...health, why should I do this or that, I think that way. I feel old. I feel so old to get married, too so I think that it is in vain to dress nice etc. and find a boyfriend etc.
How can I get over such feelings? Is it really too old for everything?
2007-04-21 06:45:15 · 11 answers · asked by sj 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
My perspective is this. Does it matter if you have 60 more years or or 1 more day?
Treat yourself with well and make the most of each wonderful day of life. It sounds corny, but that is as true as it gets.
If you are happiest single, then don't seek a partner. If a partner will complete you, then go for it. If you feel happiest and most confident dressing casual, do it. If you feel better dressing up, dress the way that makes you feel best. I can tell you that you will feel MUCH better if you do take care of your health whether you have one year or sixty years left.
And what is "old" after all?
Is it looking young? You only look like you are twenty for...umm... a couple of years! If looking like a newbie adult is the yardstick for being young, then that doesn't last for long and most of humanity is out of luck. If FEELING old is what makes one old then that is within our control.
Old" is being rigid and losing one's curiosity and passion. All of us hit old spots. But we can youthen again.
"Old" is very, very relative. I personally view people in their mid-thirties as pretty young and a bit "wet behind the ears".
And as a fifty-something woman, I can tell you my best years have been after my mid-thirties. And I feel pretty darn young.
Good luck, young lady. Treat yourself well, enjoy this one precious life you have been given! The "old" question may be the wrong question for you. You might ask yourself what your passion is, and how you can pursue it, and the question of "old" won't make a bit of difference any more.
2007-04-21 07:14:37 · answer #1 · answered by katie9999 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself why you have decided to miss out on life. Why everything you think of as living depends upon another person. YOU are in control of your life. Now, with that said, what do you want to do with it? Are there places you want to travel? Are there classes you want to take? Are there activities you'd like to be a part of? You should be very grateful that you're only 35 years old and can pretty much choose anything you want in life. The only thing keeping you from everything you want is you!
2007-04-21 13:55:36 · answer #2 · answered by clarity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thirty-five is really not that old. You have so much more of life to enjoy do it. I believe you should look for someone to be with so when you are old you will have someone to spend you're life with, you don't want to grow old alone. Secondly it is not vain to dress nice, it's just a matter of taking care of you're self. People won't see you as vain, they will see you as put together. Dressing nice, gives people confidence , you will feel better about yourself, and hopefully won't feel like you're too old to do anything. When you are diffinately not too old for anything.
2007-04-21 13:59:06 · answer #3 · answered by Aelyenya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 35? Oh, good grief. Well, that's your choice. If you want to believe that your life is pretty much over......you can live in an apartment and have 30 cats and when you die (which you make it sound like it's going to happen any moment) the cats will eat you to stay alive.
So, go on and consider yourself old. With that attitude, NO ONE will want to be around you anymore. You'll just suck the life out of everybody.
2007-04-21 13:47:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was in my second year of college at 35.
I was pregnant with my third child at 36.
I graduated nursing school at 38.
Just because your'e 35, doesn't mean your life is over.
Reminds me of my mother right now, My father passed away this year, and my mother is 62. She now feels her life is over, because my daddy was her existence. All of the children are trying to show her that their is life.
How to get over feelings, There could be several avenues to getting over these feelings, family, freinds, God, sometimes even therapy.
2007-04-21 13:59:32 · answer #5 · answered by Newt 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter whether a person is 25 o'r 35, there are people who have been in a relationship for years, since they were young but it doesn't mean they are happy. You could find someone anytime and be happy.
2007-04-21 17:46:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young, my dear. Most people today don't get married until their mid thirties. Maybe you should try some counseling with a good psychotherapist that you could relate to.
2007-04-21 13:50:39 · answer #7 · answered by Phillip 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Old is when you are dead. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Please try to figure out what is really bothering you because how old you are has nothing to do with what you are feeling.
Reach out and love other people. Be positive.
2007-04-21 17:19:24 · answer #8 · answered by groovy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
35 isn't old.
2007-04-21 13:50:38 · answer #9 · answered by dot&carryone. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
live the life dude and be urself!!!if u love her/him do it!!
2007-04-21 13:50:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋