My mom has let our OLD neighbor move in for the 2nd time. She is gay and it never really bothered me untill I found out my mom really cares/loves her, BUT my mom says shes DEFINITY NOT GAY! They have slept together and sent text messages that say things like-I want you/I need you/can I have you. And they call each other hun and all this stuff. What should I do...ruine it? Ignore it? But it really bothers me cuz my mom does not give me half the attention she gives her-and does more with her then me. What should I do?
2007-04-21 07:34:27 · 11 answers · asked by hilaryfan25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're old enough to type this question, then you're old enough to not need your mommy's attention. You're using it as an excuse to say your mom is driving a wedge between you and her, when it is actually you creating and driving that wedge. Let your mom be. She's an adult, and what she does as an adult is not for you to judge, let alone sabotage. If it were a man, would you still care? Be honest with yourself, and be mature about it.
2007-04-21 07:38:02 · answer #1 · answered by Mickey Mouse Spears 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is in denial. She is gay. You cant force her to beleive it though. I suggest you stay out of your mothers bedroom life though. If you are truely worried that you are loosing your mothers attention to this woman you need to say something to her about it. I would suggest a mother daughter day each week. One day a week were just the two of you hang out. Where your mothers girlfriend isnt included. Tell your mom how you feel (ignored etc.) and she should wise up. One day a week may not be much but she may realize how she is treating you and change her ways a some. Dont expect the relationship to dissappear though. Sounds like your mother is co-dependant on this woman. Quite possibly a result of your parents not being together anymore but that is not something you can change. Focus on your relationship with your mother and hope that she realizes what is happening to her life.
2007-04-21 14:40:42 · answer #2 · answered by Brian C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's not practicing the gay lifestyle, then I am not a guy. Ask her why she is lying to u, and your not comfortable with her relationship or the fact she does not pay enough attention to u. It must break ur heart to be in a situation like that. If your not comfortable with talking to her about it, then pray for her. There is power in prayer.
Blessings to u,
Daniel
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2007-04-21 14:41:23 · answer #3 · answered by Third Day 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to your mom about how you feel. She probably doesn't realize she is neglecting you. Don't try to ruin things between them --- it won't work anyway.
2007-04-21 14:39:13 · answer #4 · answered by DEBBIE G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen honey,,,it's your moms life, shes prob. going through a hard time.....just be yourself, don't judge..
you are a smart person because your seeking help....so just look out for her and stay cool......
PEACE AND GOOD LUCK
2007-04-21 14:40:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down with you mom and tell her that she is denying the fact that she is a lesbian and tell her to see men if it is bothering you, it would bother me too.
2007-04-21 14:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move in with your dad, or ask to leave and move in with a friend.
2007-04-21 14:36:57 · answer #7 · answered by Mark 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds to me they have a love a fair it sounds to me she hiding the truth that she bi sexual that means she love both men and women. that is a problem.
2007-04-21 14:39:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
let your mother be. she has a life besides being your mom. if she's happy then you should be happy for her.
2007-04-21 14:38:55 · answer #9 · answered by tomtom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just let her be gay
its her choice not urs
get over it
2007-04-21 14:44:53 · answer #10 · answered by ryansamuel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋