This is very strange.. when I was in a doubt that my friend was using me or not.. I have sent posts here and mostly people told me to move on and that she is a user. Now when I realised in a direct way from her that she is using me, I am getting all the answers that says I am wrong and I should talk to her.
Let me say, talking about a problem is not that easy. How can I tell my friend that " I feel ur using me but still I am being there for u bcoz I like to be used by u" I can tell that to her, right?
I feel the best thing is to move on, it will hurt me alot but I just cant be there knowing that I am just an available option to her, she contacts me only when she is bored or needs me.
Today she said when she had nothing to do she thought to call me but then she find something so she didnt call me though she said in a casual way but I felt bad and even I felt for a moment she realised that she came across as user.
I want to avoid her completely, I dont wnt to talk abt the prob.
2007-04-21 09:46:06 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Some people just dont realise what they have till they lose it.
I think ur friend is just that unfortunate person who is going to lose u.
I think u should give urself as well as her a big break.
Let her know what are you in her life, what place u holds, I dont think she will realise it till ur around her.
Give her a chance to miss u.
I hope I helped u!
2007-04-21 10:05:05 · answer #1 · answered by smile always 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you want to avoid her, then do so. That's pretty simple. Don't answer the phone when it's her, be unavailable when she talks to you in person. She'll figure it out soon enough.
However, let me point out that even a poor friend who uses you only when they have nothing better to do is sometimes better than none. You know what she's about, you know she only uses you when she has nothing else to do, so you can act accordingly around her.
You're the only one who can decide what's best for you though. It sounds like you've made a decision, so stick with it. Best of luck to you!
2007-04-21 11:14:22 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a total break from her. Do different things like not answer your messages. Call a friend and go to a movie. Get out of the routine with her. Even if you have nothing to do, pretend you are busy. Go to the library or to the zoo. Volunteer somewhere. You need a break. She will always be there for you to be used by her should you ever change your mind. But dont.
2007-04-21 09:52:22 · answer #3 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't sound like a very nice person, whereas you do, 'cos you obviously consider other's feelings. You seem to be better friend material than her so make other friends who will appreciate you. Leave her to find people who would put up with her rudeness. Life is too short for wasting time on **** holes. Good luck.
2007-04-22 05:08:38 · answer #4 · answered by Supergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel u should tell her how u feel and if she is a friend then she can say sorry and make sure it doesnt happen any more and if she is not a friend but a user then she will be outof your live and u can move on. sometime people take people for granted and maybe this is what ia happening here she knows u will always be there and if you tell her it might make your friendship stonger
2007-04-21 09:59:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to show her that you are stronger than her and that you do not depend on her. You should forget about her and continue with your life, living happily and doing what you like to do. If she asks you for favors and you don't feel likt doing them, tell her that you're busy and wait until YOU'RE bored to help her. Show her that you are happy and fine with your life without her and that you don't need her to use you as someone that she doesn't care about. Surround yourself with the best people possible- not the ones that use you.
Hope this helps:)
2007-04-21 10:01:29 · answer #6 · answered by Diamond 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend like this. The only time she called was when she wanted something. Eventually I quit doing things for her. I just told her I had plans and couldn't help her out. She finally quit calling.
2007-04-21 11:48:01 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think deep down you know the answer. I think (and this is on what you have said) she is using you. Clearly you are not happy and this will only prevent you from finding someone that you are truely happy with! I think you need to be brave close that chapter. (Miss right is round the corner!)
Good luck
2007-04-21 09:53:22 · answer #8 · answered by sweet chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should so move on and don't take her calls. Whenever she phones you are not in, you are with somebody else or you are in a party or something. You should have more self esteem and be more confident. Dont' let yourself be used by her. Do you love yourself that little?
2007-04-21 09:51:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
although it may hurt now, you cannot continue to let this person use you. it is better to cut all communication now, then to be hurt over and over. you don't have to tell your "friend" anything except that you have to think about your own feeling and not just be there to kill her bordom. be strong, delete her number from your phone, block her from your email. don't answer the phone when she calls. i know and understand that it is hard, but in the long run you will be better off.
2007-04-22 11:11:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋