She yells for hours at even the slightest mention of any woman. It is driving me insane. I know she has insecurities, and I give as much understanding as possible. But I mean, she needs to get real; there is nothing wrong with a guy or a woman having a little innocent crush on a pin-up. I wish she could just see how innocent it is, and stop censoring every word I say. She will argue about it even when I talk about things not in the least related.
2007-04-21 22:42:03 · 9 answers · asked by sankyfinatra 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Something might have happened to her in the past and is still affecting her, like one of my close friends. She sometimes talks to me about problems in her relationship. Her's are pretty similar to this, but she had an awful relationship with a guy before. To say the very least he was not a good person. She moved on from the guy but the things he had done to her and said still were a problem for her.
Her current boyfriend doesn't like that she gets so insecure and jealous, but knowing her past I can hardly blame her. I've heard them fight once or twice over him always looking at other women and I don't think he gives her as much understanding and care as he thinks he does. He has also insulted her appearance while they were fighting.
Your gf's insecurities might go deeper than you realize. Try helping her overcome the problem, you might succeed. And in the end it's a win win situation - she doesn't have her insecurities, therefore isn't complaining about you liking these two women and working the problem out should bring you closer together.
Good luck.
2007-04-22 08:12:16 · answer #1 · answered by Lexi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agreed.
I think she needs some professional help because this sounds like a lot more than just insecurites. If she refuses to see how this is destroying the relationship and is unwilling to see a counselor with or without you, then it's time to leave.
2007-04-22 05:47:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she won't see how innocent it is, she will be jealous for long time take it from me i was there it takes awhile to feel secure again, just try not do do anything to make her jealous and if that doesn't work maybe you should break it off for awhile she needs to get her head on straight and learn to trust again before she can have a serious relationship. it took me 5 years before i could trust again, and now i do
2007-04-22 06:07:32 · answer #3 · answered by sharon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's feeling insecure about herself. She thinks ur going to compare her to these women and one day say she's not good enough. Calm her insecurities and try a new hobby.
Better yet, get her playgirl and let her have some fantasies of her own.
Good luck!
2007-04-22 05:47:34 · answer #4 · answered by Amy L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is incredibly insecure and will make you miserable if you stick around. I know my man looks at other women, I called him one evening, and he was having lunch with a client at Hooters of all places, but it didn't bother me. If he didn't look at women, I would wonder what was wrong with him as a man. I look at other men, too, and he knows it, and knows I subscribe to Playgirl. What counts is that he is the one with me in the bedroom when the time comes........
2007-04-22 05:53:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's being silly. I think someone has some growing up to do!
2007-04-22 05:45:50 · answer #6 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to give this advice to anyone who's in a relationship.. leave her! she reeks of insecurities.. give her a piece of your mind and if she doesn't understand, forget it.. leave!
2007-04-22 05:48:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest a foursome.
2007-04-22 05:49:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anal!
2007-04-22 05:52:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋