Why doesn't the pull out method work?

Question

I know it doesn't work. I know there could be precum already there. But my boyfriend wanted to have unprotected sex. And i told him no but if he tries to do it again what can I say that will convince him that the pull out method doesnt work. He is pretty convinced that it does work. But I just know it doesn't....

Answer 1

Honestly, I prefer sex with a condom on; mostly because I don't want kids, but mostly because you never know what the other person has.

I'm serious! I'm 28 years old, and still have sex with a condom. You don't want to take the risk that a person has something that he or she can pass on to you. You never know, even they might not know; it's not a matter of trust, it a matter of being healthy!

Secondly, some guys, mostly guys who have not had sex yet, but pretend to have had sex, just to seem "cool" to their friends, will say something stupid like.. "It feels better without a condom". Really? Are they sure about that? I don't know about other guys, but I prefer my penis to be nice and clean after sex, and not have to wash off acid and sometimes stale blood from it. The same should go for a women, even though most guys keep their penis rather clean; but there are still plenty that don't!

There has been one time where I have had sex without a condom. I was home, and honestly out of condoms, but not really in the mood for sex. My girlfriend was. So I went down on her, and upon request; he asked me if I could go inside her until she would orgasm. Now; unless your boyfriend has Retarded Ejaculation like I do, it's not a smart thing to try. Bottom line, there has never been anything more uncomfortable that I've done my whole life. After I was done, I felt like my penis was a biohazard. It didn't feel clean for weeks, even though it was all psychological. The most important part is; it didn't even feel that great. It actually felt better with a condom on, because I enjoyed the worry free state of mind that allowed me to enjoy sex. What's the point of having sex if all you can think about (should be thinking about) is when you have to pull out in time?

Now, if you want to show him why it's dangerous, then all you need to show him that he can't hold it in, 10/10 times. That's a 10% chanse you don't want to take!

Now, don't actually have sex to show him this. I don't want to be vulgar about it but there's no other way to get to the point. Use blowjobs and handjobs and ask him to tell you when he's about to come. Now, you should have no trouble telling for yourself; so cheat! Remember, the object here is to show him that he can't hold it in when he wants to. Just as you see that he's enjoying himself.. "go in for the kill".. do whatever you think drives him crazy.. what works for me is the girl "knowing that she's driving me crazy".. confidence is sexy for both sexes.. anyway.. maybe something else works for him.. there are over 500 fetishes, pick one..

If he comes just once out of these 10 times, he thereby agrees that the two of you will never have unprotected sex. It can't be hard to get a guy to agree to these terms. And it can't be hard to get a guy to lose on these terms; assuming he doesn't have some medical condition like R.E.

I hope that helps. Best of Luck on this whole thing.

Answer 2

Simply put, men are usually too caught up in the physical pleasure to be able to execute the magic pull out method as planned. No matter what bf might say or how convinced he is, his execution will fall short and there is no going back from the second a seed enters your body.

If either of you had good control, you wouldn't be engaging in this risky behavior, so why would you rely on his good control in executing the pull out method?

Please discuss this with your parents or other trusted adult.

Good Luck

Answer 3

I got pregnant on the pull out method. It's not safe at all. If you want to have unprotected sex you really should be on some form of birth control. That would slim the risk of you ending up pregnant.

Answer 4

Because I have a 4 year old daughter from it. Precum will get you pregnant.

Answer 5

Don't let him force you into having un-protected sex with him. If he can't be a man and use a condom, you don't need him as a boyfriend. Tell him to use a condom with you or his own hand will have to do.

Answer 6

you can simply say no. he's not going to help pay for your baby. and if your dating a complete moron like that, do you really think you'll have a good relationship?

for your own protection you should use something yourself.

Answer 7

tell hm that it doesnt so stop acting like an *** and just use a freakin condom. give him an ultimatum. condom or no sex at all

Answer 8

One Word !
Vasectomy !!!!!!!!!!!