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I'm not ashamed of it, but I just think people draw wrong conclusions after hearing it.

2007-04-22 07:18:25 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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Well, there is no problem with you not sharing this information especially if its a first date. Just don't be dishonest about this information. And then you can mention it when you feel ready.

2007-04-22 07:23:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Why on earth would someone have a problem with you being a grandpa at age 36? Could be you were 18 when you had your first child, and that child was 18 when they had their first child. There's nothing wrong with that. Even at age 16 and 17 is 'normal' and accepted. I think you're worrying too much.

Some women may have an issue with you being a grandpa if your son and/or grandson are living with you and you are raising him. And not because he's your grandson, but because some women just don't want to deal with raising children, just as some men prefer not to date women with kids.

A real easy way to let it be known is to talk about your kids. Say how proud you are of your son, or daughter, for being such a great parent. That will let someone know you are a grandparent, but in a round about way by talking about your child/children, and that is ALWAYS acceptable and normal part of conversation on dates.

I think if a woman would be turned off just for the fact that you are a grandpa, then she isn't someone you wouldn't really want to be hooked up with anyway. Whoever you end up with, you will want them to be a supportive part of your family. And a child, a grandchild... they are all just an extention of who you are.

2007-04-22 14:33:07 · answer #2 · answered by blsmtfm1955 3 · 0 0

When people go on dates, it is to have fun. You find out things you have in common with the other person, like if you like the same kinds of foods or movies. You are an adult and should share as much information as you feel fit. It is only a date. If you see where things can develop later on, like let's say the third or fourth date, then yes share more personal information. Just have fun.

2007-04-22 14:26:45 · answer #3 · answered by LISA F 3 · 0 0

If you're not ashamed of it, then there is no reason to hide it. If someone is going to draw the wrong conclusion, and don't accept it after you've explained, then forget them! I say this because you being a grandfather is a big part of you!.

2007-04-22 14:22:21 · answer #4 · answered by c 4 · 0 1

no, there is nothing wrong with u not telling every detail of ur life to someone that u just went out on a date with. i'm almost 33, and if my daughter would've had a child as soon as i had her i would've been a grandmother last too.knock on wood, she didn't , but if it would've happened i would still b proud to b a granny..lol. u have to take life as it comes at u , and make the best of it. if someone judges u because of the way ur life is ,or because of u being a grandfather then i don't think that certain someone deserves to b in ur life.why does it matter such a great deal what other think?????? this is UR life and no one elses!!!!

2007-04-22 14:25:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

A thirty six year old grandfather means your child made a bad choice. Although I am venturing to guess, you made a bad choice around the age of 16 too...that your child is able to reproduce.

My suggestion is you spend much time reflecting on yourself. Come to peace with who you are with who your child is and how to help your grandchild make better decisions in life.

As far as dating goes...who cares what some outsider thinks? Telling the truth up front and getting rebuffed is much better than keeping it for 6 months, falling in love and then she leaves because you weren't honest.

D~

2007-04-22 14:25:30 · answer #6 · answered by Donna 1 · 0 1

There's no need to share your life story on a first date. Information like that should be given on a need to know basis. If the question of kids is asked you could mention it.

2007-04-22 14:25:19 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

no, i don't think you are wrong.. i think it is perfectly appropriate to get to know someone a little better before you share something like that.. single moms hold back that info when they are dating so the guys just don't go running in the other direction! at least they are getting to know you a little better before they pass judgement that you are a grandfather!

2007-04-22 14:23:30 · answer #8 · answered by Jenn S 2 · 1 0

I think you are entirely right not to disclose it at first. You are basically just getting to know a person and it doesn't have to include your whole autobiography at first. Wish you the best of luck and have a great day.

2007-04-22 14:23:53 · answer #9 · answered by howard 3 · 1 0

On dates, you don't have to share a lot, unless you want to.

I have the problem with being to damned honest right off and I must be a real turn off. :-(

Only share what you want to. It's only a date!

2007-04-22 14:21:52 · answer #10 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1 0

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