So, my teenage (18) daughter is pregnant. Here's my questions: 1. She is pretty well set up on major items like crib, stroller, car seat, etc. How do I word it on the shower invites that we really need diapers of all sizes, wipes, lotions, etc.? (the daily esentials) 2. I was the pariah of the famaily for MY un-wed pregnancy status (ironically with THIS daughter). I just (after 18 years) began communicating with one side of my family and now they'll be tsk-tsk'ing this latest development and certainly the "like mother like daughter" comments. I certainly cannot NOT invite them as they'll see it as hiding it from them. Should I word anything differently in the invites to them? Should I write some sort of letter? do I just send the invite "as-is" and let it go at that? My dad will be furious as this makes him a great-grandpa. He hasn't gotten used to being a grandpa yet. The grandkids don't even call him grandpa, just a pet name that doesn't reflect grandpa status. HELP! shower is 5/6
2007-04-21 19:58:53 · 8 answers · asked by Barb P 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Have a game at the shower....a raffle maybe?? Include a slip of paper in the invite telling people that there will be a diaper raffle. Everyone that brings a package of diapers will be entered into the raffle....and then make sure that raffle is REALLY nice!!
As far as the family....forget them. Who cares how someone got pregnant. The point is....there is a baby coming and that is a Miraculous and Joyous event!! Celebrating baby is about the baby....not about tsk-ing. And if that side of the family has nothing better to do than worry about things like that.....just look beyond it. Be the stronger person here....and just be proud of your daughter and your grandchild. If they are going to be snobs....THEY are the ones missing out.
Go all out....really make a big deal out of this. It will make you feel better and you can share excitement with your daughter that no one ever showed you!! You, obvioulsy, did a fine job as a mom and I am sure she will too!!
So....do the diaper raffle thing and maybe make the theme of the shower "Bath Time Showers and Sleepy Time Hours". Register for just these items. Realize people are going to bring whatever they want to (they always do) but if they check the registry they will see what she needs.....
I make diaper cakes by the way......I would love to help you celebrate this special occasion. I do custom work and would love to create a distinctive cake just for your new grandchild!! I shall put the link below (there is also a great page on my site with some fun shower activities!!)
2007-04-22 15:52:33 · answer #1 · answered by diapercakesbybecca 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1.) I don't see why you couldn't include a wish list in or with the invitation. It could state the things she already has and the things she will need most. After all, what is a gift registry really other than a wish list.
2.) At the bottom of the list of most needed items, I would add "lots of family love and support". Perhaps that would give some first hint that you will not allow your daughter to go through the heart ache that you had to endure.
If you haven't already, you might want to forewarn your daughter of what she can expect of certain family members and others.
Lastly, when someone does say something negative, I would not fault you for quietly taking them aside, tell them that you will not expose your daughter and grand-child to their negative attitudes, let them know that you would like them in your lives but are prepared to let them go if they can not be supportive.
Good luck to you all.
2007-04-23 06:06:17 · answer #2 · answered by Tom K 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well baby shower invitations are meant to be very sweet. Usually with rhymes, name, location, time. Thats it.
If you believe that you want certain things, its best just to get those registries in which people go to the store, have it printed, look at it and buy anything on the list. It is a hassle but its a lot better than "Please get diapers, etc." on the baby shower card :)
2007-04-21 20:02:45 · answer #3 · answered by Sp!ffy. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the only person who has to support your daughter is you. It's not the 1950's anymore and people from that generation are stuck in it. As far as the Invitation, register somewhere and put it on the invitation. Then people just go where you are registered and get EXACTLY what you want.
Congrats Grandma and good luck with the new blessing in your family
2007-04-21 20:03:40 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer P 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just send the invites as-is. As for your family, especially your father, he should change his tune when the baby actually gets here if he is any kind of decent grandfather at all. How do I know this?
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2007-04-21 20:05:47 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Personally i wouldn't make a party out of this, you'd be wiser to just tell people that she is pregnant and just let them bring things the baby needs, when they get a chance....having a party for her leaves no incentive to not get pregnant again....
just some friendly advice.
Not making a "party" ouit of your daughters unwed pregnancy might get the more conservative side of your family involved with the babies needs and still lets them avoid having to support what she's done.
2007-04-21 20:14:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
just sent the invites as is tell friends that you need daily essentials
2007-04-21 20:07:26 · answer #7 · answered by Nora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just have a diaper shower....
2007-04-21 20:06:47 · answer #8 · answered by justcurious 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋