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Question

I FEEL AS THOUGH MY BOYFREIND/BABY FATHER IS CHEATING ON ME BECAUSE HE DOESN'T REALLY LIKE TO KISS ME, HE DOESN'T TOUCH ME ( NOT EVEN SEXUALLY), HE DOESN'T GIVE ME HUGS, AND THE WORST PART IS HE HASN'T HAD SEX WITH ME IN LIKE A WEEK IN A HALF( AND WE HAVE SEX LIKE EVERYDAY ). WE SLEEP IN THE SAME BED AND HE DOESN'T EVEN MAKE A MOVE. SOMETIMES I GET TIRED OF BEING THE AGGRESSOR. HE NEVER REALLY ASKS ME FOR SEX EITHER. BUT THE FLIP SIDE TO IT IS WHEN HE SAY HE IS GOING SOME WHERE LIKE SCHOOL OR TO FIX HIS TIRE, HE REALLY DOES IT ( I KNOW BECAUSE I INVESTIGATE). THE POINT IS HE ACTS AS THOUGH HE IS CHEATING BUT THEN IT SEEMS HE IS REALLY NOT, AND THIS IS REALLY TAKING A TOLL ON ME BECAUSE I AM AN AFFECTIONATE PERSON AND I REALLY LOVE HIM ( HE DOESN'T EVEN TELL ME HE LOVES ME). SO WHAT DOES HIS BEHAVIOR MEAN?

are baby was born on 01/06, so it probably could be stress of everyday life.

i also knew him since 2004, we broke up and got back together in 02/06

i also knew him since 2004, we dated for 5mths and broke up and got back together in 02/06

...and he also has attempted to be with someone else but i found out and stopped him, thats why i feel as thogh he can't be trusted. we live in florida but the woman live in west virginia, he plans to move to d.c. in the beginning of next year which is alot closer to WV. but evr since i found out he said he didnt mean it and he just wanted someone to talk to and that i don't have something that he needs and the whole 9 yard. so a couple weeks later evrything changed.

Answer 1

For me personally, when I stop interacting physically with a girl I'm with: it is the beginning of the end. Not trying to freak you out, but that is how I am. That is not say that your man is going through the same thing. He may have a bunch of stress on his head. Talk to him. Find out where you stand. Goold luck.

Answer 2

I think, you need to take a step back and wait for him. Be as affectionate as possible but it takes two. One of the things I have learned living outside the country is people here can be WAY to demanding, gotta be now, if something else happens , you gotta know why, right now. Once you accept things are out of your control, your stress level lowers. This sounds absolutely cold, but if he is going to cheat, there is not a thing you can do about it. Your hinted paranoia if it becomes overtly visible to him, will be an enormous obstacle. If I had a woman like that, I would kick her out in 2 seconds but that is just me. I hope everything works out well, also if possible, put out on demand, or even go the exta mile, goto his work and seduce him. Also go off the pill, studies show that men these days find entrapment to be a big turn on.

Answer 3

how old is your baby? He may just be feeling tired. Many men don't feel like having sex when they are stressed and tired. Maybe you should try talking to him and seeing if there is anything you can do to take the pressure off. he might just need to reconnect. Good luck! Hope everything works out!

Edit: This could actually be a good sign for your long-term relationship. Once he starts to feel comfortable with you he will not need to be so physical with you. On average, a married adult couple with children will have sex 1-2 times a week. Just a thought.

Answer 4

I don't like being the bearer of bad tidings, but, I would bet on what I am about to say.

He really doesn't care. If you walked out the door today, it wouldn't affect him a bit. He would just go out and find someone else, and never give you a second thought. You need to calm down, and accept the fact that nothing you can do will stop what seems to be happening, and begin to accept that eventually one of you is going to have to just leave and not come back.

He doesn't have to cheat necessarily, because his actions are already destroying the relationship you have had. The fact is, the same attitude applies in either case.

Answer 5

I don't see why you'd assume he's cheating on you. You can't expect your relationship to be hot 24/7/365. There are times when it's hot and times when it's cold. Give him some more time before making any rash decisions.

Like the others said, he could just be stressed out. I know when I'm stressed out I'm a completely different person.

Answer 6

First, if he's not your "husband" but your baby's daddy, he's probably working his *** off and is damn tired. Just arouse him until he...gives you what you need.

Second, relax. Calm down. There's a relaxation exercise on my blog at myspace.com/thedavezone because so many people on here are stressed the F out.

You just said he isn't cheating - so relax.

And switch to decaf - all those capital letters is going to keep me up all night now.

Answer 7

Have you ever cheated on him? Some guy dont want to with there woman if they suspect someone else has tasted their goods. Do you think maybe he us tired of you? He could have a lot on his mind right now and probably doesnt want it right now. Give him time and see what happens

Answer 8

Ow. x_x Caps.

It's possible that something is troubling his mind. I'm not saying he's cheating on you, but you ought to talk to him about it. Maybe that becoming a father is striking him in the head and scares him. It's also possible that the passion in your relationship is starting to simmer down into something more "stable" and less "I love you-all-over-each-other". It's not uncommon. But, you should probably talk to him about the issue.

Answer 9

I enjoy Yahoo answers, but I have lots of friends that I deglect, so I feel guilty starting new friendships over the internet when I should be calling and/or visiting the friends I have already.

Answer 10

He is your boyfriend/Baby's Father so it sounds like you are in a committed relationship. How long has this been going on? Have you tried to talk to him? You never know he may have something going on in his life that he needs your support on and doesn't know how to express it... just like you are not expressing your feelings to your man.