Did she really have to react like THAT? Jesus.....?

Question

I was at a party and met this girl I had met previously a couple months before.......she had remembered me and started talking to me and I remembered how cute i thought she was, so I was flirting with her a bit, but then moved on.........I had friends I haven't seen in a while, and I remember she told me several times that she was going to be leaving for another party but may be coming back later.
Well the thing was, I saw her after an awkward moment of being one of several guys that forgot her name (we're human it happens), so while we were kidding around, I asked her (after like the 4th time she went out of her way to tell me she was leaving and "may" be coming back, I took it as a sign and said "In case you may not be coming back tonight, you mind if I give you a call sometime?",
then her eyes darted toward the other direction and she gritted her teeth and looked like she was in deep thought.
My heart sank........Why was that wrong?
So she then said "Yeah, I think I'll be coming back", hardly looking at me and then walking away. Then she never came back again and to be honest, it was embarrassing. Im 26, btw, so it hurt even more. She was probably a few years younger. Let me point out, that even though I got my ego bruised, it was more my pride that got pounded because I consider myself outgoing, friendly, and assertive when need be. At this time, I felt I had played it cool and not talked her ear off when she started talking to me again, and Im not a player. So it's not like i had all these different gfs and I hit on her.....
This happened on New Year's Eve btw and it still hurts. Why am I letting this affect me so much?

Why is it that i would rather eat glass than go through that again? You have to understand that her reaction was an underscore of lots of disappointment in my love life......life in general really. At 26, don't you find that to be a little embarrassing? I didn't know I was a 70 year old convicted sex-offender. You know, I didn't know that.

Answer 1

Stop torturing yourself by dwelling on stuff like this. You are blowing it way out of proportion and sabotaging your life.

I had a friend who was a real player. Below average looks, not all that smart, bankrupt, ex-wives and 4 kids and he had out of his league women he treated like Kleenex standing in line for him.

All he really did to achieve all this dating success was make a pass at every female that he came in contact with. He got blown off alot worse than you 10 times a day and he could care less, he just went on to the next.

Like skiing, if you are not crashing and burning, you are not trying hard enough. So....are going to cowboy up and ride or just lay there and bleed?

Answer 2

just move on. really. **** happens. dwelling on it makes it worse. i laugh about stuff like that. actually that wasn't even nearly bad enough to laugh at. i do *really* stupid stuff (or really stupid stuff happens to me) and you have to see humor in it. i could write a book on just the faupaux that I commit - in fact someone suggested the other day that i do so.