if it's for having sex then many peopel do it before they get married then why they get married??
2007-04-22 02:31:10 · 14 answers · asked by mariam w 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, I don't think it's just for sex ... although sexual desire is certainly a wonderful part of our motivation for marriage. I got married because I needed to make major commitments to my wife in front of our community. I needed to know that everyone heard me, so they could hold me accountable for breaching any of my commitments.
In making those promises, publicly ... before our people and God ... and in believing that we were accountable to each other, our community and God, we formalized our feelings into a lifetime covenant that ... became the foundational social convention for 'us' to start a family with the approval and support of the rest of our community of human beings.
I know this doesn't sound very romantic. For the most part, I believe the romantic part of the relationship is really exclusive to the lovers. It's private, and I think is the 'most real' part. However, I also believe that the 'marriage' part of a primary relationship is absolutely necessary; because it adds the needed accountability to like-minded 'others' who can support 'us' when our weaknesses make us vulnerable to ending up as a divorce statistic ... which to me, is a fate of irreparable brokenness to all of us.
(I wish I could express this better.)
2007-04-22 02:56:45 · answer #1 · answered by Sultan 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I used to be engaged whilst I used to be 24 and married whilst I used to be 26 Our marriage ceremony colours have been a faded peach and chocolate brown We every had our brothers as witnesses (two whole), it used to be an excessively small marriage ceremony (14 individuals have been there adding us and our reverend) Our reception used to be held a month after our marriage ceremony, and we didn't have assigned seating, so much individuals did not sit down, it used to be a cocktail celebration We had a small chocolate cake after which a kind of truffles for individuals to decide on, I believe there have been five specific offerings We went to Maui for 2 weeks We acquired married in Gleneden Beach, OR, a tiny the city at the coast, simply external of Lincoln City
2016-09-05 19:56:15 · answer #2 · answered by gagandeep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I got married at 25, I was ready to settle down with a woman I really cared for. I was ready to have kids, a house, the responsibility.
Now 9 years later, she tells me, she no longer wants to be married. She found herself a new boyfriend, started doing drugs, and just did not want anything to do with the kids.
Now, I have the kids, the house, and the responsibilities. I have no more wife.
From now on, The only woman in my life is my daughter. she is still a minor. She tells me to go find a girlfriend. I tell her not until you are 18. I feel I have to raise her first. I am proud of her and she is my life. Everything I do is for her. She is the best thing my wife ever did for me.
2007-04-22 02:44:36 · answer #3 · answered by Bones 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
We get married because God instituted marriage as the relationship for intimate sharing of our very selves, this includes sexual and emotional sharing.
marriage is also the best environment to have and raise children with security and love. The commitment in marriage is absent in most affairs, even if they are the sexual kind. Sex outside of marrige is not the same, even with the same partner, the legal commitment takes it to a whole new level of enjoyment.
In marriage, we join another human being in an attempt to make and perfect who we are. In the best marriages, couples find out they complement each other in ways that is almost synergistic, they are OK as individuals but they are better as a couple.
2007-04-22 02:49:43 · answer #4 · answered by phyllop 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why? Just because we happen to agree with it as a meaningful social convention.
Because we have enough love, enough committment and concern for the other person that we have no reason NOT to get married. We don't run from committment.
And it's not a piece of paper or some vows that keep loving adults together. It's their love and sense of responsibility.
2007-04-22 09:00:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is an institution started by our society. It is done to give ligitimacy to a relationship between a male and a female. In India, bigamy is normally termed as illegal. Marriage is solomenised to grow a family in a ligitimate and legal manner. However, in today's world people go in for live-in relationship etc., which cannot be a substitute for a marriage.
2007-04-22 02:43:14 · answer #6 · answered by dipaks262006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not only for sex. Marriage is an institution which is based on love, trust, understanding & sacrifice. Even animals have sex & give birth to their young ones.But they are not binded by society, culture or surroundings. But we humans are living in a civilised world where importance is given to moral values.
2007-04-22 02:59:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me, once people want to get married to each other. Then it might be more than just sex itself. For me, I married to my husband, because I am in love with a very great man. Who is everything to me and I want him to be the only person who I am coming home to everyday and the only person I am have sex with for the rest of our life.
2007-04-22 02:56:11 · answer #8 · answered by Lilian 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People get married for the companionship. and security. Commitment. To raise a family together. To be life long parners.
2007-04-22 02:44:19 · answer #9 · answered by Wild Bill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is not the only factor why couple get married; its one way of expressing their deepest love. However, we get married because we want to have our own family. And we want that person to be part of our dreams and part of our life forever.
2007-04-22 04:02:18 · answer #10 · answered by gandakoh 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋