What should I think?

Question

my boyfriend went to spend the night at his "friend's" house (so he says) and he doesnt have a cell phone or anythin so i asked him can he call me and he said his friend dont have a phone in his house.....first thing that popped into my head was another girl....and i dont want to think that because thats my boyfriend and i love him very much and i have alot of trust in him too but i mean i dont want him to be doin sumthin on the side and then have the balls to say i love you after doin something like that...thats really hurtful and he said he would ask his friend to use his cell to call me and i havent received a call since he been there and its goin on 2 days now....what should i think guys because he's drivin me crazy and i dont want to have any trust issues wit him....

he had did something in the past by the way...so thats why i'm a lil shaken up....

Answer 1

Personally, I feel that if a guy is a real man, he will follow through on ALL of his promises....or he just won't make those promises. I've been through situations somewhat similar to this and my attitude now is, if he's making you feel uneasy for an extended period of time, what does it matter if he's cheating or not? Your relationship should only exist if it's making you happy. Obviously, there are always going to be minor issues but if you're not happy, find a way to be happy. Trust me, being single can be just as good or even better so don't blind yourself to the truth just because you want your relationship to be a trusting one.

If I were you, I'd relax and wait to see how he handles the situation. Generally, women who know their men well can tell when they're lying, but we often try to make excuses because we don't want to believe it. Just be calm and feel the situation out. Once you have a good idea of what's going on (trust your gut), make moves to be in a place that's good for you, be it with him, with another guy, or by yourself. You seem like a sweet girl with your heart in the right place...spend your love and energy on people who deserve it!! Good luck!

Answer 2

It sounds like you already have some trust issues. Do you normally speak on the phone daily? If you do, it's not unreasonable to expect the occasional call now either. But realistically, if he's at a friend's they're probably getting caught up in something or other and he's just forgetting to call until it's too late.

But if you are thinking so easily that there's another girl involved I have to ask: What else has he done to make you suspicious? If there is nothing else, then you're probably just feeling lonely and getting paranoid.

Good luck.

Answer 3

You already have "trust" issues with him. Leave him alone of leave him altogether. Even if he did have a phone and you blew it up all night and day for two days he still wouldn't answer the phone or call you and then turn it around on you just to tell you - YOU CALL TOO MUCH. I don't know what he's doing and I don't care - you shouldn't be caring either if you were more secure and trustful. Get yourself together and find a man you don't have to worry about. Good luck.

Answer 4

He's cheating. I went through the same thing and in my opinion NO man needs any other female "friends" when he's in a relationship. Cause there is someone always waiting around and there are ALOT of people who kiss there friends and do stuff and don't tell anyone. And in this day and age EVERYONE has a cell phone. Sorry but for real - it sounds like he's cheatin.

Answer 5

The answer to your question depends on many things .
How long have you been together?
Have you kept in contact everyday in the past?
Do you know anything about this friend?
Is this behavior unusual?
It is a bad thing to loose trust in someone for no reason and then sour the relationship.Keep your eyes and mind open and be realistic about any unusual changes in your boyfriends behavior. good luck to you . The bottom line is if your partner doesn't respond to you like you want and there is no good reason then it is time to move on .

Answer 6

Well if you trust him. Then you should not be worried. Mabye if its been a week and he is avoiding you then uhh I would be a bit worried. Try inviting him over, and talk to him about it. When I had a girlfriend and when I went over to some ones house and said I would try to contact her, I never did because I was having to much fun at my friends house. Perhaps its the same thing with your boyfriend. Ya if its been a week with no contact I would get worried because my situation my girlfriend dumped me after one week of not being in contact ( I tried talking to her but meh) then a month later she wanted me back and I said no. xD I am such a jerk.

Answer 7

A similar situation happened to my friend. Although, he had a cell phone and the friend had a phone. Something came up and she called the friend. Unfortunately, her boyfriend didn't tell his friend he was spending the night at his house.

He was cheating on her.

Answer 8

if it is really making u stress then break up with him! if u dont want to then ask 1 of his friends that u trust toask him some questions about that. u should definetely feel like u do bcuz something is probably going on

Answer 9

Do you know his friends? Wouldn't he call him by name, if so?

I don't think boys normally have sleepovers anymore....

If he hasn't talked to you in two days, there's something wrong. Payphones exist... And everyone has cellphones these days.

Sorry :(.. Don't worry you don't need him to be happy! In fact, he just stresses you out. Find a real man!

Answer 10

He isn't necessarily cheating on you, if you trust him & he knows it, he wont do anything to lose it. Maybe something has happened & he hasnt been able to get to talk to you. If he does end up cheating on you, you will know it, & if you do, of course leave him, because remember you only have ONE heart, & it only belongs to ONE person, someone who is not going to hurt you.