yeah;; like the question thing up there, my best friend, jills boyfriend keeps hitting on me and all that stuff when shes not around, i always tell him to get lost, but he keeps doing it, how can i get him to stop without losing a friend or ruing in their relationship?
2007-04-21 08:52:19 · 34 answers · asked by (: ily 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
so he keeps doing this, but it will be when im somewhere, and i have no idea that he is going to be there, and it happens, and i hate it, but i tell him to get outta my face but he just wont listen, and i of course dont want to lose my best friend, i just want her to lose him! should i tell her all about this?
2007-04-21 09:04:32 · update #1
If she's your best friend then save her the grief now and tell her...say "I think he's acting like an asshole...if he does it to me, your best friend...imagine what else he's up to". He's trying to isolate you from her and trying to isolate her from you ...and that usually means he's a control freak who thinks he rules the relationship, and seemingly with no remorse.
2007-04-21 09:07:26 · answer #1 · answered by Mizz SJG 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should definately know. Because obviously if it's not you he's hitting on, then it's someone else. And I'm guessing that you fear if you tell her you would be "losing a friend", well what do you think will happen if she sees it for herself or from somebody else. That would be the worst, because then she may think you wanted it. There are so many more guys out there, so if you tell her, she will definately come around. Guys come and go but a true best friend is forever.
2007-04-21 08:58:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Their relationship is already ruined. She just doesn't know it yet. If this guy is a player (sounds like he is), then SHE has a relationship. HE doesn't. You should have a heart to heart talk with your friend. If she gets mad with you and sides with her so called b/f, it won't last. Sooner or later the truth will come out. When it does, she will come around and will be grateful for the friend you are and appreciate the fact that you tried your very best to warn her and save her from the hurt she will feel when the truth has been proven.
2007-04-21 09:01:07 · answer #3 · answered by Vida 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stay away from this guy.
With you or not he will end up messing things up.
Is there any way you can record him hitting on you?
Maybe when you know he'll be around you can set-up a camera or record him somehow asking you out.
Ultimately, she is your friend and she needs to know her boyfriend is a jerk.
Maybe you could get someone else to hide and listen in when she's not around??
2007-04-21 09:00:41 · answer #4 · answered by Don Quesadia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....you won't lose a friend but ruining their realtionship won't be held on you it would be all on him you just have to tell your friend...yea she might have an out-burst but she would get over it when she searches for some clues but the only way she will find out for her self is if you give her some maybe you can record him talking to you on your cell or pertend to be taking a picture of him on your cam and record a video of him the show her it would be over and you would stl have your best friend....trust me it happen to me before!!
2007-04-21 09:05:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling her maybe (certainly) would make her jealous to you and then surely you will lose your best friend for ever, step away from both of them for a while, making your friendship with her a little bit short (but useful) is better than losing it for ever!
2007-04-21 09:31:05 · answer #6 · answered by Ali E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell your friend. Obviously a boy like that isnt worth it. If he's hitting on you, he can be doing it with a whole bunch of other girls. It'd be the best for you and your friend.
2007-04-21 08:59:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend, if he doesn't hit on you he will hit on someone else or probably have. Is that the kind of person you want for your best friend?
2007-04-21 08:55:24 · answer #8 · answered by KungFu Ninja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your statement suggests you may be a doormat. You have to be more aggressive with him. If you just tell him to stop, but you still smile, he will think it's fine. You have to get in his face and tell him you are not interested and you find him to be a good friend but repulsive as a boy.
2007-04-21 08:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by fabrat1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should catch her alone some time and let her know whats going on. Yes it probably will ruin their relationship but thats his fault not yours. He knows what he is doing is wrong and he does it anyway. You owe it to her as her best friend to let her know whats going on. She already has someone she cares about betraying her....you shouldn't join the list. Best of luck.
2007-04-21 08:56:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋