My fiancee is displayning a very odd behaviour. I love her a lot but I just dont know how to deal with it. At one moment she is absolutely fine and the very next minut e she has extremly agitated behaviour. During her moments of anger she wants me to pack up and leave an during her goood moments she gives me just the opposite message. Last time during her anger she got physically violent towards me. I want to really work out my relationship with her. Can some one tll me what is this type of behaviour? Just as a background, I did boother her by some lies and however for the past few months, I swore not to lie again and kept my end of the bargain and am doing that.
2007-04-21 07:31:43 · 7 answers · asked by Its me 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Trust is a hard thing to earn back. what kindof lies where they - unfaithful, old habits, seeing old girlfriends... if they were like that then it will be very hard - and you will have to work though it together. Relationships are not a one way street. It takes both people contributing to make the realationship healthy.
Good Luck
2007-04-21 07:36:34 · answer #1 · answered by tanya_marie_3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you two need to try and sit down to have a talk about the way both of you are acting. She could be acting this way for a reason other then your lies. You can try to fix everything by not lying anymore but there could be something else she is mad about. If she's accepting criticism then you need to tell her exactly what you don't like about the way she's acting and then give her a chance to tell you how she feels about the way your acting. If you both contribute to try and change the way you both are acting then things should go much smoother farther down the road. Since your getting married soon, you and your fiance need to reevaluate getting married because the way things are now, you guys are in for a rough road. The last thing you want to do is get divorced once you've made a commitment to each other. Hope you two can work everything out.
PS: Other than that there's always that monthly mood swing that all women have...
Good Luck
2007-04-21 07:45:28 · answer #2 · answered by Phillizzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds bipolar just from what you've described.
No matter what she might have, she needs to see a psychiatrist right away.
I hate to tell you, she is probably not going to want to go and if she doesn't there is nothing you can do. Nothing anyone can do.
The other thing, if she's been violent towards you--no matter the reason--you really need to wish her the best and pack up and leave. I'm serious. No matter what--never stay with anyone who is violent towards you.
2007-04-21 07:43:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder what you lied about? If nothing serious, I agree she needs help. If you cheated you are in for a long haul. That will take a long time to forgive, but never forget.
2007-04-21 07:46:42 · answer #4 · answered by Bandit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a new fiance. Sounds like she has anger management issues.
2007-04-21 07:55:16 · answer #5 · answered by Phillip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to be seen by a psychiatrist
2007-04-21 07:34:35 · answer #6 · answered by diannegoodwin@sbcglobal.net 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well violence is not good..she needs help,,but i dont blame her for getting mad at you for lieing. I think you should both get help,,but violence is wrong maybe she is bi polar and needs meds but you stressing her out doesnt help either.
2007-04-21 07:42:32 · answer #7 · answered by heartzz_ablaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋