If you broke up with a really great guy, perhaps because you were confused when you were together, have you ever regretted breaking up with him? What did you do? What signs should I look-out for from my ex, if she regrets breaking up but is too afraid to tell me so?
We broke up over a year ago (she wanted to see other guys). I was a really great guy to her, and loved her so much. She was confused back then. Months later we got back in touch, met up and she immediately hugged me longingly and kissed me, saying it was nice to see me. I ignored her, and never spoke to her again for 6 months, until I contacted her again to tell her I still liked her, which she replied also she did. We met for dinner, which was awkward, and ended early without much conversation. I called her a day later, but she then ignores me, until 3 months later, this week, on Monday night at 11pm, she calls. I didn't answer or call her back - am afriad of what she might want?
Girls - what could she want??
2007-04-21 13:48:52 · 15 answers · asked by James 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Who knows? Sounds like she doesn't know either. Maybe she's looking at all the possibilities. Don't expect anything, but keep an open mind. It may not be meant to be. But then again, it may be.....
2007-04-21 13:53:25 · answer #1 · answered by nurse ratchet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't been in your girls situation, but I've been in yours. My ex fiance of a year & 1/2 broke up with me 3 times. It was a long distance relationship and that can be very hard so I kept taking him back. After the 3rd time, he did come back for a 4th try. I turned him down. Many reasons way but the bottom line: I can't trust him. How do I know he's not going to get "confused" again? Without trust, there is no love. People can grow and change over years of time but the core of what we are doesn't change usually. The person I am at the heart of me isn't enough of what he's looking for. If it was, there would be no doubt in his feelings for me; ever.
I feel you should look at it the same way. It doesn't matter what she wants. If you guys get back together, do you Honestly think she won't change her mind again? Especially since her interest seems already to be so fleeting as it is. Do you want to put yourself through the constant heartache to find out? Trust me, from personal exprience, it's not worth it. In a few years you'll see (as I did) she was right to end it.
I hope this helps.
2007-04-21 14:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by Meg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She finished with you.
YOU contacted HER after 6 months.
YOU contacted HER again after a further 3 months.
I feel she would be more proactive in contacting you if she really wanted you. It sounds as though she might not be having a great time with those other guys she is seeing and is using you as a comfy pair of slippers to return to whenever the going gets tough.
I really dont think you should return to this woman. I dont think she is a wicked person but she definitely doesnt know what she wants and she could end up hurting you. You need to meet a woman that knows what she wants ( although knowing most men, any woman who shows genuine interest will probably be rejected!!).
2007-04-21 14:12:51 · answer #3 · answered by Chimera's Song 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i am a girl dont mind the picture.
i have done this myself to a fella.
ok is it possible she was hiding something from you to begin with in the original relationship. broke up with you to spare your feelings for whatever reason and used the excuse that she was confused to explain this.
comes back a year later or whatever it is you said
convinced that she is now over the secret she kept from you
only to find out it is still on her mind
maybe she called to explain her erratic behaviour
i cud be completely off the mark but this sounds exactly like what i did
hope it helps in some way
2007-04-25 11:14:26 · answer #4 · answered by myprecious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, it doesn't matter how nice or loving you are to someone......that's not going to make them be "in love" with you in return....it could help them to love you as a person, but that's not being "in love".....
She probably just sees you as a friend now....hence was comfortable enough to hug & kiss you......she may also be a bit lonely [in between boyfriends] & was looking for some company.
If she was still that interested, she wouldn't be ignoring you for like a 3 month break, she'd be doing all she could to be in every place you go to......
I really don't think you have anything to worry about, She see's you as a friend now, so relax.....she's not trying to get back into your life......she's probably worried that you may try to get back into hers......
2007-04-21 14:04:26 · answer #5 · answered by Funky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call her back. She could want to tell you that she does like you and you could work through the akwardness after awhile. If you decide to have another first date start things off with small talk and maybe it will lead to bigger talk. If you still like her and she has said she still likes you there is no harm in all at trying to work through all this at all!
2007-04-21 13:54:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she wants to apologise for the way she acted? I would ring her back or text her and apologise for missing her call and ask her what was up....just go in with a casual mind about the whole thing and see how you get on. I really hope it all works out for you! Good luck!x
2007-04-21 13:53:26 · answer #7 · answered by zzzzzzzz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a girl but I will tell you exactly...she left you to go to bed with others...respect yourself, turn the page and leave there...be intelligent, how many times do you need to pass for the same???, with women you have to be hard, quick, secure...she is backing off again cause you are sloooooww to understand man...you don't believe me..? cool...I bet 100 pounds you will pass for the same again...worse.
2007-04-21 14:42:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What could she want is not important. Most important is what do you want. If you want to patch back, call her. If not, why bother what she wants. If she needs anything, she would have called you again. I feel that she still don't really know what she wants at this point of time.
2007-04-21 13:57:41 · answer #9 · answered by Ferris Wheel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably kind of wants the security of your past relationship, but still wants to see other guys. At the moment she sounds lonely, but eventually she'll be out running around again until she gets this "thing" out of her system. I wouldn't wait around for her if I were you.
2007-04-21 13:55:03 · answer #10 · answered by Just Ducky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋