Last year in october my dad went to prison. when he turned himself in- he asked me to sublease his apartment so his stuff would not have to go inot storage while he was away. I did it. I have been paying all the bills in time, and keepingthe place nice. I had to have a roomate move in. My stuff with his stuff and her stuff is mkaing this place look like hell. My dad had some old furniture that I hate, and its taking up so much space. I want to through it out- to make room for the furniture that i bought/want to buy. By the way, he gets out in oct, and the building was bbought by someone else- who will not lease to him once i sign the new contract. What should i do?
2007-04-21 11:39:42 · 9 answers · asked by cocokutie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
sounds like heck there what id do is put it in storage and then when he gets out if he wants his stuff back he has to pay you back the fees or if you are still comunicating with him talk to him and tell him whats going on and see what he says first
2007-04-21 11:45:06 · answer #1 · answered by ibebarbie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your dad trusted you enough with his stuff when he turned himself in (by the way, great for your dad to that! Most guys won't do that cause they are admitting they did something wrong) so don't blow his trust by just throwing his stuff away. Write him and tell him what is going on, find out what he has to say. Or try to find a cheap storage unit that you can get it stored in, find a trusted friend or relative with a attic or basement that would be willing to help you out by storing it for you until he gets out, he will need that stuff when he does get out cause he will just have the clothes on his back and will have a hard time getting a job to get the money to replace it. Also he just may have additional suggestions too that you or no one else though of.
2007-04-21 13:23:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't throw your Dad's things away. One of the hardest things of all for people coming out of Gaol/Jail is starting over. As you have written the new owners will not lease to him so he has to find somewhere to live and furnish it.
It is only 5 months until he is released so just hang in there and save up to buy your furniture etc., when Dad gets out. This way you don't have to pay storage you know you are going to have what you want and you wont feel guilty for getting rid of your Dad's things.
Let your Dad know what is happening by writing him a letter and explaining your situation. This way Dad has time to think about what is best for you and him.
You need to remember you do not have the ownership of his property as he asked you to 'caretake' the apartment and his property. As fate has stepped in and you will be signing a new lease the aparment becomes yours. However,you are still responsible for caretaking your Dad's things as that was part of the agreement between you both.
It is only 5 months and by waiting until Dad gets out or he says it is okay to get rid of his things your relationship with him will remain intact.
Best wishes.
2007-04-21 12:21:24 · answer #3 · answered by sag_kat2chat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, under the circumstances, it is his stuff and he will need it when he gets out being that he can't stay there and I'm sure he wont be able to replace it very quickly, I don't think I'd through it out. Try storage, or do you have a basement, garage, attic...Unless you are in a position to help dad with furniture when he gets out......
2007-04-21 12:08:17 · answer #4 · answered by Jae C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All you're able to do is look interior the trash and notice if there is something nonetheless there and no remember if it is salvageable. then it is particularly helpful to have a communique including your father approximately what bring about this. BTW it would not take lots attempt to place issues lower back once you employ them or placed issues in a suited place fairly of basically everywhere. So keeping your room sparkling and tidy should not be that no longer uncomplicated to do. That it have been given so undesirable is because you probably did no longer difficulty to do issues as you went. And in spite of if i think of your dad went overboard, a minimum of from the way you're making it sound, you ought to evaluate that your room is a ingredient of his domicile, so it particularly would not belong to you. in spite of what human beings seem to have faith he has each ideal to take concerns into his very own arms while you're unlikely to preserve that component of the domicile he's permitting you to apply.
2016-10-13 03:33:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write your dad and explain what is happening. Explain you can not afford to store, etc his furniture and see what solution he can come up with. Ask him if you can sell it to a store that would buy it and save the money for him when it gets out. Just discuss it with him. Do not act like his stuff is worth nothing because it is to him and may be to a buyer.
2007-04-21 11:55:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apparently he depends on you. This is hard for you because you want to please him and carry on with your life. The best thing to do is ask other family members you trust to store the things until October. If they can't then yes, store it if you can afford to. If you can't afford to, then talk with your Dad, explain that you must carry on with your life, that you can't afford to pay for storage and that you will sell his things and give him the money when he gets out. If he truly loves you, he will listen to you with a loving and understanding ear. If he gets upset, then his things mean more than your life-style. I would then just sell it and hold the money.
2007-04-21 11:52:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is depending on you.See what he wants you to do with the stuff,He may need the furniture himself for when he leases an apartment.
2007-04-21 13:05:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep the stuff what ever you do keep the stuff
2007-04-21 12:07:49 · answer #9 · answered by aubry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋