2007-04-22 01:06:39 · 30 answers · asked by robsmith6502 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just discovered my missus has been unfaithful again... this the 7th time! I have some very personal pics of her taken by him and feel that distributing thess might teach her a lesson - what do you think?
2007-04-22 01:11:02 · update #1
Why stoop down to her level? Would it make you feel better to distribute her private pics? If yes, then what would that make you? Rise above this.
2007-04-22 01:09:57 · answer #1 · answered by Batty Natty 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My question is...why are you still with someone who has been unfaithful 7 times?? I'm sure the answer is that you love her but come on! Don't you think you deserve more than this for your life?? I pray you do not have children because this is a terible way of life for them to be learning!!! She will not change and obviously will keep being unfaithful to you! Don't you worry about STD's?? She needs to be single...not married. Do what you want but, I could not live in that kind of relationship! You will never be able to trust her! Find someone you can trust and who will not take advantage of you like this! As for the pictures...burn them! Distributing this is senseless and childish. She may even be the type to like them published! Good luck and GOD bless... you
2007-04-22 02:42:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am wondering why are you are such a wimp, and you can't keep your wife at home. It is obvious that she has a high sex drive and you don't. Why do you let her cheat on you? Why do you let her belittle you? Why are you still with her? Why would you want to distribute her private pictures and humiliate yourself more? Once I can see a partner cheating... and you forgiving. Twice maybe .. but 7 times tell us all, that you like to be hurt. You are a submissive person and your wife walks all over you. Why do you put yourself through this? You really need help. Seek professional help unless you are 13 years old. Be a man, first divorce her now.... go find a woman that can be true to you... and grow up.
2007-04-22 01:25:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to answer your question with a question...how long are you going to "permit" that situation to continue? Stop thinking like a victim which is precisely what feeling revenge is about. 7 incidents of infidelity is 7 too many. I can see "forgiveness" the first time, and at that point - you should have made professional marriage counseling a condition of that forgiveness - and at that point made divorce a consequence if she refused to go. In reality - you don't have a marriage. And no, you should not distribute private pics. For one thing, without a "model's release", you leave yourself open to a legal situation you really don't want.
Time to fish or cut bait - simple as that.
2007-04-22 01:20:47 · answer #4 · answered by scorp5543 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No...that would make you just as bad as she is. If she has cheated on you seven times, then she most likely is going to keep cheating. So, the best thing you could do is get out of the relationship, or else you'll always be feeling the need to get revenge. Because she'll just keep hurting you like this. Get your revenge by walking away and not letting her be able to hurt you anymore. And finding someone that really loves you and is faithful.
2007-04-22 01:34:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best revenge you can have is to leave her. Walk out, forget about the pics, forget abt her. Just leave. That'll teach her because she'll come crawling back and when you tell her no more, never again... the effect will be more lasting and painful than any nude pics or flicks!
2007-04-22 06:32:15 · answer #6 · answered by Cher B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know its only been 7 times, maybe you have just caught her 7 times. So.... I would assume that most of the local men have seen her private parts so whats the point?
Instead of getting revenge, just divorce her... don't waste your time on the tart anymore, now that would teach her a lesson.
2007-04-22 02:30:45 · answer #7 · answered by benn26k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that wouldn't work. For a start that course of action isn't legal, and if she was looking for excuse to divorce you anyway then her lawyers would wipe the floor with you if you did that.
The best course of action would be to file for divorce. You might tolerate an affair once or maybe even twice, but SEVEN times clearly indicates that your marriage is unsalvagable.
2007-04-22 01:13:52 · answer #8 · answered by a1mandrake 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I respect your desire to work things out with her, but 7 times? I can see once, maybe even twice...but seven?
As far as the pictures are concerned, that's Pandora's Box. Once it's done, it's done. I think you might be better off talking to a lawyer and seeing how you can get a divorce while maintaining as much property as possible.
2007-04-22 01:13:44 · answer #9 · answered by Pythagoras 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you need to divorce her before you end up with an STD.
Revenge really isn't what it's cracked up to be. It just means you care so much that you can't just walk away. Trust me, walking away and not looking back will hurt her so much more than you spending days (weeks, months, years) trying to wreck revenge on each other.
2007-04-22 01:10:36 · answer #10 · answered by Kaia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋