It's like a love-hate relationship. I do, of course, love my family and I wish them all good, but sometimes I feel like I don't even like them, and sometimes I feel like I love them the most. It's easier with friends & lovers, you may break it off if things get really bad, but with parents & siblings it's crazy! Why do you think?
2007-04-22 05:40:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Blood is thicker than water, and family will stick by you, if you are lucky enough to have that kind of relationship with them.
You tend to be more open and say things to the people you are closest too, and family is family, and will always be there...it's like my twins in college, I raised them on my own, and we would fuss but, get over it, same with my brother's, and still with them away at college, I try and tell them things from my own experience when I was their age, and they don't want to hear it, but, I don't want them to get hurt either, just being a mom, and I know they have to make their own mistakes, but, family wants what's best for you, and you arn't always going to agree, and you will have fusses and such, but, in the end, all is forgotten when we say or do things to them that we later regret or them to us too....it's like my kids in college, I guess I've gotten used to being by myself, I like one to come home, but, not both, I forgot how they fuss at each other over stupid things like you are wearing my shirt or dress or shoes, minor stupid things, and being twins, still to this day, if I get onto one, the other kicks in whether they are involved or not and defend the other...it's life, that's family...we love them unconditionally, whereas friends/lovers ect...come and go, and that's usually it. But, unconditional love comes from family...myself, my brother's are my best friends as well as my kids are, and they can be brutally honest about things and are just watching out for your best interest...I know when my parents were alive, they were my best friends, and though I didn't tell them things sometimes, they always knew...but, never gave up...I'm kinda the black sheep of the family....and even though I'm a little different, carefree than my brother's and girls, they accept me for who I am, and it hurts the most when they do tell you things that are the truth, things you know, but, don't want to hear...family can hurt you more than anyone because they are just that family, and like my mom always told me...your family will always be there, guys and friends will come and go, but, family will always be there...and if you arn't lucky enough to have a family like that, I'm sorry, but, family can also be your best friend/lover ect....the long-term ones that know all your faults and secrets, and are still around.
2007-04-22 06:00:09 · answer #1 · answered by Confused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a very complicated relationship isn't it? I think that sometimes we know them so well that certain things they do or certain attitudes or viewpoints that they have aggravate us to no end. Also we know exactly what to say or do that would cause them the most emotional pain. Shouldn't be like that, but it is. I am sure almost everyone feels the same way about their family. We may feel like we hate them sometimes but if someone else says something about them, well watch out!!!!
2007-04-22 05:46:33 · answer #2 · answered by missy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand exactly what you mean. I love my family but they all have traits which clash with mine and end is argument and upset. Had they been friends I would have moved away from them a long time ago but what's great about family is that whilst you have to put up with them they put up with you and they will do this willingly. They love you too and will always stick by you, no matter what. I am much more open and trusting with my family than with anyone else.
2014-02-10 09:33:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is why blood is thicker than water my friend. You cant have fairy tale endings because we're all humans, or just breakup whenever problems arises. Each individuals' needs are different and each persons' way of expressing themselves are different. You might get angry with them but you know who they really are inside and that they'll always be there for you. In the good or the bad, they'll always be there!
Thats just the most unique thing about families, You hate, you fight, you quarrel, but in the end you still know deep in your heart that you love and you still care for them. Its just the matter of compromising. Every working or 'great' relationships are based on communicating and compromising with each other. It takes 2 hands to clap, or in your case maybe 5! One cant always have his/her way all of the time. Thats the beauty of relationships!
2007-04-22 05:55:24 · answer #4 · answered by Dan_da_man 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you just defined the family relationship dynamic! You know the saying: "You can pick your friends, but (you're stuck) you can't choose your family." I think it's the way you describe it because these ARE the people closest to us. Their opinions matter to us. We do want the best for them, and they us. So, is it any wonder it gets heated/crazy/confusing from time-to-time? It's pretty-much the dealing-with-another-human-AT- ALL experience.
2007-04-22 05:57:37 · answer #5 · answered by Ja'aj };> 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Families are complicated by the fact it is a group of people all who are individuals.
2013-12-12 02:09:47 · answer #6 · answered by Ann 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, me too
I like my SIBS, and their families
mostly they are WAY different from me though
maybe just having kids is a calming changing influence, could be that, also economic and cultural differences.
I guess my main difference is I like to just share everything and say the truth, mostly they don't I think.
Same for my wifes family.
2007-04-22 05:45:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of if the family relationships are healthful in and of themselves, then having diverse religions has no result on the well-being and well-being of kinfolk. yet confident, if the relationships are unfavorable, which could impact your well-being in many procedures - the main easy is melancholy.
2016-10-13 04:49:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is hard because you are all different people and they are family that you love....but again you are all different people so you have to accept them as they are.
be cool...
2007-04-22 05:44:48 · answer #9 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-04-22 05:44:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋