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Ok this is gonna be pretty long so i hope everyone reads through this thoroughly.
Well there's this girl that i like very much i mean i think i'm in love with her i've been trying to get her since 9th grade but now we're about to end our 10th grade year and i finally confessed to her friday night before i get to the details on friday night i'm gonna geto from begining to end. Well anyways we have so much in common and we're actually best friends.well everyone that we know thinks we should go out and we acted like we were also. I invited her to my house many times and we cuddled and she'd lay her head in my lap at night and stuff when we watched movies like she would litterally start at one side of the couch when it started and we'd be close by the end of it. anyways. On friday she was supposed to come over but i told her she couldn't and i think she took it wrong. My mom says she likes me and she's never wrong. but i asked her out and on friday night she sounded happy and everything

and we talked for about 2 hours on the phone about me liking her and she was happy and we shared things about how she said i should have kissed her and things like that.but on monday i ask her for a yes or a no and she has tottally flipped on me and everything she tells me that she can't and things like that and how i'm not her type and other bullshit that i just don't believe in any kind of way.but that was on aim monday night and at school that monday she was like i don't know yet i just don't know. But i think she's pissed at me about me not letting her over on friday at least that's what my mom said when i told her she said women say these things to make men pissed and **** and want them more. does that sound stupid? i'm not giving up on her but i just would like to know what's going on or at least an idea.and lastly today we were talking like we usually do again nothing is awkward or anythin' should i try again to ask her out or should i wait for a good minute.

I mean i feel deeply for her i love her scent her personality everything about her. I just dont know how to handle this we're back on talking terms.for some reason i just dno't believe anything she is saying i can feel it i know when someone is lying and the way she said these things didn't make any sense because she contradicted herself a lot. she also was like
but 2 years that's so long you should have asked me last year. i was like did i ask you too late and she was like almost but on monday i asked her again and she was snappy and said i asked her too late. she also used to talk about how she hated her last boyfriend from last school year but then she said on monday that she cared about him i don't think that's true i think she's trying to get to me.even she said herself that it was like we were going out already when we talked on friday night.I don't want her to drift away. I also feel as tho i should try again and try to restart everything over from scratch like inviting her over

Also i know she used to hate me with a passion last school year because i was a jerk and she cussed me out one day and i changed for our second year of high school for her lol.We've been growing up together and it seems like we'll end up together i just hate all this waiting.also when i was telling her i felt she was not only happy she even went so far as to say she was proud of me and she told me that i made her happy but on monday she was exact opposite

Answer 1

Hey been there ...too many times !!!

Hey Brother .... I am Married now with 2 girls ...
Had many times where I recieved mixed signals.
Your were smart to lay your cards on the Table.

It is obvious that she likes you ....
But have you ever though that she may be making some of her decision based upon advice she is recieving from her friends.

When you told her she could not go to your place on friday night... you should given her the exact reason why,,,,
That way your are straight forward and she can not assume anything ...or be able to throw this in your face.

Girls go through really weird mood changes when they go through their time of the month (Menstral Cycle) ...

Heres really really good advice ....Stay away and do piss her off if she is in her cycle .... you will get into an argument from hell ...and when people get angry ...sometimes they do or say things they do not mean.

Don't smother her ...play things cool ....
Your laid things out to her .... There is No doubt she likes you !

Give her some space ...she will wonder why you are backing off ...

But if ya Crowd her ...your only going to make a bad thing even worse. Give her some time to think things out.

But be aware ...she may be getting advice from friends who may not like you ...and that will work against you !!!

it is cool you can talk to your Mom .... Sometimes when I am in a position of doubt I have a very good female friend I can seek advice from.

It is wise to get a female prospective of things. There is no doubt ...women and men think differently.... So when in doubt ...talk to your mom or a female friend.

The worse thing you cpould ever do is give her an ultimatiumn.... Really bad move .... Thats forcing her to make a decision ... and when you back someone into a corner ...they are going to be defenceive as hell .

Simply ask her ...." Hey whats on your mind ?"
It is good to be there and listen ...be suportive ...that will win ya points .

But you have to explain to her why she could go to your place.... She may be feeling dumped or your hiding something from her.

And ask her if she wants time to think and you two be away from each other for awhile.....

I bet she will say no !!!

Good Luck

Hope everything work out for you !

Play things cool ...Be suportive ...
But give her a straight forward with her ...don't give her any reason to doubt you ...

or your going to be in the same pothole all over again !!!

Have a Good week end !!!

Answer 2

This is coming from a girl that was in the same situation. Me and my best friend were exactly the same way. We did everything together. The truth was I was desperatly in love with him, but I was just so scared that I would lose our friendship. He was someone I knew I always wanted in my life. The thought of losing him, made things extremely difficult. We ended up kissing one day while I was over there hanging out and things got really awkward for a week or two and then we started talking again and things went back to normal with us. We never did hook up, we talked about it and we both agreed that we did love each other but a romantic relationship could have ended our friendship. But we both always wondered what if. We had been friends for almost 12 years. Sadly he died last year from cancer. You have a decison that is not easy,,,,,,, risk a great friendship or always wonder what if? I will tell you from my experience. The what if is horrible. I will always have those thoughts... Either way it's not going to be easy, so good luck. I hope you get what you want. Also, try being patient with her, she could just be really scared of the thought of losing you altogether. Women do strange things when they are in love, trust me I am a woman.

Answer 3

Seems like you had her in the palms of your hands then you went stupid and lost her. And now the only reason she been this way is because she's playing you. Well she is because she knows that your possessed with her and she can do whatever she wants with your feelings and you won't care. SO first thing to do is be a man and ask her to meet you somewhere where you and her can talk. Just ask her what's going on and why is she been this way and if it doesn't stop hey there's more fish in the ocean or sea. She is just pulling your strings and knows that you will not leave her for someone else and you know something"SHE IS RIGHT". SO live with it.

Answer 4

She is testing you to see how you react. She is probably mad about the friday night deal but she'll get over it. You rejected her now she is doing the same. Dont let it bother you give it some time a week or so and ask her out again.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

After only reading the first 3 lines here's my answer.

Alot of women aren't worth the trouble. If she is exceptionally good looking, great in bed or you get along well...then ask her what she wants and give it to her.

If she's none of the above, then it's time to find a new girl.

Answer 7

Tell her how you fill and then take it one day at time.
good luck

Answer 8

Very confusing

Answer 9

give her time dude--u been trying to breed her?/ back off

Answer 10

I have eyestrain.

PS. Listen to your mom.