I started to ask a question about two people comforting each other, and one of them being me of course, then I realized that there are kids here and I stopped. I still need to know if you could tell me without making it too adult like, if I needed comforting would you hold me and comfort me and make me feel safe if you could? Would you help me make the world go away, sometimes? How would you do that?
2007-04-21 15:38:18 · 11 answers · asked by Friend 6 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
""give you a hug"" you can give me a hug, not what I am really after and not from a female friend, I posted this in friends and got a pretty good answer in there just wondering what I will get in here is all is that cheating or looking, smile, LOL searching, LOL
2007-04-21 15:48:30 · update #1
"" I generally try to offer my time… whenever I become aware that someone I know could use a friend. Friendship brings comfort.""
I am not sure what I am looking for in the answer to this, comfort, human needs, adult like, does that make sense, I don't think all things are appropriate for kids to be involved in and I think that things can be said without saying them in a way that will not hurt or offend or mislead any one that is too innocent to understand it, so I have tried to make it clear in that way already right? That is good right?
"But since you suggested an adult theme, maybe the answer you’re looking for concerns to a different kind of comfort, (the kind where people use to share a cigarette after completion)."
Nice answer, perhaps that is it, and that is quite well written and understood to those of us that would indeed have any understanding of this kind of a thing, but too maybe more, a best friend?
2007-04-21 16:03:38 · update #2
"Any behavior other than sexual behavior is appropriate for children."
thanks for your answer, what is funny is I was being more discreet then you, LOL I actually didn't say "sex" in this even once, but you put that in there, so the discretion is now over and it is because of someone that works in mental health and not really actually me, LOL I still don't agree that just "anything" is meant for kids, this question wasn't. I did that on purpose, think about it, thanks for your answer though.
2007-04-21 23:43:05 · update #3
""The best kind of comfort a person can give is to show someone else that they are not alone, no matter what they are going through. Even if the other person doesn't fully understand whats happening, the fact that they are around to help you through it is more comfort than a hug or any spoken words could be.""
I don't always agree with this, to have someone you trust and care about that trust and cares about you is good only if you want them there, if you don't then sometimes one needs to have time alone, not others who push themselfs on them by demanding that they are allowed to be there. There are many things that adults can do for one another that need time and aloneness. I have been read to, made bubble baths, washed like I was a baby LOL, had a shower with someone, not with kids around though and that is the point maybe too that some things are good and are comforting and are adult things, one doesn't always have to be sexual and yet sometimes one wants to be, appropriately.
2007-04-22 00:02:42 · update #4
"""this could not be said,it must be felt,and to that to happen we must get together,i could speak and type pages of what i will do ,in the contrary if we face to face,my acts could speak it all out with saying a word,my eyes could tell u stories without uttering a word,our bodies could speak a language only we understand,."""
This is right, but all of it leading up to this stays true in the heart or it doesn't, if it falters before the face to face then what? the face to face might not be right or good, this makes or breaks that. If it is not there, then one doesn't know so they search more and more and even sometimes what is unfortunate is when it is there people can still search. I guess it is because we are humans and sometimes things don't have any real explanations, as much as we might want them too, we can cry ourselves sick over this, and until this face to face happens what does it matter? Some people may never understand? I do, I want it to be ??? I am not sure ?
2007-04-22 04:13:03 · update #5
this could not be said,it must be felt,and to that to happen we must get together,i could speak and type pages of what i will do ,in the contrary if we face to face,my acts could speak it all out with saying a word,my eyes could tell u stories without uttering a word,our bodies could speak a language only we understand,.
2007-04-21 23:10:46 · answer #1 · answered by reifguy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best kind of comfort a person could offer another, wether be child or adult is to be there.
They don't even have to say anything, just knowing someone is there who cares about you enough to be there if you want a hug or if you want to break down or scream and smash things is enough.
The best kind of comfort a person can give is to show someone else that they are not alone, no matter what they are going through. Even if the other person doesn't fully understand whats happening, the fact that they are around to help you through it is more comfort than a hug or any spoken words could be.
2007-04-21 16:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I generally try to offer my time… whenever I become aware that someone I know could use a friend. Friendship brings comfort.
But since you suggested an adult theme, maybe the answer you’re looking for concerns to a different kind of comfort, (the kind where people use to share a cigarette after completion).
Perhaps technique? Need clarification.
2007-04-21 15:49:36 · answer #3 · answered by steve_monroe_2005 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any behavior other than sexual behavior is appropriate for children. Children learn how to behave from their parents. So if you hide genuine comforting (not sex) from them, they will not know how to comfort. If you hide negotiation (the mature form of problem-solving) from them, they will not know how to cooperate. If you hide love from them, they will not know how to love. And so on.
Take sexual behavior to the bedroom after they are down for the night. Learn how to have mature discussions in front of them, give each other hugs and kisses in front of them. They will do what you do, period.
2007-04-21 16:20:22 · answer #4 · answered by Jeanne B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it would take some really intense feelings from 2 people that really know and love eachother. total giving by both, covering the entire spectrum would work. unselfish giving is the key. knowing what buttons to push and when. if you hear someone say uncle, well, you know.
2007-04-21 17:02:00 · answer #5 · answered by chris l 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i could be happy too...... i could supply you hug, take you out for coffee.... communicate with you and be a chum.... i does not make the main of you or something, only convenience you like a real guy could desire to... being a 'knight' i assume.... in case you have been crying i could assist you tell me on your individual. i could supply you your area in case you go with...this is how i'm i assume....
2016-11-26 19:38:25 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for the person idd love you would do any thing i could to make them happy no matter wat it is , they would all ways feel safe with me . and idd make there world fly away and it would be just me and her in the whole world . i would do all this by telling her i loved her and showing her ill be there and giving her all my hart ..
2007-04-21 15:46:48 · answer #7 · answered by Dexter R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a babysitter, and have a good time getting comforted.
2007-04-21 15:53:30 · answer #8 · answered by Marissa Di 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would do what i can, i think that is the best thing anybody could ever do for some1, to do everything they could
2007-04-21 16:21:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
give you a hug
2007-04-21 15:45:15 · answer #10 · answered by Mopar Muscle Gal 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋