I need some advice?

Question

Ok so here is my problem. I think I am addicted to... sleeping. lolI always want to sleep during the day. Like I will get up at 11pm, stay up all night and then go to bed at morning.. OR if I try to be up during the day, I try and sleep all night until atleast 7, then during the day I want to go to bed still! I like my dream "life" better because in all my dreams I'm really pretty, skinny,
am the girl who all the guys are after, have an awesome and cute boyfriend, the works..I have no life though in the real world. I don't go to school, I stay at home all day and am overweight etc... I want to get out of the house but I have developed a social phobia of people. I won't answer the door, go outside and its hard enough just to answer the phone.
When I was in school I was teased and I had , had enough and my mom took me out. We tried home schooling but I just couldn't pay attention..So she told the cops I had ran away
and now I don't go to school.

Again, I want to have a social life but I feel trapped.
I like sleeping because I am somebody in my dreams..How can I get over this
life and begin a new, social life?

Answer 1

can you say THERAPY?

Answer 2

ok well i'm not sure how old you are but u need to take this in little steps. the sleeping prob is just a little part of the big problem, that being u ' dont have a life', as you put it, hence you stay up late, feel tired or whatever- that normal especially when ur sleep times arent fixed- it happens to me atleast several consecutive mths a yr- all you gotta do is train urself to sleep at a certain time and wake at a certain time, like 7 am - 9 pm, an ensure that u do it regardless of how tired u feel- that may take long but it works!
the bigger prob- u need more exposure. you may be over weight but u cant let that stop ur life, and thats exactly what u r doing by STOPPING school! so this may sound so predictable but just think, if u channel the energy ur apending bothering about those idiots who harrass u into schoolwork then yu'd be on top of them and who'd bother you then- we're talking in the long run here...
just start slowly, i'm not saying go back to school i know thatll be hard and hurrying but start back with ur home schooling. that way u'll be expsed to someone other than ur household members and you'll learn to communicate better with others, improve ur social skills while at the same time get a better foundation for the future..
and while dreaming is all fine, ur spending most of your time thinking abut an imaginery life whilst wasting the actual life you have instead of doing something to improve it.. you're gr8 just the way you are- if god made all of us skinny and pretty then who'd he have made with the brains???!! lol, just some humour... go to bed early tonight , k ?? u'll do fine.. :)

Answer 3

Maybe try staying up 27 hours straight and then go to bed. I'll explain. If you get up at 7pm on Sunday stay up until 10 pm Monday. Then you will get up Tuesday morning at a halfway decent hour. How do you accomplish this? Stay busy. Do dishes, vacuum, mow the lawn, clean the microwave, clean the refrigerator, etc. Drink some coffee. Eat some sweet foods for sugar, energy, and stamina.

Insofar as socialization goes take small steps. Baby steps. Don't put so much pressure on yourself to get everything done overnight. Friendships take time and evolve slowly over a year or two years. Just believe in yourself and good luck and good night.

Edit: Also, if you can't make 27 hours because you're too tired and keep falling asleep then you can make 18 the first night, 20 the next night, and split it up over a few days until you're back on track. Thank you.

Answer 4

Honey, a few tips & you'll be off: Modivation.

You hate being lazy @ home right? You hate being overweight, right? You want to LEARN, RIGHT!?!?!? Well, modivate yourself! Drink some OJ in the morning & talk a morning walk....I was & still am not a morning person @ ALL, but I tell myslef, "I want the clean & fresh feeling!" so I do it!

Prayers: I'll pray 4 u. I hope it helps

Hobby: That's one thing you need. When my parents ditched the cable, I had to find other things to do. Now I play football, basketball, read, latchook, write, sing, & play piano!!!!! WOW!!!

Friends: Though it may not seem like it's true, you're bound to find a true friend SOMEWHERE in this crazy world!!!! This is what I do to find a good friend: Smile & say "Hi" to people down the street. Act friendly. Help someone. Join a club. I joined a club when I found out that my dad & uncle got REALLY sick....I would secretly cry. Then, one day, a girl found me crying & comforted me! Now we're BFFs!!!!

Go to church!!! GO TO SCHOOL!!! &, most of all.....

GET OFF OF YAHOO! ANSWERS!!!! IT'S SOOOO ADDICTING!!!!!

Answer 5

Anna....start little by little. First by answering the phone. Then exercising and dieting. Social phobia is due to chemical imbalance in the brain so maybe you could seek professional help to get treated. Through medical help you can heal many things such as people teasing you when you were younger. But besides the meds you should make little efforts to socialize. Try to go out and meet new people. Do not worry about what people think of you. You have to build your self-steem. All human beings are beautiful and unique, so are you. I tell you all this because I myself suffer from social phobia. [e-mail]

Answer 6

You have just made a big step forward by expressing your feelings. We all need to do this and I can relate to the staying up all night and sleeping quite late in the day. This seems to be my natural thing to do and it is because I don't have enough going on in my life. It's called depression and I am getting help, therefore doing much better and able to get out more and do good things for myself.
Because you have been teased, it has taken it's toll emotionally on you. So, it is easy to just give up. You are much too young to give up on yourself and life. I suggest you start looking at yourself in the mirror and think about all the good things about yourself. I bet you are a lovely person. And too, think of all the good things you have and be thankful for each one of them.
With help, you can take control of your life. Start doing good things for your self such as a good diet, take good care of your body, put some make up on and see how beautiful you are. I can honestly tell you that the best thing I do for myself is to exercise. No, not at a gym, but by walking and walking some more. It helps our emotions as well as our body. We all need others in our lives and we deserve to be happy. Try making friends and find someone who cares enough to share with you. You will find you aren't alone. We all need help on a daily basis. Look at the situation and know that this isn't the way to be happy and you have the ability to change.
Practice daily telling youself that you do love yourself and won't go forward letting people beat you down. You are stronger than you think and things will get better. Hopefully you can get somethings straightened out and get back in school. There is little we can do in life if we don't get an education. Try hard to put this behind you. Good luck and God Bless you. Feel free to contact me if you like. Jan

Answer 7

OK short sweet and to the point (because there is an overcomplicated sob story behind it)
1.find the problem
2.meditate and find the answer
3. you aren't addicted to sleep. your sleep pattern is totally out of whack try low dose allergy medication with drowsy effects at night (i take them for my insomnia)
4.I'm not insulting I'm giving my honest answer. EXORCISE, and EAT HEALTHY!(you don't have to eat less to eat healthy) I practice martial arts (to lose weight and expand my social net work) they don't let bully's into martial arts( if by some slim chance they did practice hard and kick his butt!)
5. START OVER! go to a new school with new people and start fresh.

these helped my make a 360 from a VERY BAD elementary school experience

Answer 8

wow.. your story is intresting and honistly, I am not to sure what to tell you but I will do my best to give you some advice.
Socail anxiety is very common, and there is medications that can be taken to help this problem, I know several people that are on them.
As far as people making fun of you. You cannot let that get to you. I know that it is easier said than done. But a lot of people feed off of the result that comes from them saying bad things to you. And honistly people who make fun of other people usually do it because they are dealing with things and it makes them feel better to make fun of someone else. I think if you put yourself out there and deal with the annoyance for a little while, people will get sick of it and move on to something more intresting. The more people see you, the more they will get used to you and who you are. As far as being overweight, most people are overweight. You are not the only one dealing with these issues. I am overweight, but i try to have a additude as, you know if you dont like me.. dont look at me.. and I have tons of friends.. the more you respect yourself and are proud of who you are.. the more you will get respected. you need to put yourself out there.. .. let the world know who you are .. and be proud of that.. remember .. everyone has problems.. most are worse then yours.. one day at a time..Do something that takes you out of your comfort zone everyday..and keep a journel on your progress.. it will be so intresting 6 months from now, to look back on it.. and see the changes that you made.

please e-mail me.. i would be more than happy to talk to you more about this..
Good Luck....

Answer 9

Sweet one, you are somebody awake and asleep. It sounds to me as though you are hiding. Sleeping all day so you don't have to face the real world. Avoiding life.

Please ask your mother to help you seek a qualified counselor to get to the bottom of this.

I will be more than happy to "talk" with you via e-mail, but you must know in advance my only skill is as a mother and grandmother.

Try to get to the root of the problem and face it.
I'll be praying for you.

Answer 10

hon this is an issue. im no doctor, but id say ur clinically depressed, THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT!!!! honestly, you are sick and need medical attention, not doing anything about it would be like having the flu and just brushing it off! so, go to the doctor and discuss this with them. they can prescribe medication, or therapy, or something that will help you feel better and get your life on track. good luck

Answer 11

You are severely depressed. Sounds like your weight is really the cause of this. Diet and excercise is your best friend. Get at it. Join a gym geared for women only. If you need to talk:

http://www.onlinelifecoach.org