My older sister is really stressed this days because her friend and her seperated because of study problems. Her friend was going to travel to another side of the planet. My older sister is also heartbroken because her loyal, and ever faithful boyfriend died in a motorcycle accident. It's been 2 months but she's still hasn't overcome it. I'm worried. She's been crying in her room and she wasn't eating. She's 24. I'm 12. She's studying in a college here in Iloilo City, Philippines. She's studying at JBLCF. Any advice on what I could do to make her happy?? I tried talking to her but she's avoiding me. Please...asap. I need your answers!
2007-04-21 22:11:54 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I gave her flowers this afternoon. She kinda liked it and she smiled at me. I walked out the door.
For the first time since the 2 months, she ate dinner with me and mm and with all of our sisters and brothers! But, still, she isn't uttering a single word. After we ate, she went upstairs. I think she went to sleep. I'll update you again guys tomorrow.
2007-04-22 04:04:45 · update #1
I'm a girl. I'm not her brother!!!
2007-04-29 03:18:04 · update #2
She is still upset. I don't blame her that sound sad. I am always mad at my best friend but that's normal because we are competitive, stubborn and we are like sisters. We like the same things so that's why we argue so much. gueYou can't mend her broken heart. Watch movies with her, try not to argue, and try to keep her mind off what has happened. I'm sorry he died in a motercycle acciden. My cousin-in-law died in a motercycle accident a few months ago but she was a girl. Her name was Kelly and her boyfriend was driving with her on his motercycle as they tried to 'out run a train' and he suddenly stoped and she went flying. It was horrible. I hope your sister feels better.
2007-04-23 09:45:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kristina, you are such a wonderful sister and I am real sorry that your sister, in her grief, doesn't see that. For your age, you are very mature and you've shown that just by coming here. One member suggested to make her breakfast or bring her some handpicked flowers. Those are all good tips. She will probably try to shut you out at first, but don't give up. The loss of her boyfriend must be devastating and I don't think she can work through this on her own. Honey, try and talk to your parents and suggest that maybe your older sister should get into some sort of counseling. It can be a counselor at church, at JBLCF, or even a doctor that specializes in trauma (most likely a psychiatrist). Another thing you might try is to find her friend for her. It would be good if you could talk to her friend first and try to explain how desperately she needs that friendship, no matter what happened in the past. While you seem to be a very mature and sweet young lady, you are way too young to take on this matter by yourself. Some people on here may even be very unkind and straight up nasty with their comments. Don't listen to them, just go to the next answer you can find and see if any of them help you. As I said, I like the breakfast idea a lot! Make her her favorite food and bring it to her. Knock on her door and tell her that you have made something for her and that you've left it in front of her door on a serving tray. Don't push her with words right now. Just tell her that you love her so much and that it hurts you to see her like this. Please Hun, don't try and solve this on your own. 2 months is a very short time to grieve over the loss of a loved one, even if it seems like a lifetime to you. Again, talk to your parents or grandparents, or someone at church, even to a counselor at the school you are attending. And if you can't find the appropriate help, please come back and talk to me. I will try and help as much as I can. I have a child (15 yr. old boy) myself and know how difficult it can be when you want to help someone who acts like they don't want your help. Just keep at it, don't give up on your sister. She really needs you! You are a terrific young lady! Best wishes to you and your sister, MsB.
2007-04-21 23:29:33 · answer #2 · answered by MSB1963 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your sister needs to see a counsellor, and so she can speak to someone who knows how to deal with this situation. She may be avoiding you because of your age and she is probably trying to put on a brave face.
My advice to your sister would be to speak to her friend and see if they can make up, and when she gets a break from college go and see her friend. She needs to get away.
2007-04-21 22:16:52 · answer #3 · answered by mimsy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She has to deal with his death on her own. It will take time for her to get over his death. It's nice that you care enough for her, to want to help. A far as her friend goes, that probably be back together sooner than you think. You a real nice brother.
2007-04-29 00:09:47 · answer #4 · answered by TAMPABAYLADY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do little things like bring her handpicked flowers, make her breakfast and bring it to her (she should eat, if only of guilt). if she gets worse she might need therapy. good luck.
2007-04-21 23:07:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell her you love her and your there for her - takes time some time months some times you never get over a death. just hang in there let time do it's job
2007-04-21 22:19:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just leave her alone. That would make her happy!
2007-04-21 23:08:08 · answer #7 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
ur SOL!
which means
you're **** outta luck!
2007-04-21 22:14:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋