I am friends with this guy and I am in love with him. no one could ever make me feel the way he does. I was talking to him on the phone last night we talked from 12:00 to 2:00 in the morning. and he wanted me to come up to his house and i told him i didnt have the gas. but what would we do this late. he said what ever you want. And of course you no what we ended up talking about. and i said "what about your girlfriend" and he said "she doesnt have to no." then he mentioned me going to his house tonight around 11:00 or 12:00. He said whats your exsuse going to be tomorrow. i said i may not have an excuse. i might just be there. He says he works during the day and the reason why he cant come down here during the night is he doesn't have a vehicle. I no if i dont go i will regret it. but if i do go how is that going to make me look. I need some advise. What do i do? We are both adults and are able to make our on decisions.
2007-04-21 07:22:58 · 21 answers · asked by alley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you should find out if he is willing to start a relationship with you or if it just a one night thing because if it is a one night thing you will be the woman on the side and trust me no one like the woman on the side but the man that she is on the side of and plus if it is just a one night thing your feeling will probably grow for him and you'll probably just end up getting your heart broken and your friendship would be ruined or you will be on the side waiting for him to want you again and you will be waisting your whole life waiting on him to want another one night thing with you so as you can see if you do whatever it is that you want to do there is no good outcome so unless he wants a relationship it is probably not worth ya'lls friendship and maybe one day he will love you just as much and yall can share it without getting yours and probably his girlfriend's heart broken
2007-04-21 07:38:17 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Young lady you are NOT in love with this guy. You actually are infatuated with this guy. Infatuations whether they be physical or emotional can only take you so far in your search for happiness. Real love comes with time and soulful awareness. This sounds to me like you are both very young and "Hot" for each others body... no more no less. Also the fact that both of you are willing to hide it from "his girlfriend" confirms everything I have said here. Proceed with caution and just prudence it's only "Sex" not true "LOVE".
2007-04-21 14:33:48 · answer #2 · answered by oldtimer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to walk away, this guy is willing to cheat on his girlfriend. "She doesn't need to know" should raise a HUGE red flag. What will be there to regret? He's with someone else and sounds like he's just wanting a booty call, do you really want that to be the reason he likes you? I think I'd regret it if I did it, not if I didn't.
2007-04-21 14:27:36 · answer #3 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy has a g/friend and wants you to go to his house and sleep with him. What do you think will come of this? I doubt he'll dump his g/friend and fall in love with you. If you do it things will probably get weird between you and his g/friend doesn't deserve to be treated this way either. You're just asking for trouble if you consider doing this.
2007-04-22 09:42:52 · answer #4 · answered by CUTEY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you should just go for the sake of love but have protected ;) okay ?
love should drive you crazy after all thats what we re here for and u never know where it may lead rite
so take care follow passions but take care of yourself as well as in i hope you know this guy well thats it , i mean to say he s not like a stranger is he?
2007-04-21 15:03:07 · answer #5 · answered by ashleo17 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all dont help him cheat on his gf cus how would you feel if he was ur guy and was goin behind ur back with her?not so good soo be4 u go over his house and "you know" i would make sure he is unattched. after he is a free man go for it! and good luck hope it turns out well! sounds like you guys both really like eachother!but be careful cus one day he mite be sayin she doesnt need to kno to some other girl about you. since ur his close friend try and thinkn back about his past relationships cus you never kno with any guy!<3
2007-04-21 14:27:42 · answer #6 · answered by rockin awesome person ;) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go! Tell him you don't wanna be his sideline chick. You wanna be his one and only. What is having sex with him gonna do? Just make him keep his other chick because he realizes he can have the both of you. You'll never get him then. Tell him the way you feel and if he feels the same he needs to leave his girl and be with just you. Besides even if you do get him he mite try to do you the same. Trust me!
2007-04-21 20:24:05 · answer #7 · answered by Babygurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a girlfriend. Stay away. You'll regret more that you've atually done it, than not.
Think if the other chick was you.
You get nothing from cheating but a broken heart and a sore conscience - trust me, I know..... it's a GIGANTIC mistake
2007-04-21 14:26:40 · answer #8 · answered by Felicia B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl Get a Clue!
He Has A Girlfriend!
2007-04-21 14:28:17 · answer #9 · answered by The Queen Has Spoken 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he can cheat on his girlfriend with you then he doesn't sound like a nice person!!
if he could cheat on her with you, then it just means, if you were to get together he would cheat on you too.
if he told you that he doesn't love his girlfriend anymore then this also shows that he is a layer and a deceiver and cant be trusted...because he is staying in a loveless relationship and laying and cheating against his girlfriend.
let him shuck his girlfriend 1st and then get with him
...OR
you could just use him for no strings sex but knowing that you are in love with him YOU will be the one getting hurt.
2007-04-21 14:32:17 · answer #10 · answered by Beautiful - 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋