My girl has a busy life, so when she almost ended our relationship because she was being pulled in so many directions, I said I'd back out and chill out and stop being so demanding.
She said I don't get it...that I don't understand she just simply can't provide me with what I want in the relationship. I'm struggling with the answer to that, but that's not the main one right now. We made up, and she didn't find any answers to her original problem of being pulled in directions, so very soon after, the problem came back again.
I convinced her to do a week break and think about whether she can forgive me for breaking her trust (ahh, another thing to complicate it), but I was so torn up about it I called her today to cancel and call it off for good. I THEN proceeded to send her an email asking for the 2nd chance again, and explaining that I love her too much to let things die like this.
This smothering is what tore us apart to begin with. Can someone tell me to be patient?!?!
2007-04-21 12:56:53 · 7 answers · asked by Justin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The art of patients! Aahhh...none of us seem to be very good at this, especially when our personal life is put on hold. Deal with your feelings and find your middle path, while you are 'exercising' these patients. You need to do things that totally take your mind off her and focus on rebuilding you, (and this trust issue!) Just stand down for a while, let her feel that you are not hoovering over her. Staying busy, like working out at a gym, running, something physical that will release that male testosterone and anxiety, will make this 'patient' thing easier to do. She will soon get her head on straight and then you two can give this another go. :)
2007-04-21 13:15:39 · answer #1 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you need to find other things to do with your time. Take up a hobby or get involved in something. She for sure is feeling torn in every direction...and you're not making things any easier by breaking her trust..by backing out and telling her you'd stop being soo demanding, then convincing her for a week break to see if she can forgive you, then call her and tell her you're calling it off for good, then sending an email for a second chance with her.......Smothering isn't the word that comes to my mind.....Major Confusion more so on your part than anything else.
Take a long break from each other...I'm sure she's thinking the same thing. You need to get a grip on life and with yourself. Find out what it is you're wanting to do with your life. you definately don't need a relationship right now until you can figure this out. I wish you all the best* Do some real soul searching* What makes you happy? When was the last time you were happy? what do you enjoy doing for fun? when was the last time you did this? What do you want out of life? GOODLUCK*
2007-04-21 13:07:37 · answer #2 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem my boyfriend smothers me too and i'm way too busy for that with work and trying time for friends and family. give her space. i miss my boyfriend when i don't hear from him or when he's outta town. i take him for granted when he's around. i know this and i still can't help it. i get upset and i am convinced i don't want to be with him any longer every time he tries to start an argument. give her the space she wants she will be back when she's ready.
2007-04-21 13:20:58 · answer #3 · answered by funny monkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man just realx and wait for her answer ,women don't like men who chase them around 2 much , and if u ever get back together just let her take the intiative more , just don't talk 2 her as often and wait for her 2 miss u , and let her think maybe he is not unto me anymore or he is talkin with some one else , some girls are like that , they hate 2 take the guy for granted .and don't beg any more , coz it would only mae it harder 2 get back together , so u have 2 be patient with this
2007-04-21 13:05:31 · answer #4 · answered by breakstuff 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt rush things....being in a relationship is being happy that she's with you and that you are with her and having the best time together
if you love her you are willing to wait
2007-04-21 13:15:58 · answer #5 · answered by Sandy O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure. Be. Patient.
2007-04-21 12:59:55 · answer #6 · answered by a_little_syco 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not with out smothering her
2007-04-21 13:00:50 · answer #7 · answered by survofgod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋