Do you believe that God has one perfect person planned for you? If so, would it be sinful to marry the wrong person? Please explain (and Scripture would be welcomed!).
2007-04-21 10:32:36 · 17 answers · asked by attacksheep74 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I do not believe that God goes out and hand picks one person for every person. I do think he calls some people to be single. 1 Corinthians 7:8 says, "To the unmaried and the widows, I say it is well for them to remain unmarried as I am." Paul was never married. I do not believe in the idea of God planning every last thing in our lives for his purpose. I believe he uses everything in our lives for his purposes. However, that doesn't mean that anything and everything that is bad that happens to us (loss of a loved one, abuse, and so on) is something that God planned. Romans 8:28 says, "We know that all things work together for good for thsoe who love God, who are called according to his purpose."
I do not believe that there is a "perfect" person. We all have desires that we want in a spouse. Perhaps someone wants a person that has a passion for music. I have a degree in music, so that actually is something important for me. We have different desires and wants and needs. I do think that God knows us so well that he knows who would and would not be a good mate for us and in that regard, we should pray before we date someone to ask for guidance. I do not think there's a single person for each person because that simply doesn't follow scripture at all. There are people that search for their wives in scripture, and some that have more than one wife. These people were God's people as well.
There are many people that are so fearful that if they do not walk a fine line they will miss God's will in their life. We misunderstand the idea of "God's will". We look at it in the regard that there is only ONE plan for someone's life. If this is the case, then my father was a sinful man. He started teaching speech and theatre, and then later went in to ministry. The things he learned in the theatre he uses in his ministry. He is dramatic with his sermons, and it touches people's hearts. Without his previous career, his ministry now wouldn't be half as good. God's will for our life isn't to figure out this perfect path that he supposedly sets for us. "Hear, O Israel: The Lord is our God, the Lord alone. You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your might. Keep these words that I am commanding you today in your heart." Deuteronomy 6:4-6. This is the perfect will of God--that we follow Him and truly desire to please Him.
A marriage is something that is beautiful. If you love the person that you are with, respect him or her, commit to having a relationship that is built on the principles of scripture, then you are pleasing God with your relationship.
2007-04-21 11:08:46 · answer #1 · answered by One Odd Duck 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, there is not one perfect mate planned for each person,however the bible does give very specific guidelines as to marriage,1 Corinthians 7:39 says to marry only in the Lord. So you should share accurate bible truths and principles that you live by.
It also outlines the way in which husbands and wives should treat each other, Ephesians 5:28-33 and 1 Corinthians 7:10-16 says that once married you should not seek a divorce.The only basis for a divorce the bible allows for is adultery,Jesus instruction at Matthew 19:4-9
2007-04-21 11:07:15 · answer #2 · answered by tirshatha2001 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man that is a really hard question to answer. When I first met my husband I just "knew" within my heart that he was the one. I did have my doubts, like any normal person would... In fact at the rehearsal for our wedding I had to fight the strongest urge to run!
But I still knew in my heart that he was the one that God intended me to be with. And I knew this without doubt when I was 18 years old. At the time I was extremely uncertain about my relationship with him. See most of our courtship he was in the military and always stationed overseas, either in Germany or Vietnam. He was coming home on leave from Vietnam and I was just so uncertain about it all. I had just read the book A Man Called Peter, witten by Catherine Marshall about her husband Peter. I was sitting in class and on the wall infront of me was a picture of Jesus.... I know I know religion in school! But this was 1969. So I decided to put my concerns into prayer and asked Jesus was this the man I was to spend my life with. Then I sat aside my doubts. Did not think about it anymore.
Two hours later I had the most wonderful glowing feeling seeped into my body, heart and mind. I just "Knew" this was the right person and what God in store for me.
Yes I do believe that God has a certain person picked out for you. I don't think there is definitely anything biblically written about this, I could be wrong but I do not remember ever reading anything in this regard.
But I do think that some people "think" they love someone or that they are just plain and simple in lust not in love when they get married. But it's not the person that God intended them to be with. In that case I believe that God didn't "join" those two people because they were not the person God wanted them with.
Sinful? No. I don't think it's sinful. I think it was previous mistake on the part of the two people. The hardest part would be if there were any children from that union. If there are I think they should stay together and work at the marriage. At least until the children are grown and gone. They have a precious commodity, their children and they should ALWAYS come first in a marriage. If there are no children and they realize they made a mistake they should part ways and they should learn from and grow from the error.
2007-04-21 10:49:13 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No one is perfect except the Lord Jesus Himself.... But as a christian, the Bible does let us know what kind of person we are NOT supposed to be with-therefore disobeying God in what HE says could lead to many dissappointments & sin in our lives
2 corinthians 6:14 ( message Bible) Don't become partners with those who reject God...How can you make a partnership out of right & wrong? That's not partnership, thats war!~ Is light best friends with dark? Does Christ go strolling with the devil? Do trust & mistrust hold hands?
I believe that if you make sure you are equally yoked with that person, you'll have a chance at a good life! God Bless!
2007-04-21 10:54:28 · answer #4 · answered by Fairlady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no scripture in the Bible that tells us God has a perfect mate reserved for us. Likewise, there is no scripture that says a failed marriage is a sin.
2007-04-21 10:37:41 · answer #5 · answered by AK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no of course not if you think u have a mate mapped out by god then thts destiny. maybe marrying the wrong person is how u came 2 find your true soul mate. my aunties husband was killed but then she married the detective they were brought together because of the incident
2007-04-21 10:36:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think so... i mean what would be the chances in finding that person unless they are sent to you... in that case I suppose it would be more realistic.. I don;t think it would be a sin to marry someone that you truly loved no matter who it was..or maybe thats why the divorce rate is 50/50??
2007-04-21 10:36:58 · answer #7 · answered by Candace C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i consider Granny. in case you get the perfect mate engraved on your suggestions no one will ever attain your aims. only circulate out and have exciting you will locate your suited mate once you least anticipate it. i did!
2016-11-26 19:09:32 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, God gave you free will. Whether you end up with your destiny is up to you. But He knew when He created us that we would make mistakes over and over. That's why He paid the price for us. This is not from the Bible, but, "To err is human, to forgive, Divine."
2007-04-21 10:42:16 · answer #9 · answered by gulfbreeze8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes and no i dont think its sinful too marry the wrong person
2007-04-21 10:38:37 · answer #10 · answered by Saydee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋