, and then called the cops on me because i was upset my car was hit. I went to mental health and in reality she's the one that needs mental health. The cops escorted me there so i was forced to go. She has cost me money and i dont even get a apology. She mentally abuses me, calls me every name, told my boyfriend not to go out with me because i'm not good enough for him. but in reality i'm not mental, she just wants people to give her sympathy. she is manipulative, and no one sees it. i need help, i'm living in hell
2007-04-22 09:48:44 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to figure out a way to get out. Do you have any trusted friends or relatives that could help you out? That would be the first place I'd check into. Surely your relatives recognize she's not all there, they can't be blind if what you're saying is true. At your age you should be able to get out on your own. You may need to cut back on school hours to pick up a few more work hours? Sounds like anything would be better than this. You're not going to be able to rely on the cops for much help with her, its only going to be your word against hers, and you're living in her home as an adult. I would start talking with friends and relatvies. Maybe you have a relative with young children you could trade a living space for babysitting?
Hope this helps.
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2016-10-13 05:13:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would find some way of getting out. If you have girlfriends, get enough of them together you can rent a large house and then it really isn't that bad.
If you don't have girlfriends, you may have to put college on hold, or just do the best you can.
I really think it would be better to get out now because if she drives you crazy enough, it will affect your college work and then you will be wasting your time and money.
2007-04-22 11:20:12 · answer #3 · answered by shannonwigg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only one answer, GET OUT, find others that need freedom and join them in an apartment or house until your on your own. If you stay with your mom, you will establish a record with the police and it will follow you thru your adult life. I know it is hard making it out on your own, especially while going to college but, how can you do good in college if being harassed?
2007-04-22 09:53:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a situation similiar to yours, so yes, I do say I feel you.
It sounds like your mom is the needy type -- if she sees that you don't need her as much, she'll do stupid things like crash your car and when you're mad or w/e, she sees that as rewarding in some sick, twisted way.
Was your mother always this way or is this recent? Have you ever sat down and talked to her on a reasonable level? If not, ask for outside help like someone you trust and confide in to help figure out why exactly your mother is treating you like scum.
2007-04-22 09:55:43 · answer #5 · answered by Quonx. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would find some friends that you are in school with and maybe look at renting a house together. I would bet you are not the only one that is tired of living at home with the parents/parent.
2007-04-22 10:03:30 · answer #6 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go talk to your counselor at school...If you were 5150, then you need help and so does she...I am sure mental health gae you a referral for counseling so accept that as well
2007-04-22 10:03:55 · answer #7 · answered by Vee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, grow some balls and get your own place. Get a roommate, split the bills and be a man. Your mommy is sounding like your future wife.
2007-04-22 09:54:51 · answer #8 · answered by prouddaddy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you be able to afford to live on your own if you had roommates? Could you take out student loans?
2007-04-22 11:57:17 · answer #9 · answered by K S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your 22 you should be a junior or senior, so you should be almost done with college. So depending on how much longer you have, you need to decide if you can tolerate your mom just a little bit longer or do you need to find a way to move out.
Don't give up your college education - that is the means to better yourself and break the ties that keep you locked to your mother. If you decide to stay, you must steel yourself for the time it will take to graduate, get a decent job and move the hell out! Maybe find ways to limit your time at home, like studying at the library or something. Just hang in there, it will make you a better person.
2007-04-22 09:58:41 · answer #10 · answered by MajorTom © 6 · 0⤊ 11⤋