hopefully this boy will come out soon. How can you not like your own father because you have gay issues like not wanting to be treated like a man, so blame daddy for being a bad dad and not understanding your gayness and getting on you case for acting feminine?
2007-04-22 09:19:39 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
not wanting to talk to you own father and accusing him of being mean (mean is his interpretstion of daddy expecting him to act like a boy) when he apparantly did nothing out of the ordinary to you - yea thats called taking gayness out on daddy - not cool
2007-04-22 09:56:49 · update #1
I don't know if you know what you're talking about, but I don't know what you're talking about.
The hesitation for men who are gay to "come out" is due to hatefulness and unacceptance from their parents, and specifically their fathers. Most men from previous generations are extremely homophobic or heterosexist. Gay men don't typically blame their fathers for anything. They just avoid spilling the truth to them because homosexuality is threatening to a lot of men and they don't want their fathers to disown them or hate them.
To answer your question, gay men are most likely to come out whenever it is that they feel unconditionally accepted and loved by their families and/or friends.
You sound like you know almost nothing about this subject, so I'll simplify it for you.
Imagine you have naturally blonde hair, but your family and friends all have brown hair and HATE blonde-haired people. As a result you have dyed your hair brown your entire life. Would you want to "come out" and explain that you have blonde hair knowing that the people close to you despise it?
2007-04-22 09:25:26 · answer #1 · answered by Buying is Voting 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gay, Lesbian or whatever your sexuality is people only "come out" when they are ready to do so.
Some people find it difficult due to family upbringing. If they know their family will have BIG issues about this then it can delay them coming out.
Everyone is different. Some people come out between 14 and 25. (I was 21). Some between 25 and 30. And you also get others who will marry the opposite sex, have children (usually to please their family, one of my ex's did this) and then dont come out till their 30+ And when i say 30+ thats exactly what i mean. One guy i know didnt come out till he was 42. Another woman i know was 36. So like i said its when they feel ready and are strong enough to live with other peoples reactions wether these are good or bad.
2007-04-22 16:35:33 · answer #2 · answered by Mystic Magic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since it seems to a lot of the heterosexuals that we are somehow abnormal or crazy, my first response was to say, we're like vampires and we come out at night..lol, j/k
I would say most come out during puberty to about college age. (lots of experimentation in college as I'm finding out..I'm a college student) But, I've also known people that didn't come out until well into their 40's or 50's.
2007-04-22 16:29:54 · answer #3 · answered by I_color_outside_the_lines 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most gay people are most likely ot come out between the ages of 15-25. I...um.....dont really understand the second part to that question.
2007-04-22 16:24:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I find most of my friends coming out at about 13-18.
2007-04-22 16:27:05 · answer #5 · answered by Blood Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After puberty usually, I came out to my friends but not to my family until i move out!
2007-04-22 16:24:14 · answer #6 · answered by Austen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋