I was on a swim team all throughout high school and college. Then I got a great paying job, but I was getting fat because I didn't have enough to time to swim. Many people told me I was dumb and immature for quitting, but I quit. After a few months, I started my own business with NO help from my parents, and began making more money than at my old office job, AND I have a lot of free time now. I'm in really good shape now because of swimming, I have all my hair, so EVERYONE tells me I look younger, some people think I'm in high school. Even though I make a good living, my dad is always telling me to "grow up". He hates that I'm always swimming, or doing tricks on either my skateboard or rollerblades. I bought a trampoline, and began going to the gymnastics center again. I started doing le parkour, jumping from roofs, rock climbing, rappelling, and climbing trees. My dad says I act like a 16 year old, but I make good money.
Why is it such a problem for him what I do for fun?
2007-04-21 18:25:38 · 12 answers · asked by Document Guy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Health Insurance is actually one of the first things on my list of priorities. I am covered for any accident I may have.
2007-04-21 18:37:49 · update #1
Tell him that you are a grownup and can do whatever you want as long as you take care of all of you responsibilities. Doing what you do will give you a healthier mind and body that will last into your older years. Keep up what you are doing.
2007-04-21 21:51:49 · answer #1 · answered by orcarius 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your Father will never see you as an adult. In a lot of parents eyes you are still his/hers little boy/girl. Honestly that will never change. Your father is being a father by not liking how you run your life with all the jumping from roofs, rock climbing and rappelling which even to me seem like dangerous activities. He is most likely scared something will happen to you. When a parent says "grow up" its always-in conjunction with an activity or action that can hurt you in the long run. He is just being your father. I would be worried if he didn’t seem to care. But since yours does, take it for what it is; he just loves you, wants you safe and taken care of.
2016-05-20 23:50:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your father probably sees your activities as something only children do, my father would think the same way and not because he was jealous. He may think differently and have very narrow opinions of what is "right" for a responsible adult. You are probably an Adrenalin junkie and he is not. I don't think you are going to change his outlook. Just try not to let it bother you. Find some things to do together and maybe don't mention the extreme sports. Good Luck!
2007-04-21 18:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by Smilinez 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When you break your neck and become a quadraplegic, or get a head injury and become permanently brain damaged,how will you pay for the medical expenses and support yourself (at great expense) for life?
Making money is NOT the only aspect of life that signals maturity. Being responsible is just as important.
Do you have millions of dollars of health insurance coverage? Do you have a quality Disability Insurance policy?
If not ...... grow up.
2007-04-21 18:32:47 · answer #4 · answered by Doctor J 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like he resents you for some reason. You need to sit down and tell him how you feel. Tell him that it hurts your feelings when he insults you and that although you may still enjoy some of the things that you mentioned that you are very responsible and you have proven it by the way you have progressed in your careers. If he cant accept you for who you are than ignore him and try not to let it get to you.
2007-04-21 18:32:06 · answer #5 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I get the feeling that your dad may be jealous of your lifestyle. That is just my opinion. Why dont you sit down with him and have a mature man to man conversation about this and ask him what his problem is about you running your own business and other things that bother him about you?
2007-04-21 18:48:52 · answer #6 · answered by Katherine S 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like you need to tell him the same thing! Remind him you are old enough to make you decisions on what you want to do in your spare time and he should not be worried about it. Do you make more money than he does? Maybe he is just jealous.
2007-04-21 18:54:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with your father, you are 25 years old, so behave like one.
Who will end up taking care of you if you end up in a wheel chair. What 25 year old jumps from roofs. I agree, grow up.
You may have your own business, but you are emotionally immature.
2007-04-21 18:54:23 · answer #8 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Maybe he is jealous! What does he do for a living? Do you make more money than him?
Maybe he wants to have a second childhood and he sees what you are doing as a threat, instead of being proud of you!!
2007-04-21 18:42:43 · answer #9 · answered by Rhonda B 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
because he probably not able to do the things that you are doing. I say go a head and be happy and safe doing it....another reason is because the things you are doing...some of them are risky....and he See's this as immature.
2007-04-21 18:43:30 · answer #10 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋