he still telling me that he loves me, that he didn't stop the divorce but still don't know what will be.the hope to divorce is getting smaller because he is home more then 2 months. he is telling me that still have chance our dreams to come true. Only to wait.But how long to wait. I love him and i didn't see him 2 weeks. I didn't want i told him that is better not to see me and talk to me but we talking on messenger.Telling me that he still love me, what i have from that? I'm feeling more worst.
I wrote him e-mail now. I gave him 2 solution, very soon to divorce and to be with me and second to stay at home and forget me, no talking,no meeting, nothing.
We were in very big love, those feelings never happened to me, he was calling me every day 20 times, we were meeting every day 2-3 times, we were talking of our future and children: David and Sara.
What to do?
Please somebody to give me some thinking
2007-04-22 00:51:43 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Shame on you for being with a married man. Respect the sanctity of marraige and let him fix his lifelong bond with his wife.
Go find a single man to be with.
2007-04-22 00:55:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why do there seem to be hundreds of people asking the same question here, just with the details slightly different?
If he's trying to fix his marriage, then that means you're out of the picture.
What do you think he'll do when he's with you? If he's used to having an affair, are you ready for that?
Why do you want to be with a married man anyway? That's a recipe for disaster. There are tons of single men out there. If you can fall in love with that guy, you can fall in love with someone else too.
Everybody goes through some pain. Now it's your time. Forget the guy, change your phone number, move, do whatever you have to do to sever the relationship. Be single for awhile and feel the pain. Then maybe you'll end up finding someone who suits you much better.
2007-04-22 01:01:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a word for you, the word is, R E B O U N D.
If you get together with a man who is in the process of a divorce you need to understand that you are not going to be the last woman on his list. He will either go back to his wife, or in time enter into another relationship.
How long do you wait for him to come back to you? About an hour should do it. If he really wanted to leave his wife, he would have done it the first time.
It's never easy to walk away from someone whom you THINK you love, but if you want your life to move forward, you must.
If it was meant to be, it will be. But do NOT sit around and wait for this one. It is not meant to be.
2007-04-22 02:35:52 · answer #3 · answered by Do or do not, there is no try. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe instead of thinking about future children, give a thought to the child he has now. I am sorry that you are hurting, but this man is married. It is not right. His character might not be that good if he could have you stringing along plus the family he has been disloyal to. I think you should show some respect for yourself and others and walk away. You often hear about these situations and the men don't leave their family. Take some time, and hopefully you will find someone to love you for you and have a family with (and who would be a good father who would not desert his children). Good luck.
2007-04-22 00:58:18 · answer #4 · answered by Max 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was going to tell you you are silly to wait. But, you have the brains to tell his to make up his mind, via those e- mails. Forget the guy. He HAS chosen. It is quite likely his marriage will end sooner or later, but you'd be nuts to keep waiting until he resolves his family problems. Have NOTHING more to do with him. NOTHING. Even though you will hurt, the correct thing for ANYBODY to do is in this situation, is to back off, and let them try to save their marriage. BUT, you should just move on, and forget the guy. One more thing, he'll probably try to contact you, may well separate again, reconcile again, leave- some folks do that for years. He may want to see you too, to cry on your shoulder, or give you that old line- " I love you, but have to stay for the children for a little while longer. I don't love my wife, and we don't sleep together. I'll soon be able to be with you always." I doubt you are silly enough to buy that, but he'll try. You hurt now, but you are a good person, and WILL meet a guy open to a real relationship.
2007-04-22 02:25:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, this is why you don't date married men. This is so common that it's almost pathetic.
You need to take control back and tell him you've changed your mind. You have decided he needs to stay married, and you are moving on. He is NOT to contact you ever again, and then you cry for awhile and move on. Don't take any calls, or text messages, change your email account or block him.
If he loved you THAT much, he wouldn't have gone back, and the divorce would be final.
(*hug*) I've been in this same position ONE time. Even if he does EVER divorce (and he probably won't), if he'd cheat on this wife, there is no reason to believe he'd treat marriage to you with any more respect.
2007-04-22 01:04:34 · answer #6 · answered by Kaia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL. This is the biggest joke I had all morning. You are crazy.
Here are the rules:
1. Never date a married man.
2. Never date a married man, who is separated from his wife.
3. Never date a married man, who tells you he will leave his wife.
4. Never date a married man, who tells you he cannot leave because of the children.
5. Never date a married man, because he can make all the excuses in the world and you just have to live with it.
Consequences:
When you date a married man, if he eventually marry you, he will eventually CHEAT ON YOU, the same way he cheated on his wife, and leave you for someone else.
Things to do:
1. Change your telephone number and stop calling or texting him.
2. Block all his emails from coming to you and also stop emailing him.
3. Do not allow him to visit you at home or work.
4. Wash him out of your life, because you are definitely in for a lot of trouble if you do not.
2007-04-22 01:00:30 · answer #7 · answered by Gregory M 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Face it girlie, that is the price you pay for getting involved with a married man in the first place. He probably never had any intentions of divorcing his wife and leaving his children anyway...he was just using you. Sorry to be blunt but none-the-less usually the case. Move on and find a nice guy that is not attached.
2007-04-22 03:14:42 · answer #8 · answered by susie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not there because of his daughter. He is there because he wants to be there. There will always be a new excuse why he can't leave because deep down he doesn't want to. A man who truly loves you, would stop at nothing to be with you and would never degrade you by putting you in a position of being the other woman.
2007-04-22 01:03:16 · answer #9 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by telling him to make a decision.
It worries me that he is at home trying to supposably fix his marriage and still contacting you. I am not sure I like his morals much.
I am sorry for your pain, but if you do not want to be strung along, you should break it off. Tell him to call you when or if he is single and to otherwise leave you alone. Sorry.
2007-04-22 00:58:31 · answer #10 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is having both his wife and you on the side get rid off him. He should try to make his marriage work for his child's sake. If he can treat his wife like this why wouldn't he do it to you as well?he will he wont change go and get your own man and have a happy future
2007-04-22 00:58:26 · answer #11 · answered by deb m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋