I want my gf to stop smoking, and how do I talk to her about it?

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This girl and I have been going out for about 8 months and we have fallen deeply in love-The only problem is that she smokes weed-Now dont get the idea that its habitual but what I dont like is how she does it-She already knows that I dont like it when she smokes but she tries to hid it and smokes behind my back-Then eventually tells me she has-The problem is that this has completely diminished my trust in her and now Im always worrying that she might cheat on me or something-Yesterday she wanted to smoke So she was going to skip lunch and smoke. Well what she did was she smoked in the morning with her sister and then went to school-I thought ok good now she satisfied-Well I guess she wasnt so then she decides to go skip lunch and with these guys to his house to smoke-W/O me-The problem is when she smokes she gets really horny-Well seeing how I dont trust her anymore i dont know if she has cheated on me-She is flirtatious and gets what she wants-I cant talk to her about b/c she gets ma

Answer 1

Bad relationship, understand and actual love her and you'll see why! The facts behind drug use is that its some great mystery that people ether or, or there not. Its a survival technique man uses to deal with the way they feel. Understand she doesn't like the way she feels and feels better on it. Not good because it shows she's got some deepseeded problems that make it hard for her to feel good about herself with out it. It could get worse, it could pass by, it could just be a one day thing. But the underlining fact is always depression. If your happy and excited being you, marijunana has a habit of making that suck. Now if your unhappy and fearful, marijunana changes that into the happy and excited frame of mind. This is a hard thing to get past, and takes a strong individual who has actual find away to get off on life. Which this goes into the old catorgory of don't get into a relationship hoping you can change them! If you really what to help her find out why she is so depressed and why she believes this is the only way to treat that. Just understand you not trying to get rid of the weed, your trying to change the way she deals with her stress. Drug abuse is a symptom not a problem in itself.... so if you want to help go that route..... if not let this one go, its a long road to "recovery" and maybe the best you'll do is stop it from getting worse...