What are your best secrets for long lasting marriages?

Answer 1

You have to be friends first. Without a friendship, you really don't have much of a marriage. Also, you have to trust your partner and be totally honest. Never hide secrets and be willing to compromise. Become a good listener and remember that you don't always have to have the last word. If you have these things in your relationship you will succeed.

Answer 2

The very fact that u r asking the question shows ur willingness to work out a relationship better and thats the most important thing. A few suggestions:
1) Try to keep ur relationship crystal clear, its a mess when u start hiding things.
2) Try to be honest and frank with ur spouse, U need not be mature all the times. Be playful too, There is a child inside everyone (even ur spouse).
3) When u like a gesture, appreciate it.
4) Never shout or fight without knowing the entire thing.
5) Say i love you everytime u go away like for work, etc
6) From time-to-time, join classes of common interest that helps u bind- like salsa dance class, creativity classes, etc
7) Agree to watch soccer with ur guy and he will never deny to come for shopping with u.(personal experience)
8) Respect each other.
9) Have great sex life.
10) Always treasure each other as god's gift :)

Hope this helps!! god bless u

Answer 3

I think it is too easy to assume that the other person will always be there and then it too easy to take that other person for granted. Don't fall into that trap.

Don't assume that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. It isn't.

Treat the other person like he/she is the most important person in the entire world (this part should be easy because he/she is the most important person in the world).

Don't fall in to the T.V. crap about husbands/wives may come and go, but........With an attitude like this one, it is not just a phrase but an absolute truth.

My wife died 8 months ago and I miss her so much that I hurt inside. We were married for 20 years and we were extremely happy together. We never forgot that we loved each other very much. We didn't take the other person for granted, and we never cheated on one another. When things were tough due to the kids, bills, whatever; we always knew that it had nothing to do with how we felt about each other.

Answer 4

We've been happily married 36 years, and I guarantee you, some of the key elements of a successful relationship - married or otherwise - are:

1) A long list of common interests; things you both enjoy doing TOGETHER as opposed to separate interests and separate groups of friends.

2) A lot of tolerance for each other's differences. As much as you share in common, you're still going to rub one another wrong from time to time. Be mature and deal with it. Separate the small $h!t from the serious stuff.

3) A sense of compromise; so that you can work out your problems with a minimum of emotional trauma. It's marital negotiation.

4) A sense of sympathy and forgiveness. You're both going to screw up on occasion. You need to be able to forgive, forget, and move on with the relationship.

Answer 5

Having a life outside of your marriage is very important. Having some alone time, friend time, etc. And keep the romance on it's toes. Different sex positions, different times of the day, different places..... and always have a date night. Later Mother Russia

Answer 6

The best secret is no secrets.
well not exactly, but you get my point. :3

Answer 7

Never do anything that you wouldn't do with your spouse standing right next to you. Honesty and good communication are also super important. It has worked for us and we have fifteen years together.

Answer 8

Remember, only you can make you happy. And when you find someone that believes in that too, your off to a great start. Don't count on someone else to make you happy. Enjoy your life, and when that special someone comes along, then you can share your life with them as they share theirs with you. Don't try to change to please anyone since your already happy and don't try to change them. Fall in love with who they are and you'll be happy for a lifetime.

Answer 9

the one thing thats kept us together is

Rule; "If i cant do it, neither can you and v/v"

And Communication about feelings.

Sticking together on issues. Taking up for one another and being each others best friend.

Answer 10

Being best friends
keeping the door of communication open
keeping the romance alive like it was in the beginning
finding someone who as in love with you as you are with them

be cool...