to be contd...crush moving away...more info...?

Question

i have her number, email address, and she wants to go out with me, but 2 concerns: leaving for the east coast, and recently had a bad breakup..i had nothing to do with it but we prob had a closer relationship than we should have at that point..she is moving closer to her family, and wants me to visit her...but how often can u really fly across the country u know...we are also both grad students in school...complicated to say the least

Answer 1

Even more complicated is your answer. You've got three choices really, which makes for sever different outcomes with there own respective anwsers, but maybe I can get you in the right direction. Two are basically going the tradional route, you could just start cutting it off right now and slowly began to move back into your own lives, along that same path you could continue to do what you can to keep seeing each other, relating over the phone, just anything you can to keep it together. Another less traditional route is to except that your lives at this point well never meld together the way you guys would "tranidionally" expect, that is their is no gauentee future together the way you guys have been taught to see it. But you could still continue to develp the relationship. Keep the friendship alive, that is if you can sacrifice that possiablility and accept that it wasn't met for you two. But that a possibaly relationship based on past history, trust, and hopes for each others futures. You could use this better then any of the more traditional ways and it doesn't forfiet a relationship in the future. Its just going to come down to if you guys can still relate good to each other, even thou you guys are trying to live your seperate lives.... ether way its a shame, but happens often, its going to come down to what you really want from this relationship. Someone to be in this world just for you, or a great friends... the choose is up to you...