Do you feel like an observer…?

Question

as you watch your life quickly pass you by? Does everything feel like one big movie? For example, you explore different plots in your head as far as the direction you would like your life to go in? Are your ideas much more exciting than your reality? What is holding you back from making your fantasies a reality? For years I have felt like I do nothing but daydream and go through all these “fake” scenarios in my head. Sometimes it will be me saying things I wish I could say out loud to someone in particular (often though it is in my best interest not to say them aloud) or imagining what life would be like if I were a famous singer or actress. Such as how I’d deal with the paparazzi or what I’d talk about during magazine interviews or on late night talk shows. I know this is a complete waste of time and somewhat childish, but somehow I can’t help indulging myself. Just curious if anyone else does this as well.

I’m talking about very vivid daydreams…like watching a movie in your head.

I don’t dream of being a singer/actress so that one day I can be famous, but rather b/c I am the happiest when I am performing. Thinking about the paparazzi/interview aspect of being a successful performer is simply just an outcome of that. I don’t think feeling like an “observer” in my life and living out my dreams in my head is a good thing. I’d much rather feel like an active participant, than an observer.

As far as saying what I mean, I often do. Still, this does not stop me from imagining a conversation taking place in my head before it actually takes place in real life. Sometimes I will imagine myself saying some pretty outrageous things which is why I said before it often is not in my best interest to say certain things aloud.

Answer 1

I think that generally life is much easier for someone who is an "observer" rather than one who acts like a dramatic soap-opera character. Learning how to play the role of the observer in your life is very rewarding.

Answer 2

Hi there ping pong girl!


I know what you mean. Every one wants something different from the life that they have. You are not an exception .

It is good to be an observer, but sometimes just say what you mean, you will see the difference.

You like to dream just like me. Instead accepting the fact who you are and what life you have, you dream to become famous.

I've been there done that. I thought being famous will make me happy.

I'm sorry to disappoint you, but it is the opposite. After all you don't have to deal with cruel people, you don't know the emptiness you feel,you can't communicate with people who wants to take the best of you, for their own personal interest.

So when I got back in my ordinary life...first I was depressed...but then came the clear image...you don't need to be a movie star to be special. You are already special. Ask your parents, friends, how much you done for them...and there lays the answer.

Be special by doing ordinary things. And who knows what the future brings.

I wish you luck in finding your true happiness.

Answer 3

I have and do it some. Maybe not to the extent you seem to. I think most people do it to one degree another. I can see where I have had times that I have done it more and then don't do it as much for awhile. I figure that it might not be a complete waste of time. It allows us to use our immagination and to project/plan. I think it might be a sign of creativity seeking an outlet.

Answer 4

Oh god yes, everyday. No matter how small or big it is, I will make it even bigger in my head. It's like one big soap opera going on in my head and me as the central star. I think about how it would be if I had to be on the Oprah show for things or what will happen if someone is shot right in front of me. Seriously what goes on in my brain is ridiculous.

Answer 5

I observe people all the time and just watch what they do to get a good sense of who they are.

Answer 6

I think everyone does it at somepoint or another. It is how I stay grounded. And motivated.

Answer 7

I do !! I think I am too timid to do it in reality.