Does that carry over to renting cars and renting houses and never having any guts and just a gutless person?in general or are you still living home and letting mamma do you wash and daddy paying your bills?
2007-04-21 10:57:57 · 25 answers · asked by Gypsy Gal 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Problem is that now, days people are jumping into relationships and dropping their mate just as fast. The courtship and planning of yesterday is gone. no one seems to have the gumption to stay in for the long haul. when you haven't invested tears, sweat, as well as joy. then what do you really have. our society has become one of disposable goods and products.
2007-04-21 11:04:20 · answer #1 · answered by lorianne 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not afraid of marriage. I like living my life the way I want it. Actually I'm quite selfish...I don't want to have to live my life to suit another person's needs. I could have a long term relationship with someone including a sexual relationship...but I would want my own space.
I have a great career, own my own car and am thinking about buying a condo(I live in an apt right now). All of that with no help from any one except financial help from my parents on my education...but I also got scholarships and worked odd jobs to pay for clothes and entertainment. I am 29.
2007-04-21 18:07:38 · answer #2 · answered by Stormilutionist Chasealogist 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can answer this for more than one reason, I am 25 years old and never been married and let me tell you why. Marriage is something big, And when you get married it says in the vows. through sickness and health, death do us part. Meaning the only time your divorces is if your spouse dies, or he is UN-faithful and I am not getting married to turn around and get a divorce. You have to pay more and do more to leave that person, and when you do, your still married in god's heart. I live on my own, I have my own, and i don't need no man to take care of me. I have three children i support on my own. And i can say i do on my own, so no it has nothing to do with my mother, supporting me. I am not getting married for the wrong reasons. When i get married i want to know that person is right for me! that is why i haven't been married yet. When you get married, you become one. And i am not going to become one with someone and miserable.
2007-04-21 18:05:02 · answer #3 · answered by vaz_1_n_only 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Uh oh. Sounds like somebody just got engaged, and is probably a bit nervous about it.
Actually dear, we know a LOT of things you don't know, but that's normal, so don't worry about it.
You go ahead, and live your little married, conventional life. Have your 2.2 kids and drive your little car, and live in your little house and you can die at 77 and your husband will die at 72.3, or whatever the national average is. Be bland if that's what suits you.
Personally, I've never been married, and have never been tempted to be married. I do what I want, when I want, with whomever I please. It's been going on that way for decades and will probably continue until I drop. It's great. If I was married with a wife and kids and a mortgage and a car payment, I'd be freakin' miserable. I've gone a long way down that path, but had the good sense to correct my error in time.
I'm sorry about sounding harsh, here, but your question was pretty harsh, as well.
Good luck with your life, however you decide to live it. Just remember that everybody makes their own choices, and maybe try to accept people for what they are. You sound pretty judgmental about a lot of things about other people that aren't really any of your business.
2007-04-21 18:00:38 · answer #4 · answered by DiesixDie 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
People are afraid of marriages because things have a tendency to change after getting married.
Many women is getting "lazy" not dressing nice anymore, or putting on make-up. She is "safe" so she does not have to work so hard to get the man to like her.
The man can start thinking he has his own little kingdom and start acting very bossy, drinking with the guy's as soon as he can, putting on a big belly and smell bad.
This is just examples, to put it to the extreme, but, this is in fact why people are afraid of marriage.
2007-04-21 18:05:48 · answer #5 · answered by Festblues 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Think about it: Have you ever met a married person who said, "It's great! You have got to try this!" I haven't. Most of the married people I know envy me my freedom, and give me a sour look whenever the subject of a date I went on comes up.
The same is true whenever I buy myself something expensive that they would want to get as well. They don't, because in a marriage all fun expenditures have to be voted on by committee.
I probably would have gotten married by now, however, if someone would simply pass a law requiring pre-nuptial agreements. Because it doesn't sound like many women would sign one otherwise.
2007-04-21 18:03:54 · answer #6 · answered by Ciaoenrico 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Eh, when I was younger and more naive I had no problems with marriage... But I've more recently gained a healthy fear for it... People change, feelings change, and perceptions of things change, a commitment to another person is an entirely different thing from another commitment in life such as buying a home... Not that I wouldn't get married to the right person (I have an ex I woud've wanted to marry had things developed that way, but I know that we were too different personality-wise, and focusing on entirely different things in life.)
To take on someone else's desires ambitions goals, etc. as your own implies a great deal of selflessness, one shouldn't do that unless they're certain they'll be able to keep it up.
2007-04-21 18:02:52 · answer #7 · answered by yelxeH 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Marriage isn't an option for everybody. Some people don't want the hassle of a commited relationship. Others don't want the hassle of going through the divorce proceedings and custody and alimony issues.
2007-04-21 18:06:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have heard statements like these a lot;
1. Marriage is an institution, who wants to be in an institution anyway!
2. Marriage is a three-ring circus, first you get the engagement ring, then the wedding ring and finally the suffering.
The cynics are in plentiful supply.
2007-04-21 18:05:42 · answer #9 · answered by Sentinel 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
So what you're saying is the person you've been seeing doesn't want to get married? Maybe you're seeing the wrong person.
I'm not afraid of marriage, I'm looking forward to it. I'm afraid of being a disappointment to my wife, and that's tough to get over. I just figure that anyone who would love me enough to marry me deserves the best, and I don't see myself being that best. I guess I have issues.
2007-04-21 18:03:05 · answer #10 · answered by Steve 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋