There’s this girl that I thought I was in love with; we experienced our first kisses together. Things between me and her were going well. We had to split up because of circumstances that I’d prefer not to talk about; but I can talk to her now. & that’s what I did. I’ve been very nice and polite in our exchanges. But she is now being very cruel, harsh, and unforgiving to me, even though I was nice and courteous to her when we started to talk again.
I just don’t understand.
She continues to write back angrily whenever I try to talk to her (but not at first). That doesn’t make sense; I’m always very nice to her when we talk. She keeps telling me to go away; she says that she doesn’t want me & always rude about it. When I inquire more about her thoughts and feelings on the subject, she refuses.
I thought I loved her (I even told her I still feel for her and think about her). But she’s being very mean and unforgiving.
What should I do? What should I think? And what do you think?
2007-04-21 13:17:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dude, there are some things that we will never know about women.
It sounds to me like she is over you, BUT feels like she COULD fall back in love with you and doesn't want to. It's hard, but I would just give it up - she's obviously hostile towards you right now, the reason why is irrelevant.
And I'm not unsympathetic, I'm in love with my ex-fiancee, I think about her every single day, and it's a daily struggle not to contact her, because as much as I love her I hope I NEVER see her again - because I have the potential to hurt her, and that's something I won't allow.
2007-04-21 13:22:20 · answer #1 · answered by thedavecorp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of what the circumstances were, it takes two to make a couple. If she is uninterested at the level you describe, then it is very clear that she does not want a relationship with you at all.
As badly as it may make you feel, your best option is to respect her wishes and simply leave her alone. Anything less is simply going to repulse her even more, and if you persist, then, at some point, you will have lost your chance to even stay in touch, if that has not already happened.
I would say, move on. If there's anything to be learned from it, call it a learning experience and if you made any mistakes, don't repeat them in the future.
good luck
Kevin
2007-04-21 13:24:10 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it seem to me like you did something to her and she doesn't want to forgive you she whens to move on and not give you a second changes. But you feel like you love her so you don't want to let her go. It's hard because if she really love you she want to came back to you but at the same time she doesn't want to be look like a foul and that you can do what ever you want and then she'll take you back. I think only time well tell, maybe you guys need to be friends again first before there would ever be anything elas between the two of you guys, but it seam like she still needs more time, but she's not over you, so let her know your there and don't bug her too mush.
2007-04-21 13:34:48 · answer #3 · answered by superstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to be th bearer of bad tidings- ditch the *itch.The give away is the "she's nice at first then she's cruel"-- she stated go away, do it. Sorry but this is not even remotely a love situation. A kiss is a kiss is a kiss.
she sounds manipulative. Good luck.
2007-04-21 13:24:19 · answer #4 · answered by Queen-o-the-Damned 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Stop trying to understand. She's obviously hurt, maybe there are other circumstances in her life that you don't know about. Give her space. Do something useful with your time, pay attention to other girls. You can't make her change her mind about anything. Sorry.
2007-04-21 13:21:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's ready to move on. If you really want to try and find out WHY she is ready to move on, you're going to get these angry communications back. At some point, you're going to "ruin" any nice thoughts you could've kept about the relationship at the cost of only possibly finding out why she wants to move on.
Just drop it. Figure out what lessons you learned, and move on before your brain gets hurt. You're just frustrating her more, and that will not accomplish anything positive.
2007-04-21 13:22:18 · answer #6 · answered by Justin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you did something to break her heart and its not yet healed. I suggest backing off her for a while. If you didn't do something to hurt her then you should just remove her from your life. Someone that belittles you and makes you feel down about yourself is not healthy to be around. Love can be funny and don't forget that you can easily fall out of love as quickly as you fall in love. But are you sure it wasn't just lust you felt for her?
2007-04-21 13:25:05 · answer #7 · answered by Angela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe shes jus ttrying 2 let go of u. and the only way 4 her 2 do that is 4 her 2 give u the cold shoulder so she can 4get about u and move on.
2007-04-21 13:22:32 · answer #8 · answered by aquariusgrl93 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when there's not much i can help you with if i dont even know why you broke up in the first place, but if shes not letting you in, she needs space. its hard to let go when you care about someone, but if that person doesnt feel the same way for you anymore its something you have to accept to move on.
2007-04-21 13:25:42 · answer #9 · answered by shortskirtmakeitwork 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go.. No matter what you did or didnt do she definately needs space. You did what you needed to do and now the ball is in her court. Sit back and see what happens
2007-04-21 13:22:28 · answer #10 · answered by Sophia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋