My girl needs to text this guy (who I don't like) to find out information about a job she applied to. Well she deletes her texts and calls, and sleeps by her phone and whenever it rings or beeps she flies up.
Last night she left her phone away from her and he texted her, for the first time in months. I was going to try and act like her but she got up, screaming and yelling to not to text him or she'd never talk to me again. She said she has no control over him texting her. He did say he hadn't heard from her in a while in the text
Is she hiding something?
2007-04-22 05:26:59 · 4 answers · asked by aa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We been together for 4 years. Everything went back to normal for a few months since she had to contact him and this happened two nights ago.
2007-04-22 05:30:25 · update #1
she is hiding something,tell her you know she is hiding something and if she would just come clean you might be able to forgive her,and trust her again but if she does not come clean and you find something out you will never be able to trust her again,maybe you should call the guy and confront him
2007-04-22 05:45:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are red flags here, but it may just be that the red flag is the current obsession people have with their cell phones. It is not unusual for girls especially to sleep with their cell phones, even when it means they lose sleep and can't function during the day. They are completely and totally obsesses with them.
Your wanting to find out what the story is, however, just reinforces her need to privacy and control of her existence. There could be absolutely nothing going on, beyond her obsession, but right now she is a woman who is addicted to her phone and probably not just this one guy, but anyone who might want to contact her. You are the one keeping her from her obsession so she is getting angry with you.
Rather than seeing her as on her way out the door, however, you might want to treat this like an illness. Try and get her away from this notion of sleeping with her cell phone. My guess, is however, right now, she'd rather have her cell phone than you. That isn't to suggest something bad about you, but rather, something wrong with her.
By the way, after being together from four years how come the two of you haven't moved beyond the bf/gf stage? There is no real commitment between the two of you, so ...
2007-04-22 12:47:01 · answer #2 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may not be actually cheating on you yet, but she is thinking about it, and may have done so in the past four years. At least she has the exuse that its about the job.
2007-04-22 12:33:16 · answer #3 · answered by tomhale138 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She probably is, but what good does it do for you to know? Let it go, if you finds out you'll have even more trouble trusting her.
2007-04-22 12:39:12 · answer #4 · answered by Mah10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋