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i have just looked at a text message he does not know that he has it. have you texted julie or have you erased her number remember she has yours. i am 32 not getting any younger and i am going to leave the idiot at the end of the week while he is on nights. i am not imagining this am i?

2007-04-22 06:31:58 · 41 answers · asked by kirsty 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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No your not imagining anything, when men start going out with friends and never takes you anywhere . You better check which sex he is out with, watch him follow him and may be in for big surprise. Men that go out other guys just one purpose in mind to meet other women and then they see one that they really like and they will start a affair. He had to have her name and she has his, so just watch when he goes I bet you there will be a female involved. It always end up this way when their so called friends ends up being a lover, unless he is gay and that is male friends that calls themselves Julie.

2007-04-22 06:45:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Hi hun,

It's really difficult to tell from your question whether or not he is cheating on you. Yes, this Julie woman could be someone who is is having an affair with. Or, someone could have given her his number and he doesn't want to text her. Or, he might have deleted her number because he's not interested. Or this Julie person could just be an innocent acquaintance.

Why don't you ask him who Julie is? You don't even have to say how you know her name - if he's up to no good he'll become flustered.

Regardless of whether he's been cheating, it doesn't sound like you're very happy with this man (I read your other question too).

If you don't trust him and you don't like him any more, then you've got the right idea by leaving him.

32 is a damn sexy age for a woman - get him out of your life, spruce yourself up and start fresh. Pretty soon you'll find a lovely guy who wants to take you out with him.

Good luck

xx Emmie

2007-04-22 06:45:43 · answer #2 · answered by Sparklepop 6 · 2 0

Define cheating.
Does a man have to have sexual intercourse with another woman for us to leave? I don't think so.
He is going out without you (I assume that this is most of the time).
He is getting text messages from another woman (and obviously it is not related to work or some other thing that would make it okay for her to be texting him)
You're leaving at night so you are either afraid of him or afraid of confrontation.
Why would you be imagining this? Is he emotionally abusive or something? Has he drug you down to the point where you no longer trust your own mind?
You don't give enough information for me to really give you my opinion.
However, I think that you should talk to him (unless he is abusive - if that is the case just leave when he is at work) and try to figure out what is going on. At least end it with him so that he is not hunting you down trying to get you back or wondering why. If he was a half *** decent person while you were together he does deserve that.

2007-04-30 03:09:23 · answer #3 · answered by bobbijoslin 4 · 0 0

First of all hun, I believe that any woman who checks her man's phone believes that he is cheating. Now who is Julie? Why does he have to erase Julie's number?

You're a woman. Use your intutition. I caught my ex cheating on me from text messages and calls to a certain woman. I had a gut feeling that he was up to no good and I was right.

But you have to confront him. Don't just up and leave without talking to him. And of course he will be enraged that you checked his phone. And of course he may try to deny it and say it was all in your head. But you can handle that one of two ways:

You can insist that he answers a call from her while you're in the room or you can call her yourself and ask. If she's s a side fling- chances are she will admit it because she wants you guys to break to break up so she can have him for herself.

If any of these work, then its time to move on. He isnt good for you and deserve so much better!!

2007-04-22 06:53:12 · answer #4 · answered by Cher B 2 · 0 0

Girl ! There is a 99% chance that he is an ***-hole and 1% that he might stop what he's doing if you just show him that you mean business. Don't think that time will cure everything.You need to be very strong not a cry baby with him. And keep this image for years to come and never go back to your old self because it seems like he's taking advantage of your love for him. Good Luck !!

2007-04-22 06:53:43 · answer #5 · answered by Cookie 1 · 1 0

Before you do anything you should ask him outright what is going on - you may be misreading the text. By talking with him you will know exactly what you need to do and you will be doing it for all the right reasons. Personally if he goes out with friends all the time and not you then I think you should dump him, you do need to talk to him to find out why he is treating you like he is he. It may be that he doesnt realise that you are not happy with the way things are and therefore he cant put anything right if he doesnt know it is wrong

2007-04-22 06:45:51 · answer #6 · answered by sn0ttyang3l 2 · 0 0

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2016-12-10 08:38:52 · answer #7 · answered by okamura 4 · 0 0

If you have doubts, it's probably true. If you can't trust the person your with your just wasting your time. Love shouldn't be hard. I didn't find mr. right until after I left mr. right now. We had four kids together and I still had that nagging feeling. Since we have been apart he has found at least 10 others to date. I know now that I was right to be worried. I am now happily married to someone who loves me as much as I love him. Good luck. The good guys are out there trust me.

2007-04-30 06:07:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

it's highly possible, just found out my husband has been cheating for 6 months now i have two kids not sure if i can ever trust him again would you. You need to keep a close eye on him and do whatever it is you have to be sure. Don't just assume and think the worst have proof before you dump him.

2007-04-29 07:44:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Your instincts are probably right. He's not married to you, he acts like a single guy - goes out with his friends and leaves you at home? Sounds suspicious but it is not proof of anything. You owe it to yourself and to him to at least explain why you're leaving him. Mention the text message too.

2007-04-28 13:50:33 · answer #10 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0 0

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