How can i get better at this...?

Question

OkayI am 21 years old & i am in an almost 5 year relationship this comming july.....we love eachother to death and would do anything for eachother! We have had our share of ups and downs...just like any other relationship. We live together and are together almost all the time. When he does go out , i usually go out with my friends if they arent around i stay home...but i dont trust the friends he has , they bring a lot of younger girls around and it makes me uncomfortable that he goes out to hang out and a bunch of other chicks are there and i am not!....thats one problem...then there is the fact that he is constantly checking out other women i mean every person that walks by..he tells me i am beautiful everyday so i still feel sexy but i get hurt when i see him check others out...and also we have had issues with porn he keeps getting it behind my back but we have our own movie he could watch right at home... am i not good enough? how can i stop worrying?

Answer 1

More complicated then that, it isn't that your not good enough, your just to avialiable, your to his, your to in love with him. This is great with two mature individuals. But when one hasn't mature enough you've got a problem. He won't know how to use that love and affection to make himself feel purposeful in his life. Espacially when he still got friends that get pride bust out of sexual conquest, shows that maybe thats the mentiality he might have to. Not good, its suppose to bust much more then your pride and until he can find a way to use you to fulfill more then notches on his **** he is always going to be looking out for that better notch... sorry it isn't the way of men, but boys have a tendency to lag behind in there emotional development.... its normal as long as you guys continue to relate and grow, but if the relationship is hitting a stagnant phase you need to be worried. Nothing destorys a relationship better then not growing together anymore, not just as lovers, but also as friends. He isn't being a good friend honey.....