My boyfriend and I are taking a break. It was my idea as I wanted to save our relationship. He was ready to break up as he thought he cannot make me happy. We have decided not to contact each other during the next couple of months..we both have gone through some life changes and the stress we both felt brough our relationship down. We decided to focus on ourselves to sort our lives out and then talk later to see how we feel.. the thing is it's been 3 weeks and I am finding it hard and I miss him so much, I want to contact him? Is it a good idea?
2007-04-21 23:08:28 · 26 answers · asked by Elisa N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
not till you're both ready
2007-04-21 23:10:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi! Like i always say to my girl friends, 1st of all what you did is right, taking time is a good thing try to reminisce the things you guy went through. But the most important thing is focus what lies ahead not the past, yes i know you miss him a lot but remember this go to your mirror and look at yourself, your hot, pretty, sexy and beautiful... come on girl theres tons of guys you would break a leg just to be with you trust me if he wants you back he'll be there if he doesnt too bad for him, cause what i see out there is a bunch of guys at a line waiting for you, just remember focus dont worry.
2007-04-21 23:17:33 · answer #2 · answered by slappn25 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-22 23:51:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself don't believe in taking a break for a couple of months. I think maybe a couple of weeks but you might grow apart. Why don't you contact him and talk to him. I don't think it's wise if you're not even talking. Talking is a big PART of the relationship.
2007-04-22 00:17:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself are you more miserable now that you dont have any contact with him or before when he was with you. If you miss him contact him- you may loose him if you leave it too long. You need to explain to him howto make you happy as he feels this is breaking the relationship apart. Good Luck
2007-04-21 23:48:40 · answer #5 · answered by shy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking a break for months??Not a very good idea...it's normal for you to be feeling this way and I guess he must be feeling the same too..But if the break up is to save the relationship try not to call him..Instead email/sms just to check on him and to tell him that you miss him.......
2007-04-21 23:13:31 · answer #6 · answered by J F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww, i'm quite helpful all and sundry sounds like that frequently. i know it is not common, yet attempt to no longer stay to tell the story how undesirable you're feeling. Spend time doing something you get exhilaration from, or something that often cheers you up - watch your wide-unfold action picture, hear to three of your wide-unfold songs etc yet make helpful they are chuffed songs! bypass to the mall and take care of your self - purchase your self something you have needed for a on an identical time as, a clean appropriate or a clean CD or something - new outfits continually cheer me up. :] Pamper your self! Take a protracted bubble tub, easy some candles and only loosen up. Then positioned on a facemask, paint your nails etc. Make your self a warm chocolate with marshmallows and cream - warm beverages continually make you experience extra appropriate. additionally, make your wide-unfold meal for dinner. in case you experience like crying, then permit your self cry - you will experience extra appropriate afterwards. additionally, regardless of if it must be puzzling, attempt thinking extra unquestionably approximately issues - write a catalogue of all the good issues approximately your self, and all the flaws you're good at, issues you have performed, issues you like approximately your self and all the good issues on your life, and it could make you experience extra appropriate. If all else fails, then have an early night - you will in all probability awaken feeling extra appropriate in the morning. :]
2016-10-03 09:29:48 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This break will only help if you sort yourself out and find something else that makes you happy (not someone else) like going out with friends and getting your life in order then you can get back and be more relaxed with each other again.
2007-04-21 23:11:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the guy. If he thought he wasn't making you happy, calling him will be a sign that he was making you happy. He wants to know that. He sounds like a good guy, he wants a mutual relationship. Maybe you're on the fickle side. Someone called it the dance of love - going apart, coming back together, apart, together, apart, together, etc, etc. Hey it sounds similar to sex!
2007-04-21 23:21:12 · answer #9 · answered by xxxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If me and my, soon to be asked, girlfriend had to take a break. I would die, literally melt from the inside, by having to see her everyday and not being able to tell her even Good Morning. If your boyfriend is like me then he is probably heart-felt missing you. If he deters off the subject then there are plenty of us that are waiting for girls who care as much as I assume you do.
2007-04-21 23:13:04 · answer #10 · answered by AzianAssassin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not. Stick to what you agreed to do. There is a good reason why you are having this break, and contacting him will not make that any better. Do what you resolved to do, concentrate on yourself and sorting your own life out by yourself.
2007-04-21 23:12:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋