potty training my 23 month old need help!!!!!!!?

Question

My son is 23 months old and recently has been teaking his diaper off mostly at night when I put him to bed in his crib. He'll take it off and pee or poop. this has been going on for about a week now. We tried to potty train him we bought a little potty chair and he screams and I mean SCREAM, we have tried almost everything we have a 5 year old and he was sooooo easy, every child is diffrent so I need some advice. what can I do to get him to not be afraid and maybe is he too young?

Answer 1

Well, first of all to curb the problem of him taking off his diaper at night. I would put the diaper on backwards and if that doesn't help, put a onsie on him backwards. that should prevent him from taking it off! As for the potty training thing...First try sitting it in the living room. Let him use it as a chair to watch tv. Sit him at the coffee table or a small table on the potty chair with his clothes on and let him eat a favorite snack. After a few days of this, try sitting him on the potty chair with no clothes on. Don't make it obvious though! Give him a bath, then afterwards, just don't dress him and ask him if he wants a snack. Then sit him at the potty chair at the little table or in front of the tv and give him a juice box and some cereal or something small. Make sure his penis is tucked into the potty chair. Let him set there and eat his snack. If he still screams, go back to clothes on for a while. He may not like the hole in the potty. It kind of feels to kids like they are going to fall through. (even if it's a small hole.) Another thing to try is letting him pee standing up. Put a few fruit loops in the potty and tell him to pee on them or "squirt" them. It's kind of a fun game for boys to play! Good luck and don't give up! Consistancy is key when you're potty training!

Answer 2

There are two different ways. The first one was told to me by a friend, they told someone to put marbles in the potty chair and they would be trained in no time. The other and more scientific way is to use behavior modification. Find out what the child likes but doesn't have easy access to and offer that for going on the potty. No one will ever do anything without having a good reason to do so. Give the child a good reason, do not punish for not being potty trained that will do more harm than good. There are also the pull-ups they have now. My son isn't old enough yet, so I am NOT speaking from experience only what I have heard. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Every child is different. No matter if he takes his diaper off or not, please DO NOT force him to use a potty. He will "go potty" in his own time and there are ways to make it interesting for him if it helps him. If you do force him, it could be longer before he will even try to potty train....It has to be in his own time, on his own terms.

Like other people have said, you can get books and videos on potty training. You can also try putting the potty in a more comfortable place like your living room in front of the television while he is watching a potty training video or while you are reading a potty training book.

Whatever you try, good luck with it! And just remember, he will go potty when he is ready. My first child didn't start until he was three and a half.

Answer 4

Haha, yes potty training is tricky! My daughter (a little over 2) loves to sit on the potty. She'll sit there for 15 minutes sometimes, but she NEVER actually goes. I had her on there for a long time after she got up from her nap once. Her diaper was dry so I put her on. She sat and sat, nothing. Then she got up, I put on her diaper and immediately peed in it! She just won't go on the potty!! I think it's funny, but soon I'll probably try the reusable training pants with plastic pants, then she'll most likely hate the wet feeling when she pees herself and start actually GOING on the potty. The way I got her to like sitting on the potty is I set a kitchen timer by her and put it on for a couple minutes. I said "Sit here and when the timer goes off you can have a treat". At first she didn't understand so I'd only set it for a short time, but afterwhile she saw that as soon as it started beeping and she was still sitting there she got a piece of candy, or something. Now she just likes sitting on it and I don't even use the timer or give her candy anymore.

Answer 5

My son refused to poop outside of his diaper and we tried everything imaginable. If we withheld a diaper, he would hold his poop and become constipated. Finally, we bought a little potty seat, put it in the living room in front of his favorite show, and had him sit on it with a blanket over his lap. He was 3 1/2 and it finally worked...

Your child is only 23 months and really I would not push potty training too much. When they are ready, they are ready...

Answer 6

If he is still peeing and pooping at night, then it doesn't look like his body has the control yet to be able hold it through the night.

It seems like he's frustrated with it because he wants to be ready, but his body is not. That part cannot be trained on its own, it just needs to mature.

You might want to check on him before he actually wakes you up and see if he needs to go.

My own son took until 2 1/2. We were frustrated, too. However, as soon as his body and mind were in sync, he never had an accident after an intense few days of getting him to try every hour or so.

Good luck to you. Don't worry. It not his fault and he'll get there!

Answer 7

Potty training can be very tricky, I know. My daughter was not fully potty trained until she was close to 4. She used to would take off her diaper also. Maybe you could invest in some of the plastic lining sheets for his crib. I know kids will display some strange behavior patterns when they are "getting ready" to start potty training. The most important thing for me to remember was patience. See, the more we push as parents to go in the big potty, with some kids the more they will resist. So patience and timing is crucial. I also had to learn to "lighten up" somewhat too. All kids are ready at different rates, and it is highly unlikely a kid will be going to their high school graduation still in diapers!!!! Good luck.

Answer 8

Alot of very good answers here.

Is he too young? If he shows bladder control by waking up dry, telling you he has to go, or peeing when asked to, then he probably is physically ready.

My son and daughter were helped tremendously by The Potty Stool. My son was able to learn to pee standing up just like his dad and loved making bubbles in the toilet with his aim. Using the stool was so rewarding for him that we never had to bribe or traumatize the kids. Kids respond to praise and parents have to work to make training a pleasant experience.

I bet your son would really love to imitate his 5 year old brother on the toilet and the Potty Stool would let him do this.

Hang in there. You have been through this before and you can do it again!

Answer 9

He is too young. I have a 5 year old boy and a 22 month old boy. Most boys are fully trained by the age of three. You need to wait till he shows some interest (he tells you he has to go, he knows when he is wet, and he has a dry diaper in the morning). These signs show he can hold his urine and knows when he has to go and is aware when he has an accident. Put him in a onsie at night so he can't get out of his diaper. Good luck.

Answer 10

He's decided he doesn't like the feel of being solied. Now he knows how to avoid the feeling!

Let him watch a video or read some books with him about "big boys" using the potty. I used undies & rubbers with my two girls, but they make Pull Ups now too that he can learn to take on & off by himself.

If he's of reasoning age (only you know), it may be useful to use rewards & (dare I say punishment). "If you take off your pamper and poop (anywhere other than the toilet), you're going to have to sit in time-out (on the toilet)." Or, in the other direction, "If you potty in the toilet, you can have (insert toy here)." If he's really physically ready, bribary can't hurt.

Don't fret too much. I think the average age for boys is around 30-36 months.