Its a small wedding. shes not spending much. And she cant really afford anything big, and Maids-of honor do a lot and I dont have a job so what can i do??
2007-04-21 16:53:18 · 9 answers · asked by futuresuperstar_91 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
As others have said, just being there for her and giving support is all you really NEED to do, and I'm sure your sister loves you very much to have given you this honour! She's quite aware of your circumstances and doubt she expects you to spend a lot of money on her!
One thing I can think of though.. if you can drive, you can be her Designated Driver! If you plan a girls night out/bachelorette party at a restaurant instead of a bar, you could go along and the rest of the girls could get silly and you could drive them home safely! I'll bet your parents would be happy to pay your share to know everyone would be safe!
Or if you don't drive.. you could do a girls night IN! Once she's married I doubt they'll be many pyjama parties, and those can be great fun! And cheap too :D
Other than that.. just keep your eyes open for things you can help with.. making decorations, addressing invites and thank you cards (go ahead.. do them before the wedding.. if you find you don't need them at least you'll know right away who the tightwads were!).
Oh.. and I just thought of something... my younger daughter gave a present to my older one at xmas that brought tears to my eyes... they fight a lot... but underneath it all they still love each other. It's an etched glass picture frame.. she found an old pic of them together years ago, at about 11 and 15... and the engraving is "Sisters - God made us sisters, Hearts made us friends". I kinda confiscated it cuz I loved it... but something like that from you to her.... so a bit of you goes with her to her new home... I think she'd like that! Better than a toaster..hehe :)
2007-04-23 21:59:59 · answer #1 · answered by endorable 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This a honor that your sister has given to you. The maid of honor is the most special person to the bride. The maid of honor has several duties to fulfill. The main one and most important is this....HELP! help her with choices, shopping, favors, anything that she needs help with.
If your sister is given in showers you will need to attend with her. That's another biggie. If no one is planning a shower for her, then ask an aunt or another friend to help you with this.
It could be a small shower with just a few close friends or you could have a big event. Hopefully, someone is all ready doing this.
The bridesmaids and maid of honor usually have a girl's night out. With you only being 16 this maybe a little harder if their night involves going to a nightclub. You are going to have to sit that party out. But you and the bridesmaids could give her a little private party. A "honeymoon" shower get her pretty nighties and sexy underwear that sort of thing. Invite only her closest of friends to it, so it's kind of personal, a girlie thing.
Remember this, sweetie, Your sister is going to be nervous, jumpy and excited all rolled into one. If she snaps don't let it bother you if you can. Just try to help, and tell her you are there to do anything that needs doing even the not so fun things, like clean-up. Hope this helped just a little. You are going to do great! Why do I know this? Because you are seeking advice as how to do the job right! She's lucky to have you!
God bless us all........
2007-04-21 18:56:41 · answer #2 · answered by totallylost 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your parents, specifically your mom (if she's around); tell them you really want to help out but don't have the funds to. Maybe they can lead you some money that you can use for your expenses as maid of honor. Then this summer, you can get a small job and pay them back.
Budget on how much you want to spend on different items; such as her shower gift, bachelorette party, wedding gift, your attire, or anything else that might come up.
2007-04-21 17:18:13 · answer #3 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maids of honor do a lot but that does not mean they have to spend a lot of money. MOH means you are there for moral support and to talk to when she turn into "bridezilla" or maybe gets cold feet. My MOH was a God send! She threw me a nice shower and made all of the food herself (ok with my help when she realized she could not do it all on her own) but she really put effort into it and that meant the world to me. She went dress shopping with me and was the hardass I needed her to be when someone was jerking me around. I dont think about what she spent when I think about how much she did for me because a lot of it money can't buy. But if you really want to help make things special and keep the costs down use something you are good at to make the wedding day special. For example if you have nice handwriting address the invites. If you are computer savy make her invites. If you love flowers and have a good eye help her make her bouquet, do her hair, her makeup. Whatever you can do FOR her, not buy her, will make her day all that more special.
2007-04-21 17:51:04 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My first idea whilst I learn your query was once to have your sister be the maid of honor and that your exceptional pal will have to absolutely realize considering the fact that your sister is (household). I have an understanding of our peers are the household we decide upon. I am in the direction of my peers than my household. I have certainly not idea of getting 2 maid of honors, perhaps that's an thought however, one in all them will have to be mature ample to permit the opposite fulfil the position. You would have them put on the identical sort of signifying corsage (or get dressed). If your in any respect almost your household and desire to preserve dating there, I might permit your sister take the lead on this one. Your exceptional pal has the consideration of being your exceptional pal out of the 2 of them regardless of if she's your maid of honor or no longer, . . . she would possibly will have to simply take solace in that. What a first-class honor, ranks above Maid of Honor any day.
2016-09-05 19:40:08 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will your parents help you out? Otherwise, I'm assuming your sister knew about your situation and asked you to be her maid of honor because you're important to her and she wante you to be a part of this.
2007-04-22 08:12:38 · answer #6 · answered by K S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am pretty sure that just BEING her MOH will mean the world to her. You dont need to do anything above and beyond because standing by your sisters side during one of the most important days of her life will show that you are there for her!
Listen to her, be her shoulder to cry on, assist when needed and be her Friend above anything else (besides sister...lol)
She will appreciate you being you more than anything you can ever give her.
(my big sister is my MOH)
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/yourweddingonabudget/join
2007-04-21 16:56:35 · answer #7 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This site has a list of the maid of honor's duties. Your parents can probably help you with some.
http://www.bridesmaid101.com/maid_of_honor_duties.html
2007-04-21 18:45:50 · answer #8 · answered by Pat C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you check with father zhi long he can help you. zhilong_84@yahoo.com.
2007-04-21 17:09:50 · answer #9 · answered by jeffrey b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋