How lond should you stay mad at a person?

Question

this person really pissed me off and i just can't get over it!!!

Answer 1

don't get mad....get even...

Answer 2

You'll know when your over it and ready to forgive them. If it's something that you feel you should have gotten over by now you may want to more closely examine what it is about the situation your still angry about. What part of this problem are you caught up on? Is that something that you can deal with and get over?

Lingering anger is usually a cover feeling for something else. Embarrassement, hurt, or betrayal. It might be that you need to deal with the real feelings then the anger will fade. Or it could be that this person is just toxic and you are better off not having them in your life at all.

You can spend a couple thousand dollars on a therapist to figure it out or you can spend some quality time alone with your feelings and figure this out. Best of luck to you.

Answer 3

if u can't get over it , u can't get over it. But maybe u should think about how the person pissed u off and why. Maybe u were just in a bad mood to start with and u took it out on what ur friend said or maybe u r just using it as an excuse to not see this person anymore.
u must decide how valuable this persons' friendship is to u and what u want to do about it
forgive and forget or hold that gridge forever.

Answer 4

I know it's hard to get off the "pissy" mood. And I also know how people can sometimes get the better of us. I'm sure, however, that eventually you'll think the situation through and realise that holding a grudge won't erase what's happened in the past.

"Forgive, sounds good. Forget, I'm not sure I could. They say, 'time heals everything'. But I'm still waiting." That's from the Dixie Chicks, by the way.

I've been through your situation so I know exactly how you feel. But as the days go by, I found myself to be forgiving of that other person's fault but of course, it's still hard to forget 'cos of the memories.

Answer 5

Anger usually covers hurt... take time to resolve
how you really feel, and let the person know
without fighting over what happened. If it's a
guy who upset you may I suggest leafing through
Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus
first before talking to him; if it's a girl just tell
her straight from the heart how whatever made
you feel and she'll understand why you feel the
way you do empathy and apology will come
unless she too has some unresolved feeling.

Answer 6

Theres no set time limit that you should be mad at someone and the fact that your asking this question looks like your just in it for drama now. When you decide to forgive the person then do. Until then avoid them.

Answer 7

The longest I've had was 14 months...sometimes it's just too hard to forgive, especially if that person said smth that offended you and disrespected you. If someone hurts me too much, I make sure to move on, leaving that person behind, but never hating him. Just learn to live without him as it's not good being surrounded by people who make you feel unhappy and underappreciated.

Answer 8

You've heard the expression "bury the hatchet" haven't you?
What's the point of staying mad for very long - my suggestion is to give the person a chance to redeem themselves, and if they don't fix themselves even after you complain to them, perhaps give them another chance because we all make mistakes and sometimes repeat them- but if they persist in being aggravating then just ignore them but don't waste your energy keeping a grudge forever.

Answer 9

Don't rush the anger cycle cause soon as you pretend to get over you'll be harboring feelings of hate that will just come out again later. Treat your anger is like a slow burnig candle, let it keep burnin til the wax is gone.

Answer 10

There is no should or should not. Its not healthy to be mad all the time so you should try to get over it as fast as you can, and when ever you can is all you can do. That does not mean you have to actualy like the person any more after you get over being angry.

Answer 11

I would give the steam till sunset, then forgive them within yourself. Try to think of the nice things they have done and sleep on it. Then the next day call them or see them and explain your forgiveness and also explain why you were hurt.
You can't control their response, but bitterness within yourself will eat you up and do very little harm to the other person. Help yourself out and release it.